Going on a date with someone you're not really into

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So, this Friday I'm going on a date with someone I'm not really into. But for a year he kept asking me to meet him. And he always asked me, "Don't you want to give a chance to yourself to get to know me first?" So, I finally agree, hoping to see what the fuss is about. I always read in LPSG stories of how you were not really into a guy and then when he kept being persistent, you agreed and finally fell in love with him. So, I would like to see if I could have the same story.

Do you always do this? Did it turn out good, bad? Did you end up in a relationship with the guy? If you did, what made you start falling in love with him?
 

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Alot of times I would go on dates, wouldnt be into the guy, and would let him know. Sometimes was into him enough for some sex, and then thats it. If you would be seen in public with him would you let him suck you in private?
 

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so, this friday i'm going on a date with someone i'm not really into. But for a year he kept asking me to meet him. And he always asked me, "don't you want to give a chance to yourself to get to know me first?" so, i finally agree, hoping to see what the fuss is about. I always read in lpsg stories of how you were not really into a guy and then when he kept being persistent, you agreed and finally fell in love with him. So, i would like to see if i could have the same story.

Do you always do this? Did it turn out good, bad? Did you end up in a relationship with the guy? If you did, what made you start falling in love with him?


don't do it
 

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Don't go on a date. Just be friends. But likely that won't work if he's really into you already. I don't think that really works. True I have met people that I didn't think I would like at first, but then saw them through new eyes after shared experiences, or enough familiarity. But if he's already turning you off (beggars turn me off!) it likely won't change.
 

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I think honesty is the best policy. You didn't state if you had the opportunity to hang out with him as a friend, whether one-on-one or in a group situation. Often those opportunities would provide you insight to see if there were any similarities, interests or hobbies that were shared, in which you could get to know him better. But I wouldn't lead him, by going on a "date", as that implies romantic possibilities, that may never develope. I would approach it and say that you would only like to get together as friends - a group gathering would be best, to minimize any ackward times where conversation might lull, and keep the energy level high and light - also there is safety in numbers. If you do go on a group outting - don't share with others in the group that you're not into the guy, as that is bound to get back to him - but rather you'd like to invite a new friend into the group as an opportunity to get to know him better and see how he handles social situations.

Just my two cents - Kiltiesf
 

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Dear kiltiesf, I have never thought to do it that way! But it is too late. It's happening tonight. I can't just cancel on him or I'd look like an asshole.

Also he doesn't really strike me as a beggar, just really persistent.
 

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Ill say this. . He obviously digs you . so, there is that. . . but, if you do not feel like that towards him, be honest. It sucks to be rejected. . But I think it would suck more to know someone was dishonest with me, and himself.

Mr. Slave.
 

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Thanks to your advice, I followed it and I was honest with him, and he was disappointed, but a bit angry about why I agreed in the first place. My decision kinda bit me back. Well, lessons learned.