Going soft in the middle of sex.

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Uh oh, when did it happen babe?

Never happened to me because of the girl, it's happened to me because of whiskey/drugs before though. I just laughed, and I found out the next morning she got self conscious and thought I was laughing at her. But then I let her know I was just an idiot and got too f'd up on whiskey and drugs.
 

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Its happened to me and my girl. Sometimes if we've been going at it for a while its hard for me to cum. At this point I start worrying about if she starting to get sore, is she still enjoying it. That's when I'll go soft. She's ok with it and understands that I need her to enjoy it for me to fully enjoy it.
 

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It happened to me once when i was about 20. Hasn't happened since. Believe it or not i asked this question for a friend of mine (i know you're all thinking "yeah, a friend.) Her new partner has been going soft about an hour into sex but she wouldn't believe him when he told her exactly what Realthick6 said. I told her he's probably telling the truth but she wanted some male opinions. So i thought you guys would be the best people to ask! We talked about it and i said i would be more concerned about him taking so long to cum. I want her to ask him about that. When she does i shall report back and ask your advice again. Thanks Realthick, you've made an already insecure woman feel much better!

And Remington, i totally agree with you! If i had done or said something that made a guy lose it i would want to know. Wouldn't want to make the mistake again!
 

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She's beginning to realise that this site isn't full of guys wanking and trying to get you to get your tits out. Lol! I've been telling her for years that there are a lot of wonderful people on here. I think she may be one step closer to setting up a profile...
 

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Yes, it's happened quite a bit.

Actually happened like 2 weeks ago with this lady I was with. We've had sex on and off for like 3 years so it's not a big deal. But she was complaining a lot about everything and I lost interest in fucking her.

A better example would be this other girl who I was having sex with and I was going as fast as I could and she kept saying "faster/harder" and I'm like wtf? I'm going as fast as I can. Lost my erection and went to bed.
 

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It happens. It's just normal physiology really, and has very little or nothing to do with what women say or do. Sadly some (most?) women do get paranoid and think it is due to something they have done. I can't remember if I went soft directly because of something they did/said though. In such a situation communication is important, we must know what turns each other on (or off).
 

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Thanks again for the replies folks. Just as a side note, this thread highlights a real difference between us gendres. I have lost my (for lack of a better term) "wide on" MANY times because of something a guy has said or done. Top 3 being 1. Pushing my head down hard on your dick when i've specifically told you that's the one thing i don't do, 2. Asking me to call you Daddy *shudder 3. saying "I love you" during sex, after sex, when you think i'm asleep in the morning, in the supermarket, in the kitchen AT ANY POINT IN MY COMPANY.
 

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Maybe the difference is men tend to do weird things to turn you off much more often than women, and not that women are easier to turn off than men. If a lady asked me to call them "mommy" I would probably go soft too, thankfully I haven't come across such a situation before. Ok, really bad example, but you know what I mean...
 

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Maybe the difference is men tend to do weird things to turn you off much more often than women, and not that women are easier to turn off than men. If a lady asked me to call them "mommy" I would probably go soft too, thankfully I haven't come across such a situation before. Ok, really bad example, but you know what I mean...

Lol! Yeah i think women are far less likely to do or say stuff they think might stop the sex. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. i think women worry more about what the guy might say after the fact. I know when i was younger i was worried about saying or doing something that might make a guy start chattin shit about me amongst his friends. Thankfully time has cured me of that. I've just thought of another question i want to ask...
 

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She's beginning to realise that this site isn't full of guys wanking and trying to get you to get your tits out. Lol! I've been telling her for years that there are a lot of wonderful people on here. I think she may be one step closer to setting up a profile...

Woah hold up now the tits out thing sounds good to ya know

But yes it can happen and I def would tell the girl
 

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It's not great to think about, but I'll just say it since it's an honest + open forum: odor. If things aren't well maintained, then especially if it's doggy-style it can smell unpleasant, which is an instant mood-killer.
 

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I understand Shannon! I have been in the vicinity of bad smells in both the sexes and it is not hot! And The Rob, i am not averse to getting my tits out in here as i'm sure you're aware! I'm getting the respons to her asking him about why he takes so long to cum tomorrow. I get the feeling he equates "great in bed" to "fucking for hours regardless" as most guys seem to think in the UK. I shall let you know what he says...
 

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Uh oh, when did it happen babe?

Never happened to me because of the girl, it's happened to me because of whiskey/drugs before though. I just laughed, and I found out the next morning she got self conscious and thought I was laughing at her. But then I let her know I was just an idiot and got too f'd up on whiskey and drugs.

You took the words out of my mouth!
 

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I have never had a woman say something inappropriate to me that would make me lose an erection. On the rare occasion i did, it was related to mental fatigue or alcohol or both. My experience has been women don't say/speak or request stupid things like a guy may-lol. Honestly I haven't ever said or done the things you are talking about to a woman. It sounds funny but I am sure your experience is far from it. A real stop sign in the arousal mode! Hope this was insightful for you. A good topic and question.