Do you ask your partner weather or not your were good in bed after a sex session.
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Nope, I ask if I hurt them and if the answer is no then I ask are you ready for round two?
surely if you need to ask and don't just know - from how they look, talk, react after - then you weren't that good or you're just very needy and after confirmation?
if we're both moaning and groaning and encouraging each other during, and after just laying there, panting, sweaty, covered in juices and smiling/saying 'wow', then i know we've both had good sex and enjoyed it, if my dick is 'sore' it means i've fucked my bf several times in a row so always a winner in my book , and if he cuddles me after smiling and looking happy then i know i've pleased him.
if we're both moaning and groaning and encouraging each other during, and after just laying there, panting, sweaty, covered in juices and smiling/saying 'wow', then i know we've both had good sex and enjoyed it, if my dick is 'sore' it means i've fucked my bf several times in a row so always a winner in my book , and if he cuddles me after smiling and looking happy then i know i've pleased him.
Couldn't be a gender thing? Every gal I've been with has asked after 'was it good?' even when it obviously was, but no guy ever has. Maybe it's a gender validation thing?
I can usually tell one way or the other ( even if they are faking their level of satisfaction)
It isn't because I have the an innate sensibility to judge if the woman is exaggerating her level of pleasure. A long history of generally not been an earth shaker when it comes down to my actual proficiency with my undersized penis and poor stamina indicates otherwise. I am pretty good at the other stuff and tend to prolong foreplay as well as some afterplay ( meaning getting them off with fingers and or tongue after my little penis spurts way too quickly)
In the past I fooled myself into trusting the "fakers" but after a few of my lovers confessed my cock and cockmanship wasn't doing it for them(including one I was in a relatively long relationship with) I became a lot more cynical. Not that I didn't appreciate the kindness of the desire to not hurt my ego or my feelings but I eventually made a habit of asking them to be more honest. I even discussed the issue with a number of former lovers whom I was still socially connected to.
Not all but most of them confessed the truth about it after I assured them I would take no offence. The result has been both beneficial to me and all but one of the women I have been in a steady relationship over the last decade or so.
Basically my love life with several partners including my current gf has become far more expansive and has been a wonderful compensation for my "shortcomings" It may not have come about if it weren't for my inquisitiveness and honesty from a number of women.
My current relationship has developed quite nicely as far as the bedroom activity goes because we enjoy engagements with other guys and couples. ( sadly restricted by this pandemic thing)
This may not be desired or even possible by some but I have been with three different women who were well into it and have not found too much difficulty finding others to play with.
It isn't because I have the an innate sensibility to judge if the woman is exaggerating her level of pleasure. A long history of generally not been an earth shaker when it comes down to my actual proficiency with my undersized penis and poor stamina indicates otherwise. I am pretty good at the other stuff and tend to prolong foreplay as well as some afterplay ( meaning getting them off with fingers and or tongue after my little penis spurts way too quickly)
In the past I fooled myself into trusting the "fakers" but after a few of my lovers confessed my cock and cockmanship wasn't doing it for them(including one I was in a relatively long relationship with) I became a lot more cynical. Not that I didn't appreciate the kindness of the desire to not hurt my ego or my feelings but I eventually made a habit of asking them to be more honest. I even discussed the issue with a number of former lovers whom I was still socially connected to.
Not all but most of them confessed the truth about it after I assured them I would take no offence. The result has been both beneficial to me and all but one of the women I have been in a steady relationship over the last decade or so.
Basically my love life with several partners including my current gf has become far more expansive and has been a wonderful compensation for my "shortcomings" It may not have come about if it weren't for my inquisitiveness and honesty from a number of women.
My current relationship has developed quite nicely as far as the bedroom activity goes because we enjoy engagements with other guys and couples. ( sadly restricted by this pandemic thing)
This may not be desired or even possible by some but I have been with three different women who were well into it and have not found too much difficulty finding others to play with.
I've had alot of dudes ask me that and if they were really REALLY bad (where they didn't know what to do or had no rhythm or just punched their dick in me like I was a fleshlight) I told them straight out where and why they need improvement AND THEN (no more and then) I show them how to do it better.
No idea what they're doing-show them on them what feels good.
No rhythm-put on a good song and fuck them to the beat.
Surprise buttsecks O.O - Explain that assholes like to be closed and need to be teased open, then show them on them the difference (without the intense pain)
I hate teaching dudes how to fuck but if it's the only way I can get a decent fuck, I'll do it everytime.
I don't need to ask. If she wants to have an orgasm, I'm all-in to help. Her moaning, grabbing the sheets, body shaking, and her finally asking me to stop is all I need to know that I've done a decent job.
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Mmmm... I'd give that 20% gay a solid test ,given half a chance, and I can already tell you'd pass with a solid A+.
Also, fuck you're hot.
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Thanks, man. With my current love life I'd be willing to share that 20% and let you grade me. Long dry spell for me.
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I can tell by ther orgasms that she's had. If she's gotten off I've done a good job. She always gets off multiple times haha.
Actions speak louder than words/moans.. Getting my dick cleaned with warm soapy water as I lay in bed...Having a muscular man/beautiful woman
Butt naked with an apron cooking Me a home cooked meal (prime rib was my last meal); FWBs knowing I’m coming to town asking me what they can buy for me (groceries, weed, alcohol, etc) pretty much tells me everything I need to know..
Butt naked with an apron cooking Me a home cooked meal (prime rib was my last meal); FWBs knowing I’m coming to town asking me what they can buy for me (groceries, weed, alcohol, etc) pretty much tells me everything I need to know..
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