Going back the other way????

[solexes]

So here's the deal -

We've heard from the ninth hell about men - who are straight - who are THINKING of going to "the dark side. :smile:

But what about guys going the other way!?

Lets say you're gay - have a boyfriend and such - but find yourself single -

do any of you think of going the other way???? Back to women?

Honestly - sometimes I think about going back - but - I can't bring myself to it --- anyone else?

ps> - and yes I had sex with one woman in the last three years - and it was hot....

 

[PaulF]

Hi solexes, Sorry I tried it once and did not enjoy it, just like the first time I had liver and onions But that does not mean I don't appreciate a good looking girl:smile:

 

[earllogjam]

Hmmm. It has crossed my mind and I have had opportunities but I just feel that it's unfair to the chick. The sex with women I have had was OK. I did enjoy it to an extent but it just doesn't compare to how I feel when I'm with a guy.

Are there women out there that would knowingly bed a gay guy for a one night stand? Would a chick find me attractive?

 

[D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn]

a better question would be: Are there any women out there that would date an openly bi sexual guy??

I'm mostly gay but i find flirting with women very enjoyable and i could so appreciate them not just for their beauty per say but for their enchanting and mysterious ways. I'd be open to falling in love with a woman if she truly accepts me for who i am.

 

[lightninggirl]

i have to laugh at this just due to my experiences.

i've dated and had sex with gay men, most of which have never been with or dated a woman before.

i have also had MANY of my ex-lovers decide that they were formerly straight and head down the gay or bisexual path. some have come back to heterosexuality after experimentation, some have stayed solely with men. today i just found out TODAY (thanks, myspace!) that the guy i dated during high school and my first year of college is now openly gay. i credit this to my hanging out with a very diverse crowd of individuals who were openly homo- and bisexual. i was put off at first if an ex-bf decided he would date men, but as i got older i realised it was never about ME. their lives and their preferences are their own.

my experiences with having straight men date men after they were with me OR gay men wanting to have sex with me has earned me the nickname with my friends as "the spatula." yes, we all know that a person cannot "flip" another person's sexual preference, but my friends all look on with amusement.

my first gay-to-straight experience was during my undergrad years with my best 'girlfriend,' jon. jon and i had created a 'girls night in' with a VHS tape of "all that jazz," some popcorn, and some talk about the cute boys that were in our classes. as we're propped up on pillows watching roy schieder prance across the stage, i felt jon's hand move from my knee up to my nether regions. i spun around and glared at him, and he put both of his hands over his eyes and SCREAMED at the top of his lungs, "OH MY GOD, I HAVE NO IDEA WHY I DID THAT BUT I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU BUT I'VE NEVER SEEN A WOMAN'S VAGINA BEFORE IN MY LIFE WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!" ... and ran out of my apartment. we began speaking again about a month later, but things were never the same. it made me sad because he was my best girlfriend.

so began a series of back-and-forth 'flipping,' as my friends like to call it. i don't think that we as mammals are 100% straight or gay as we can be influenced by going with what 'feels good.' falling in love is the same way.

to answer marluc's question, even after all of my straight-to-gay and gay-to-straight experiences (and in between!) i would not date an openly bisexual guy. i'm not sure why... i think it is more of a trust issue rather than anything else. i know that biologically, it's easy for men to get together and get off (usually, i've gotten off in less than 5 seconds before quite easily!) so i might always wonder if my bisexual bf has found someone male that he likes to sex up better than me. but it's a totally different experience to be with either sex, so i don't know why i feel that way. ????

 

[WildHoney]

I would date an openly bisexual man. To me sexuality means little when you are in a commited realtionship. Trust, love, affection, mutual likes etc play a more important role to me then who he is attratced to.

If he was everything my husband is to me, yet bisexual - I'd say yippeee can I watch? and can we all play together??

xx

Honey

 

[WildHoney]

Earllogjam - Your kidding right? Your delicious.....and you could practice "woman sex" on me whenever you like

x
Honey

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Hmmm. It has crossed my mind and I have had opportunities but I just feel that it's unfair to the chick. The sex with women I have had was OK. I did enjoy it to an extent but it just doesn't compare to how I feel when I'm with a guy.

Are there women out there that would knowingly bed a gay guy for a one night stand? Would a chick find mattractivee ?

Yes... doing that was something I enjoyed immensely. He had been with one nasty girl 5 years earlier... and then I happened. It was interesting and fun as a first fuck. We did it again 6 months later after I had been with another guy, but the connection I had with him at that point made it better than anything else.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

"Going back" to being straight or bisexual? I was never straight or bisexual to begin with and have no interest in trying it out. I will never be that desperate.

 

[wingnut84]

i would not date an openly bisexual guy. i'm not sure why... i think it is more of a trust issue rather than anything else. i know that biologically, it's easy for men to get together and get off (usually, i've gotten off in less than 5 seconds before quite easily!) so i might always wonder if my bisexual bf has found someone male that he likes to sex up better than me. but it's a totally different experience to be with either sex, so i don't know why i feel that way. ????

But you'd date a closeted bi guy? Maybe you say no to that too, but you probably already have. Your attitude and the many females who hold it are the reason so many bi guys have to stay in the closet. I would love nothing more than to be as forthcoming with my sexual orientation as I am with what I do for a living or what sports I like to play, but it's women like you who hold unfair and sweeping(albeit not completely unfounded) stereotypes who make guys like me have to hide who we are, at least initially, otherwise we'd get to hook up with very few women! Of course, I eventually tell all women with whom I have an extended sort of relationship (after I've made it very explicit how much I love females), but it still tends to be more awkward and uncomfortable than it ought to be, and a LOT of guys NEVER tell their ladies for fear of rejection.

Breaking news: Not all bi guys are cheaters, diseased, liars, "confused," "indecisive" or "just gay and don't want to admit it."

WildHoney, thank you, you're a sweetheart. :smile:

 

[earllogjam]

Earllogjam - Your kidding right? Your delicious.....and you could practice "woman sex" on me whenever you like
x
Honey

I'd be the luckiest man in the world if that did it for me Honey. :smile:
I think you managed to make a couple of hundred guys jealous here.

You really think I'm delicious? Maybe an aquired taste at best. :tongue:

x
elj

Yes... doing that was something I enjoyed immensely. He had been with one nasty girl 5 years earlier... and then I happened. It was interesting and fun as a first fuck. We did it again 6 months later after I had been with another guy, but the connection I had with him at that point made it better than anything else.

But was the sex good Kink? I'd think a straight guy would be more fun.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

I guess if I was just having sex with people, it wouldn't matter. But if I wanted a serious relationship, then "going back and forth" sounds weird.

 

[Bbucko]

Honestly, I've though about it, but it's been a long time (23 years) since I've last slept with a woman, and that was just a crazy, drunken friend thing. She was fierce but tiny and...well...didn't have a penis.

At my last job I was actively approached by two different female customers but it just seemed so strange. besides, even a dog won't shit where it eats.

 

[Principessa]

a better question would be: Are there any women out there that would date an openly bi sexual guy??

I'm mostly gay but i find flirting with women very enjoyable and i could so appreciate them not just for their beauty per say but for their enchanting and mysterious ways. I'd be open to falling in love with a woman if she truly accepts me for who i am.

I would not date an openly bisexual guy.
I used to think no way to a bi-guy until I came to LPSG and encountered so many truly nice, kind, intelligent men who just happen to like cock and pussy. So I have flip-flopped, I think I could date an openly bisexual guy if he were a nice person. i'm not sure why... i think it is more of a trust issue rather than anything else. It's the closeted bi-guys that concern me.I don't believe in open relationships. i know that biologically, it's easy for men to get together and get off, Really? Is that true or is that just what some guys want us to believe. so i might always wonder if my bisexual bf has found someone male that he likes to sex up better than me. Yeah, that was always my reason for not wanting to be with a bi-guy also. If you are both open and honest at the begining of the relationship about expectations and such I don't think that will be a problem.

Let's face it just as many straight men cheat as bisexual men. I wouldn't blame their sexuality for that. In my opinion cheating is a major character flaw. You choose to cheat, you don't choose your sexual preference even if it is both.

As I grow and mature, I find myself a lot more open to many things especially sexually. Then again I am 41 and single maybe I'm just horny and desperate who knows? :tongue: :biggrin1:

 

[B_Think_Kink]

But was the sex good Kink? I'd think a straight guy would be more fun.

The sex was good, he was very good at it, but with lack of experiance in the field of female sex, it wasn't going anywhere fast.

 

[Principessa]

*BUMP *​

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

I guess if I was just having sex with people, it wouldn't matter. But if I wanted a serious relationship, then "going back and forth" sounds weird.

I'm sorry to go off topic, but this Hung Jon guy is PERFECT from head to toe, the haircut, the body, and especially the cock. Check my other posts: I've never used that word before.

 

[D_Pubert Stabbingpain]

Honestly, I've though about it, but it's been a long time (23 years) since I've last slept with a woman, and that was just a crazy, drunken friend thing. She was fierce but tiny and...well...didn't have a penis.

At my last job I was actively approached by two different female customers but it just seemed so strange. besides, even a dog won't shit where it eats.

Interesting thread as I have recently been thinking *seriously* about this. Mostly dated and had sex with women pre-21 years but had "crushes" on men but was "hung up" on all the "faggot" thing so turned down some great opportunities to "learn". It has been 30 years since I had sex with a woman and it was not terribly enjoyable.

Since, then I have had sex with maybe about 5 men (and 1 very small statured, penis not height, celebrity), 2 of whom I had 8 year long monogamous relationships with (not the celebrity!). I have been "divorced" now for 2 1/2 years and don't really identify with *anything* "gay," never did and that is what made it all so confusing as it didn't seem like I "fit in" to any category. I tend more toward the "Androphile" definition of a man who enjoys sex with another man but doesn't define himself by anything else related to what is seen as "gay" by either the str8 *or* gay communities.

It seems to me that women are more receptive toward my friendliness and I certainly find many women sexually attractive. Women also seem to be more open and emotionally available, although I do think men are capable of this. Both can be fantastic gamesters but I think a lot of what I see from men relates to either competition or fear of loosing masculinity. Like someone else on another thread said, he feels most like a man when he is the only one in the room with a cock spurting cum. I feel more like a man when there are 2 cocks spurting cum!:biggrin1:

Certain aspects of female sexual response also fascinate me. Based on that, I recently conducted an "experiment." I walked into my neighborhood porn shop and walked down the DVD aisles. Although I paused briefly at the "squirting" and "trannie" sections, I found that mostly my eyes were drawn toward the men. Then, when I found my way to the "blue collar" m4m section and saw those big hairy forearms, I became as hard as a rock and started dripping precum like mad.

Any questions?:biggrin1:

 

[chuck216]

Interesting thread as I have recently been thinking *seriously* about this. Mostly dated and had sex with women pre-21 years but had "crushes" on men but was "hung up" on all the "faggot" thing so turned down some great opportunities to "learn". It has been 30 years since I had sex with a woman and it was not terribly enjoyable.

Since, then I have had sex with maybe about 5 men (and 1 very small statured, penis not height, celebrity), 2 of whom I had 8 year long monogamous relationships with (not the celebrity!). I have been "divorced" now for 2 1/2 years and don't really identify with *anything* "gay," never did and that is what made it all so confusing as it didn't seem like I "fit in" to any category. I tend more toward the "Androphile" definition of a man who enjoys sex with another man but doesn't define himself by anything else related to what is seen as "gay" by either the str8 *or* gay communities.

It seems to me that women are more receptive toward my friendliness and I certainly find many women sexually attractive. Women also seem to be more open and emotionally available, although I do think men are capable of this. Both can be fantastic gamesters but I think a lot of what I see from men relates to either competition or fear of loosing masculinity. Like someone else on another thread said, he feels most like a man when he is the only one in the room with a cock spurting cum. I feel more like a man when there are 2 cocks spurting cum!:biggrin1:

Certain aspects of female sexual response also fascinate me. Based on that, I recently conducted an "experiment." I walked into my neighborhood porn shop and walked down the DVD aisles. Although I paused briefly at the "squirting" and "trannie" sections, I found that mostly my eyes were drawn toward the men. Then, when I found my way to the "blue collar" m4m section and saw those big hairy forearms, I became as hard as a rock and started dripping precum like mad.

Any questions?:biggrin1:

Yeah... Who was the celebrity?

 

[lightninggirl]

But you'd date a closeted bi guy? Maybe you say no to that too, but you probably already have. Your attitude and the many females who hold it are the reason so many bi guys have to stay in the closet. I would love nothing more than to be as forthcoming with my sexual orientation as I am with what I do for a living or what sports I like to play, but it's women like you who hold unfair and sweeping(albeit not completely unfounded) stereotypes who make guys like me have to hide who we are, at least initially, otherwise we'd get to hook up with very few women! Of course, I eventually tell all women with whom I have an extended sort of relationship (after I've made it very explicit how much I love females), but it still tends to be more awkward and uncomfortable than it ought to be, and a LOT of guys NEVER tell their ladies for fear of rejection.

Breaking news: Not all bi guys are cheaters, diseased, liars, "confused," "indecisive" or "just gay and don't want to admit it."

sorry, wingnut84, i did not mean by ANY stretch of the imagination that bi guys are cheating, lying, confused depraved individuals. i've dated openly bisexual guys in the past as well as closeted (to me) ones. i've been cheated on by a closeted bisexual male but never by an openly bisexual male. but WAIT! don't jump on me for intimating that closeted bisexual males are cheating, lying sociopaths! i'm not.

i think that many people who are against dating bisexual individuals, whether they or the bisexual individual is male OR female, is based inherently on their insecurity about giving them what they need. and that might by where MY answer stemmed from.