Hey there am young male 22 who is heavily attracted to men much older but is hesitant to go with a guy as it seems to weird in our society but I am really thinking about just going fuk it… so looking for some advice and guidance
Just go with it. You dont owe anyone anything. Those guys have a lot of knowledge and experience to pass down, and a lot of them have themselves figured out by now and don't pull a lot of the bullshit stunts that younger people do. If that's what you like, then that's what you like. Just make sure that the dynamic isnt problematic and you're good.
Thanks got the reply and motivation… but I can’t describe how I feel… it’s like a wall is stopping me and I can’t climb it
How much older are we talking?
There is one part that is that is the fantasy and then the other part that is reality.
The fantasy part you can satisfy by having an older fuck buddy or several if you are that way inclined.
Being in a relationship with a much older guy however is full of compromises.
You are in a different phase of your life. At 22, you are building up a career, going out until late, long haul trips, sex every day or more, etc.
Someone in their 30's is probably fine. 40's is a case by case basis. 50's you will struggle 60's will be a tough proposition for a long term relationship.
An much older man in his late 50's onwards is trying to figure out how to retire, down sizing their house, going to bed at a consistent and early time because they can't sleep past 5am in the morning, forget long haul their back is shot and maybe sex 3 times a week if they force themselves but really they'd be happy with once a week or less.
There is one part that is that is the fantasy and then the other part that is reality.
The fantasy part you can satisfy by having an older fuck buddy or several if you are that way inclined.
Being in a relationship with a much older guy however is full of compromises.
You are in a different phase of your life. At 22, you are building up a career, going out until late, long haul trips, sex every day or more, etc.
Someone in their 30's is probably fine. 40's is a case by case basis. 50's you will struggle 60's will be a tough proposition for a long term relationship.
An much older man in his late 50's onwards is trying to figure out how to retire, down sizing their house, going to bed at a consistent and early time because they can't sleep past 5am in the morning, forget long haul their back is shot and maybe sex 3 times a week if they force themselves but really they'd be happy with once a week or less.
I know am in a different stage but av had to grow up much younger so I am very mature I have a stable job and house and do well… I know there a big issues and stuff but that’s how the best relationship start and end you know
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Go for it if an older guy interests you, young guys think they invented sex but some of the older ones know they have mastered it
I'm probably speaking for the majority actually.
Relationships with much older guys can and do work. It wouldn't raise too many eyebrows if the younger person were female, but that's how things are in our society.
A younger friend of mine who was 21 at the time started a relationship with another older friend who was in his 60s. They were very happy together for over 20 years until the older man passed away a few years ago.
If it's right for you, it's nobody else's business.
A younger friend of mine who was 21 at the time started a relationship with another older friend who was in his 60s. They were very happy together for over 20 years until the older man passed away a few years ago.
If it's right for you, it's nobody else's business.
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When I was much younger, I discovered the gloryholes in the bathroom of the local college campus. One of the first guys I messed around with through those holes was a college professor. I was 18, he was in his 60's. Not only was the sex fantastic, he was also a great listener, answering questions I had and helping me with some that I hadn't thought of yet.
He introduced me to some other guys, a few of them were a little bit older than me and one of them was older than him.
He never pressured me into anything. He always was considerate of my thoughts and feelings. And I developed a sense of trust with him. The time I spent with him was very fulfilling.
He later had a new boyfriend (a guy that was right between our ages). They invited me over for dinner a few times.
I haven't seen or talked to him in many years, but I will always be grateful for the time I got to spend with him.
He introduced me to some other guys, a few of them were a little bit older than me and one of them was older than him.
He never pressured me into anything. He always was considerate of my thoughts and feelings. And I developed a sense of trust with him. The time I spent with him was very fulfilling.
He later had a new boyfriend (a guy that was right between our ages). They invited me over for dinner a few times.
I haven't seen or talked to him in many years, but I will always be grateful for the time I got to spend with him.
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I'm a much older guy who has a much younger boyfriend.
We were both mutual friends to someone else, started chatting and things developed quite naturally from there. We never really considered the age gap an issue for us two.
I was 65, he was 26. That's a 38-39 year gap, depending on the time of year.
We're in year 4 now. Things are going just fine.
Our secret: Don't give a fuck what anyone else says; it's YOUR relationship, not theirs.
This is easy to do because I've heard essentially nothing from people whose opinions I'd trust about the issue. They don't seem to care. Or if they do, they've been super quiet about it and never hinted otherwise.
Likewise his friend group doesn't seem to give a fuck.
TLDR:
Don't be too invested in what others think of your personal relationship.
We were both mutual friends to someone else, started chatting and things developed quite naturally from there. We never really considered the age gap an issue for us two.
I was 65, he was 26. That's a 38-39 year gap, depending on the time of year.
We're in year 4 now. Things are going just fine.
Our secret: Don't give a fuck what anyone else says; it's YOUR relationship, not theirs.
This is easy to do because I've heard essentially nothing from people whose opinions I'd trust about the issue. They don't seem to care. Or if they do, they've been super quiet about it and never hinted otherwise.
Likewise his friend group doesn't seem to give a fuck.
TLDR:
Don't be too invested in what others think of your personal relationship.
