going off sex

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my girlfriend has told me that she is scared of sex because it hurts her. ive suggested that we get lube etc but she says shes that scared of it she doesnt feel sexual at all. she feel she doest want sex at all or want to be touched.

any help would be apprecaited

 

[GoneA]

Sounds like there are deeper issues at hand than just "not wanting sex."

 

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Originally posted by GoneA@Oct 26 2005, 11:09 PM
Sounds like there are deeper issues at hand than just "not wanting sex."

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i think its cos im too big. she said sex has always hurt her. it doesnt help when she wont go to a doc to see if theres a illness or w/e

 

[GoneA]

Your absolutely right, actually.

But it sounds like a more 'psychological' issue, that is, on her behalf.

 

[kurios]

Sounds like it is time to move on................................

 

[xris]

'Sounds like it is time to move on........' thats crude!
I have a similar problem, yet there is no way i would leave my g/f.
like you, my g/f is embarised of doctors, especialy a gynaecologist.
if someone finds sex painful they tense up, get stressed, get tighter and loose labido completly, and then get even more stressed that things are getting worse. its an evil circle. it must be broken.
I've been dealing with this problem for a while now and we're only just getting results.
you want some tips; we'll dont make it all about you. if she does ever get in the mood, let her enjoy it and dont even bring up sex, make it all about her pleasure not about you getting it in and she may start enjoying it and regain that lost labido. take things slowly.