If your ex was cheating on you and you broke it off is it a bad idea to think about having sex with him? If you know that you can keep emotion out of it but you enjoyed sex with them (most of the time) is it wrong or just go for it and enjoy the sex with no strings?
If I had a girlfriend who cheated on me and later wanted to sleep with me after I broke it up, I don't care how good the sex was... I'd probably be far past the point of even talking to that person because no one insults me or embarrasses me like that.
But I don't know if you feel that same way about your self worth. For some people, sex is "just sex."
Well I have to deal with him since I have kids with him and I guess I don't think of it as self worth as much and filling a need that isnt being satisfied at the moment..... But I also wonder if some of it is just the curiosity of knowing if he would say yes or no...... wonder if he is telling the truth about how good the sex was?
I suppose that it could work for some folks, but it sounds dangerous to me. You say "If you know that you can keep emotion out of it" but does that for sure apply to both of you? Perhaps you can keep emotions out of it, but don't you think that having sex with him might give him the impression that he has a chance to reestablish the relationship?
An EX is just that
You can't really say what hooking up on one level will do to the overall scheme of things
Leave well enough alone
Find another "fill the need" provider
It depends on how good the sex is, and if you're emotionally stable enough to handle it.
I've fucked a couple of my exes and havent had a problem yet.
Then again, they know that once the love is gone, its gone.
Anything outside of that is purely friendship with maybe a few benefits.
Don't do it. You threw him out because he was a cheater. Now is not the time to go back on that decision just to scratch an itch. Get your itch scratched some other way. You deserve better. You deserve someone honest.
He may be still in your life, but that doesn't mean he gets to defile your temple with his dishonesty.
If my ex wanted to have sex with me, I'd probably do it, but I don't know if I could keep the emotions down, I doubt she could either. It'd feel really really good, but I think it would make things difficult for both of us.
Terrible idea. Possibly great sex. But terrible idea. Sets your breakup back, and elevates the physical beyond the other reasons why you aren't together.
I would say arms length would be best. It may have been "good" for you but, some men laugh last when it comes to that sort of thing. Also children pick up on lots of things and this one says "daddies coming back really loudly". Is he?
Usually it's a bad idea, it keeps you tethered to the past when you should be thinking towards the future. opens up old baggage and can be too easily misconstrued to deeper emotions than were part of the original intent. It just overly complicates an emotional situation.
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