going out alone?

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this past weekend I was SO tempted to just go to a gay bar.
I didn't though because I'm always insecure about being out alone.
i'm just curious if any of you have had that feeling in the past and if were able to push through it and how...

(now i have in the past gone out alone but the entire time was awkward AF and I'd end up leaving early)
 

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From the time I was able to go to the bars— gay ones that is.. I went all the time just to mingle around n meet guys.. for the sole purpose for sex.. sometimes went to restroom stall.. sometimes out in back of alley behind the bar..

It would be amazing how many guys were out there getting blowjobs and fucking ..there were times I just went to back of the alley see what was going on and join in.. I topped a few but bottomed for more ..

As for bath houses .. I went to first one when I was 20.. a friend took me with him and he was shocked at how open I was about being naked ( towel wrapped around my waist at first ..

But like the bar scene there are gay bath houses and straight ones .. as some straight men don’t like other men looking at them..


One place was two floors high and had regular sized rooms on bottom floor but on second floor if you wanted to be alone with others that you “arrange to meet “ could be together and do whatever .. I spent a lot of money renting them rooms ( and whoever met me there chipped in as well ) —

But everything has a good and bad side as there’s always assholes waiting to ruin your time by being gay bashers and all..

I’ve learned there’s places for everything back then.. not so sure about today.. bondage .. basic to extreme .. spanking and so on..
 

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Depends on the bar and the night. If it’s a neighborhood bar just stopping in for a beer, there are probably other guys there alone. I came of age before smart phones and apps. I would go to the bars alone most Friday and Saturday nights with the intention of finding a hookup. Nowadays it seems that many of the guys at the bars are also on Grindr simultaneously. It makes it easier to find guys that are looking to meet people, even if they’re out with a group of friends.
 

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I think the first bar I went to was a straight bar.. Even a few of the “ straight “ guys were looking at me and couple other guys in there I knew were gay.. one guy was there.. his name as Travis .. was there alone.. no girlfriend or wife there with him and music would play and they’d get up there alone just dancing around..( country music—- touch hehe)
Travis came closer to me and he was just slowly moving around and suddenly it went to a soft song .. I went to walk away as I knew he wouldn’t want to dance with a guy..

He grabbed back of my shirt pulled me closer to him .. wrapped his arms around me and asked if he had any problems dancing with a straight guy.. I said no..
But I didn’t know if he had trouble dancing with a gay guy..

And I looked around and we were being watched and he says fuck them.. he knew his sexual preference and if people don’t like it they can go to other side of room..


I laid my head on his shoulder and actually relaxed and felt safe with him .. and he whispered in my ear how he always wanted to dance with a man but people were so hooked up on if two men danced together it made them gay..

I told him he can come to my place any time and dance all he wanted .. and that I wouldn’t try to have sex with him .. as I enjoyed dancing with straight men that I could trust and he knew he can trust …


We became friends that night and have been for years


But after that I stayed with gay bars and dance and took shirt off and rub sweaty body next to another guys sweaty body ..

One night did that and we started kissing on the floor and he slid his hands down back of my pants grabbing my cheeks .. we got kicked out for that.. I didn’t know he was going to do that..
But I said outside fuck it.. went to my place and finished our dance hehe


I guess not being shy and able to be free to be who I am has made me kind of not afraid of the world around me.. I’ve had to defend myself couple times.. then they realized not all gay men are wimps ..


Just go out little by little and when alone with someone and all just let them know you been out of the loop for while and wanted to get back in to enjoying life again