Javierdude22: Hi A friend of mine called me last night, totally sad. A friend of him, who he has known for 8 years, and who was a very important friend to him, confessed that he was developing feelings for him with which he didnt know what to do. My friend is dealing with some bisexual feelings, like myself. And we are actually the only ones that know this from eachother. Everyone considers him to be the straightest guy possible, for how he acts, but also for how he looks. Kinda a getto kid, somewhat like Sean Paul. So his friend would not have even the slightest reason to believe he would get an affirming answer out of his confession. Turned out he was going to a shrink, who was gay, and who encouraged him to tell how he feels. The more I hear shrinks give advice, the more I wonder i will ever seek help from them. The two of them left very queasy of course, and mentioned how they now probably will not be friends anymore. My friend is totally beat up about this, as it was a very important friend to him, and he is having a rocky time in his life already. I told him to just hang out within the group, and just act normal, like he never mentioned anything. Hopefully, the friend will not be ashamed anymore then. The thing is that he has lost two friends now like this. The other was his best friend in life. He told him he was pursuing a singing career in London, and left Holland. Later it turned out he was struggling with his sexuality, and had fallen in love with my friend. He never mentioned it though. You can feel the situation. My friend is already beat up about his own issues around sexuality, and now he has lost two friends for the same reason, reasons he never expected from them. I could hardly believe it...man, twice. Ive experienced a couple of times that gírlfriends I considered important confessed having a crush on me, but thats different. Never a dude, the frienship is definately lost then. Out of shame, discomfort on both sides or whatever. Does anyone have experience with this? Guy or girl, either way. Any advice on how to deal with a guy confessing a crush to you? That last friendship might still get better, but how should he react?