Going for the rear... hmm

[aserghuil]

Alright, so here's an interesting question for everyone. (I haven't yet posted on the forums, though I did chat a few times. I hope this would work as a good introductory post)

19, v-card still present, though that'll only be a technicality soon enough. Location withheld for now.

I'm 5.5" long (6.5" if I lose weight, which I'm working on. I've had some success here), so I'm just around average length. My question here isn't so much with length as it is with girth and my plans with it: 6.5"

I'm meeting with a woman I've known for a while. Sex came up as a topic and now does so frequently, though both of us are waiting for the perfect person to lose it with. With this in mind, we settled on anal as a good idea. However, neither of us have actually tried it with anyone, so my question surrounds general safety tips and other tips for anal sex.

Things like "what kind of lube? speed? condom yes/no?" She's saying no, hence why I'm asking about this. We're both ddfree, so STDs aren't an issue, but the rectum is still rather notorious for carrying many, many, many different types of bacteria.

I guess all of my questions surround the (non)use of a condom. Is it possible to have safe anal sex without one? What tips should I follow in this case? If not, I'm fine with using a condom. I just want her to get what she wants, but I want it to be safe. I'm not thin, and I don't want to rip her apart.

 

[silvertriumph2]

First, WELCOME

From what you have said, I would assume that you both are virgins.
Your length is fine, but I am confused about your girth...do you mean
yous have a 6.5" girth? If so, what is the problem? A rectum
can take a 6.5", but you will have to be gentle until she becomes used to it. Especially if she hasn't done it before.

Regarding condoms....first of all, you are right about anal sex and the
possible safety factor. So, you're disease free...NOW...and she says
she is too....well, I would not take the chance. It would be prudent
to use a condom. Better safe than sorry!

Why is she so against using a condom in the first place? If she is a
virgin, how does she know she would not like using one? It sounds
strange to me. And, why are you letting her dictate to
you about your safety.

Her ass hole is very close to her vagina, and although you might think
that you are being very careful when not using a condom, any of your
pre-cum that comes out can contain just enough sperm to do the dirty
deed...without you even being aware of it. Those little buggers can
be real sneaky and real fast!!! And, that is just pre-cum, we aren't
even talking about the real stuff!

I would tell her condom or no sex! It's your life too!

 

[aserghuil]

First, WELCOME

From what you have said, I would assume that you both are virgins.
Your length is fine, but I am confused about your girth...do you mean
yous have a 6.5" girth? If so, what is the problem? A rectum
can take a 6.5", but you will have to be gentle until she becomes used to it. Especially if she hasn't done it before.

Regarding condoms....first of all, you are right about anal sex and the
possible safety factor. So, you're disease free...NOW...and she says
she is too....well, I would not take the chance. It would be prudent
to use a condom. Better safe than sorry!

Why is she so against using a condom in the first place? If she is a
virgin, how does she know she would not like using one? It sounds
strange to me. And, why are you letting her dictate to
you about your safety.

Her ass hole is very close to her vagina, and although you might think
that you are being very careful when not using a condom, any of your
pre-cum that comes out can contain just enough sperm to do the dirty
deed...without you even being aware of it. Those little buggers can
be real sneaky and real fast!!! And, that is just pre-cum, we aren't
even talking about the real stuff!

I would tell her condom or no sex! It's your life too!

Right, right. I checked with a number of people in the chat today and they had the same idea regarding condom use, so that's the way I'll go.

Good tips overall. Thanks for the help.