going out with someone in porn

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  1. kc2007

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    I didn't know where to put this thread but since it's really to everyone, this would be as good as any. I was just wondering what people thought about going out with or marrying someone in porn. I don't mean someone who's made a few photos or done some amateur stuff with willing partners (ie:this site and others). I mean full-blown hardcore porn for cash. And I don't mean the old days of porn (90's and earlier is old for me) where there were a few major stars who were like celebrities. Now days porn is much different than it used to be , it seems like thousands of people are willing to do just about anything for a few bucks on cam with full disclosure of identity. I used to watch porn to get aroused and wank, now I do it almost more for shock and curiosity. I mean all these faces and body parts don't really seem like real people any more.
    It is really that much different than prostitution? How would people feel if they were marrying an ex-whore?
    Now I realize most people don't analyze porn this much because if they did, they most likely wouldn't do it, but there are a lot a young (and dumb) people out there who probably don't realize what they're doing to their futures. Sure, there's a chance no one will ever see it, but a also a chance someone will.
    So back to my original question, how would you feel if you found out your significant other was a girl from "spread open sluts" ....or for the ladies, your boyfriend was a regular on "milf gang bang brothers"?
    For me, at first it seems like an excellent fantasy to do some hot porn princess with a tight bod, but if I ever got serious with one I don't think I could live with her past...and I'm a pretty open minded guy. I would always be searching out her movies and probably become jealous. No one really wants to hear about their lover's past, let alone see it documented on video.
    I'm fascinated with porn on many levels, but are these people basically deciding they never want a "normal" life and have embraced a full life of sexual Hedonism? Or are they going to be regretting those choking blowjobs they gave and hoping their new sweet boyfriend/husband/kids doesn't stumble upon them one day.
    Thanks for your responses.
     
  2. D_Marazion Analdouche

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    The closest I can come to this is that I dated a few dancers in my early 20s, I was ok with it but at the sametime at 23 I wasn't looking to get marrid. I am not sure I could date someone that was "still in the business". But if it was their past I could look beyond it. Call me crazy but I do have faith in the right relationships and that you can focus on what someone is offering you in the now and not what they did in the past. There is a big difference between having an open relationship and your partner screwing people for money while you're involved.

    This may sound silly as well but I think the type of porn may have something to do with it also. Meaning a typical porn that isn't degrading to women versus barnyardteenhotties.com (I don't know if that's a site it just popped in my head heh). To me there is, for the lack of a better word, classy porn. If I'm into someone and they are into me I could care less what other people think if they recognize her.

    I've done a lot of things in my youth that I am not all that proud of so who am I to judge?
     
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    I know lots of people in that industry thanks to an old friend entering it, and must say, I would never do porn or marry someone in that scene. And that's coming from someone who enjoys watching it, even the more hardcore extreme stuff.

    Many of those pornstars prefer vanilla missionary positions with their husbands because, well, they get pounded hard day after day, and need the slow, passionate love that we all do.

    Also, many porn "stars" are just flat out ugly. Sure they look good for the camera, but trust me, without makeup they are pretty scary. I wish I still had the picture of Havana Ginger without her makeup. I think that right there could turn off a lot of people to porn!

    Also, there is the issue of drugs. Sure, I love recreational drug use as much as the next guy...but these people take it to the level of "crackhead". Everyone I know in porn who has left the industry has left to go to rehab.

    edit: Now, watch me get a bunch of hate mail for this post calling me misogynistic or accusing me of making blanket statements and a whole bunch of other shit.
     
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    Havana Ginger? Never heard of her... but of course you know i checked it out. I DONT know what she looks like without makeup.....but she is fine with it.... what a set of nipples....and I have a thing for that physical type...that complexion and long black hair.... Dude...shes fine.
     
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    Hell yeah she's fucking fine. But it's like a different person once you wipe the shit off her face haha. Nevertheless, I love her movies. Those nipples of hers rock
     
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    LOL, actually one of the richest men in Denmark has just cancelled his wedding with a tall, big-chested girl. Apparently she was a full-time whore until they met. She just didn't remember to tell him. (or did she?)

    But after two weeks where their breakup have been one of the top stories in the tabloids, they are back together - apparently the sex was simply to good to stay away from - so now she might get married to a billionaire after all.
     
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    It isnt right to judge but i don't think i could ever be in a relationship or sleep with a porn star. I would be to concerned with the amount of people they have slept with and the risk of catching disease, ive seen to many porno's with unprotected sex. And also i would have an issue with somebody who is willing to sell themselves for money
     
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    Not sure why but the name Anna Nicole Smith is coming to mind for some reason.
     
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    LOL - guess they used the same amount of silicone before fame and fortune hit them...
     
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    Well in Anna Nicole's case it actually makes sense. If I'm an 80 year old oil tycoon and a former playboy playmate wants to hang around and play with me on occasion, hell I can see that being worth a decent chunk of money.
     
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    I assume porn people believe they can find someone open-minded, who realizes that as long as they have no diseases or addictions, their sexual past is just that: the past. Why should it matter?

    Assuming no risk to health or safety: If you knowingly lay with whores but wouldn't date one, you're a hypocrite. If you watch porn, but wouldn't date a pornographic performer, you're a hypocrite.
     
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    OK - not wanting to be know as a hypocrite ;-) - I would probably take Shane Diesel or Mandingo on a one night date ;-)
     
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    I'm not sure I agree with that. I think people are very capable of disconnecting themselves emotionally from sex. Having sex with someone doesn't mean you would have a relationship with them. During my life I have slept with many women that I found physically beautiful, however there is no connection at all emotionally or mentally. It was not under any pretense that it would lead to a relationship by either party, just having some good clean sex. So I don't understand what the difference is.
     
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    Because it's a value judgment. The reason people say they wouldn't carry on a relationship with a prostitute or pornographer is that they think those people are doing immoral things. But I say being a patron of something you think is immoral is hypocritical.

    As a note, I don't think you completely understand what I was trying to get across. Correct me if I'm wrong. I mean that it's hypocritical if the reason is simply, "Because he/she is a prostitute/pornographer."
     
  15. D_Marazion Analdouche

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    Well yes and no. If the reason someone wouldn't be in a relationship with a person in that profession is because they know they couldn't live with it, then it's not hypocrisy. Meaning if there was an inherit jealousy/insecurity that was always going to linger there and that person knows that ahead of time, then yes it's a solid reason for not getting involved.

    My guess is that the insecure feeling has more to do with it than people thinking it's immoral.
     
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