Good, mediocre, and bad sex.....how are you in bed?

[Geoffrey2_0]

Been told Im a great lover--and not because of the obvious--because I'm unselfish (so I've been told)--my woman's pleasure is always more important to me than my own . . .

 

[Black_Frost]

With women? Generally multiple orgasms, frequently screaming. (Yes, really. I don't care whether you believe it. And yeah, I really, really like being able to pleasure someone that much. It's a major turn-on for me.) Also, I've had two women who have difficulty orgasming state they had no difficulty orgasming, whatever, when with me.

With men? Eh. I'll wholeheartedly admit that I'm just not so good in bed with men as I am with women. Which is why I generally prefer women to men for most purposes.

As to difficulties: I'm older, so I can't go so long as I could, when I was younger, nor be so athletic. I certainly don't shoot so much as I once did. A couple of years back, I had some neurological issues, which caused erectile dysfunction. I'm happy to say those have been cleared-up, now. And gods know, I'm tongue-tied. (Yes, literally.) I'm no good at cunnilingus because of it. That said, I've never had a woman complain about that, because I'm very good at what I can do with my fingers, as well as with my penis.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

I am SO GOOD at sex that my post explaining why on this big dick site got CENSORED!

THAT'S how good I am.

 

[alcor972]

lol!
it's because you described your sexual life at 17, phil...
but I read it entirely and still remember it...
thank you, phil...

 

[Phil Ayesho]

SHHHHH! don't you know you can't say "17" and "sexual" in the same sentence anymore?
fuck- now both these posts are gonna have to be deleted.

Thanks for utterly destroying my cool attempt at mystery for those new to the thread.

 

[koval]

I've been told that I'm an attentive lover. Once I know what your like and dislikes are, I can then turn up the heat
That said, I don't hope into bed with anybody easily, there must be chemistry before I commit.

 

[Notaes]

There seems to be a void on the internet and this site. There is a lot of discussion about how to achieve great, mind-blowing sex, a lot of bragging about how great each of us is, and a lot of excuse-making by some to to the benefit of those with insecurities, plus a lot of unrealistic stories and machismo.

Let's shelve that momentarily

I wish I could get my wife to answer this thread but never in a million years.

I want to hear your more level-headed and honest assessments of your prowess. How "good" are you at sex?

If you think you're an above-average stud in bed, state it plainly. No need to brag. And explain what makes you good.

But for the rest of you.....I want to hear your honest self-assessments (i.e. what does your partner honestly think about your performance in bed?)

And, most interestingly, is anybody here, regardless of size, willing to honestly admit sexual shortcomings? Inability to satisfy a partner? Frustration of sexual struggles? Premature ejaculation issues? Impotence? Low sperm count? Perhaps you fuck, or now realize that in your past you fucked like a jackrabbit? Have any past lovers told you that you weren't very good in bed? Or that you were mediocre? Fear you're not as good as someone else? The need to get your partner off through manual or oral stimulation beforehand? Perhaps they need to use a vibrator in addition to your efforts to keep themselves satisfied? Perhaps you're not that good at going down on your partner? What are your sexual shortcomings? Will you man up and own responsibility for your mediocre or bad sex? Do you wish you were better? Or do you accept it plainly? Have you tried to improve, and if so, how?

Is it an issue now? Or did you have issues in the past? What about your first time at least?

Anyway, I want plain, therapeutic honesty. And admissions.

I wish I could get my wife to answer these questions but she would never ever get on here and spill her guts about the one man and the one cock she loves! She is too much of a lady so I will answer and give the feedback that she has given me now and over the many yrs we have been together. First of all my cock is 8 X 6.75 and I love my cock and my size. I would not want to be any bigger but we fuck like two dogs in heat. She loves my cock period and how I fuck her with my cock and for the mind blowing orgasms my cock gives her. I am a confident straight for the most part male who loves to fuck. I know my woman's anatomy and I know what turns her on and I know what she loves and prefers! I love to eat pussy more than I love to eat food when I'm hungry! When I fuck or make love and she would have me say I start by kissing her luscious lips passionately and o can get her so hot she would beg me to fuck her just by kissing those lips. But I want to love her entire body and kissing on those lips is just the beginning of what normally is at least an hour and more closely to and hour and half makes up abnormal fucking session. For us. At times we have fucked for two hours before. Keep in mind that we use several positions and we have positions that do not require much effort and can
Give your body a rest and you can still keep fucking her but with a lot less effort. Once I get her lips good and warmed up I move down to her melon sized breasts. I love to lick and suck on her beautiful breasts and love to
Nibble and lightly bite her hard nipples and her nipples sensations go right to her pussy! I literally have made her cum before just licking and sucking on her nipples biting lightly and making a circle with my tongue on her nipples and surrounding areas. She loves this as she will hold her breasts just so they are big and round for me to suck. She enjoys me sucking and biting her nipples so very much. When the time is right I slide my wet tongue down to her nice pink pussy. This is my forte! I love to lick her pussy and suck on her clit. I eat her pussy until she is begging me to fuck her. She will try to pull me off her pussy but I decide when she is ready for my cock. When the time is right I slide my cock into her pink pussy. Before entering her pussy I will lube the head of my cock and slide it on to her clit and just rub her clit with the head of my cock. This takes her breath but I persist as I can tell what kind of orgasm she will have by the way she responds to my cock. Once I have her attention and the attention of her pussy, I will slide my long thick 8 inch cock slowly into her pussy a little at a time letting her squeeze my cock head and it gives the head of my cock a sucking sensation. She loves to tease my cock and I love for her to tease my cock as I enter her pussy. I will slide it in balls deep as I love to fuck her with every inch of my cock. I love to penetrate her pussy to the max with my cock and then push slightly and then kiss her passionately at the same time. This gets our lips and tongues areal work out. I let her body tell my cock what to do. I will fuck her slowly enjoying every part of her pussy letting my cock head do the talking. My favorite position I with her on her back with her legs up and her feet resting on my shoulders and her butt on a 2-3 inch pillow. It positions her pussy perfectly for my cock to fuck her to the hilt. Sometimes I will pull out and just kiss on her pussy and lick and kiss the pussy that I have been fucking. Then I will slide my cock back into her pussy and continue to fuck her balls deep as I love to thrust every inch of my right inch cock in and out of her beautiful pink moist pussy. One thing we will do that I will share and ask that you try it because it drives my wife's pussy crazy. With my cock deep inside her pussy I will put my legs outside her legs and slide her legs together and thrust my cock into her pussy. This position lets my cock thrusts the hood that covers her clit and it drives my wife's pussy wild. I will lick her nipples and slightly bite them at the same time and this sends her into heaven. I keep thrusting her pussy and she will arch her back and tighten her pussy on my cock and oh what a feeling I get. When she tightens her pusdy I will thrust as hard as I can as it will only be for a few seconds. We play like this for a few minutes and guy let me tell you it is worth every second you donor as it will send her into orgadms like she has never had before. It doesn't do a lot for me but her pleasure comes before mine everytime we fuck. Eventually she will let my legs back inside her and I will continue fucking her pussy with my hard red long thick cock. By this time she usually tells me several times how huge my cock is and how much she loves it X do that she has never been fucked like I fuck send make love to her. I just keep telling her "honey just keep telling me how big my covk is a X I will fuck you until your unconscious. Hearing this from her lips turns me the fuck on because whdn she says things like this she is fo hot the erotic part of her being has taken over her body. I watch and listen to her body and when I sense her orgasm is near I will fuck her like there is no Tommorrow. Her pussy will never be the same. As I sense her body and her pussy beginning to tell me that she is nearing the point of no return I will fuck her and make sure she is getting all of my 8 inch cock. Her body will begin to quiver and shake and she will let out a shout and screaming and she will grab my hips and pull all of my cock in her pussy that she can get and her body does its own thing as she is no longer in control. Usually I will suck and bite her nipples as she is having her mind blowing orgasms. Usually she will have at least two rolling orgasms back to back until she can't take anymore. Her orgasms seem to be at least 30-45 seconds in length. When one starts her pussy will grab my cock an wrestle my cock like wrestling an alligator. My cock can feel everything inside her pussy. It gives me great pleasure to see my cock give herbpussy this kind of pleasure. After seeing and experiencing this kind of pleasure from her pussy it usually is not long until my covk has had about all it can take as I have learned to control when I want to cum in her pussy. I usually can feel the cum building in my balls and sense the pointing no return and i will fuck her pussy like its my last fuck. My cock having mind of its own will fuck her as hard and as fast as I can fuck and I will feel the cum building and I will bury my long thick hard cock deep into her pussy and my cock will begin to shoot my hot thick cum deep into her pussy. My cock will shoot cum into her pussy for what seems like an eternity but I know it's not long but it seems like forever. When it shoots all the cum in my cock deep into her pussy I will usually collapse from a mind blowing orgasm onto her big tits and let my cock soak in her cum filled pussy. The orgasms cannot be described but are they are deepest most intense orgasms I have ever had in my life. I love my wife very much and she loves me and I have often thought about why our orgasms are so good and why everytime we fuck is the best ever. It must be because of our love for each other. I try with all my heart and with all my cock and with all my strength to make love and fuck her entire being into oblivion! I ask her everytime when we have finished and have some pillow talk time if she feels like she has been fucked, if she has been fulfilled, and if she is content. These questions are a joke mostly but i truly want the answers to these questions everytime I fuck her lucious pussy. I kiss her all over when we are finished and tell her how much I love her. We have a great time everytime and we both give all we have to give each time we fuck each other as we love to fuck each other. My cock was
Made for her pussy and her pussy was made for my cock.

 

[deleted972301]

Every sexual encounter will be different.
I know the first few times I have sex with a woman I never come because I'm trying to figure her out and learn her body. But obviously the more you have sex with a woman the more adept you are you what she needs to orgasm.

 

[TexanStar]

My fingering game is aces
I've been told I'm great at oral as well, but I can never seem to find a comfortable position for it.
Intercourse... meh, maybe if I was in better shape. Adequate is the word I would use I guess

 

[paldine123]

My fingering game is aces
I've been told I'm great at oral as well, but I can never seem to find a comfortable position for it.
Intercourse... meh, maybe if I was in better shape. Adequate is the word I would use I guess

Good thread, and very hot!!

 

[Oregon97420]

Having learned about sex from 80s porn I can say I am a lame lay and have been told that by my honest partners. Thanks to reading here, talking with members and my current partner I've learned more in the past few months about good foreplay and will continue work on improving. My current partner has told me I am listening to her body and she is loving my foreplay which to my surprise will bring her 4 or 5 orgasms. She is incorporating more foreplay for me and I'm finding that I last longer if I just take my time and enjoy her getting me ready to fuck. Is she creaming on my cock yet? Nope, but I believe that will happen.

 

[LilJock]

First off, there are two factors that affect how good, bad or mediocre I am at sex: (1) I'm very good-looking, well-built and athletic, and been told I'm sexy as hell ("a hunk"); on the other hand (2), I'm hung like a chipmunk.

Because of (1) I've never had any trouble attracting women (or men for that matter); but (2) makes me a total dud sexually for a fair number of women right off the bat. Even with women I've had great sex with, I'm often too small for them. I never got my first wife off through penetration alone; she enjoyed it, but could never climax that way, no matter how hard we tried. When she was ready, I'd switch to oral (or manual). She could easily cum with better hung men, though (she had an affair with a buddy of mine while I was overseas in the Navy; no trouble at all). Sex with the girl I lived with for two years was great but almost exclusively oral. My current wife and I have great, mind-blowing sex, and I can get her off by fucking, but It's noticeable that she gets off quicker and more explosively with the 7.5 inch dildo.

So, it's a mixed bag. I'm creative, attentive, can get it up and last forever, can bring women to screaming climaxes, but I'll have to admit that, strictly in terms of fucking, I'm not that great a lay - ranging anywhere from mediocre to okay at best. On the other hand, lots of women seem to flip over me, come back for more again and again, and even claim sex with me was some of the best they've ever had. My first wife and the girl I lived with fall into that category.

It's mystifying. I guess what makes sex great differs from woman to woman.

 

[bi_todd]

With women, I'm honestly not sure how good I am. I provide her orgasms with each encounter so I guess the basis requirements are being met, but bringing pleasure to the female body has always been somewhat of a mystery to me. When eating pussy, I'm just stumbling around. I confess that I follow the advice of Sam Kinison and just spell the alphabet.

With men, it's a different story. I know what makes another man feel good and I deliver that experience with expertise. Without bragging, I'm quite amazing as a top. I have a regular fuckbud of 3 years of so. He is a very sexual creature and our chemistry is strong. Our fuck sessions are simply mind blowing - the best sex of my life. When we were last together, he was a rather passive partner and I was rocking his world as I always do. As he moaned in pleasure, it dawned on me that I am the reason why our sexual encounters are so mind blowing. He has plenty of other ponies in his stable, but I'm the one he keeps coming back to.

 

[328982]

I'm okay, nothing to write home about

 

[Chrysippus]

When Socrates was asked about his sexual performance, he replied 'deinos eimi'--I'm bad!' On the one hand, 'deinos' means 'terrible', on the other hand, it means 'awesome!'. Ever the wit!
Someone should have asked his wife, Xanthippe.

and yes, deinos is part of the word d(e)inosaur (terrible/awesome lizard).

 

[halcyondays]

Fan-fucking-tastic!

 

[twoton]

Xanthippe.

Whoa. I know someone on another forum who uses that screen name. I always wondered where she got it from.

 

[twoton]

No one ever told me I was bad, so I don't know for sure. I've had only compliments, but how seriously can you take those?

I had one g.f. who wasn't much fun in bed. She was a complete hottie, like a sexy dream in real life, but in bed she would basically flop down and lie there.

 

[Crowe]

Good question, In general I've no problem pleasing someone in bed but since I met my current Girlfriend I stumbled on something I hate. She's not able to receive an orgasm by penetration alone, which for me, is a first. I've no problems making her cum any other way so this could be on her end or mine, and the thing that bothers me most is that I'm used to give them an orgasm while penetrating.

In the end it matters not, I love her it's just something that pops my mind when we have sex, where I think " I'm gonna try even harder today". Well, the actual answer to this question is, I guess I'm okay in bed (I don't think I'm too bad), I mean Eyes still roll back, moans and spastic orgasms are still a thing.

 

[Uncutpete]

I think, by this time in my life I can say that I am good at sex. My main avocation is bringing pleasure to wives who don't get it with their husbands, so I have always had to keep on top of my game. I have had a long life, and a long sexual life, and always with multiple partners, an open marriage and regular wives who I have sex with, usually with the husbands present. I am very sexually busy. I have to keep in shape, eat healthily, and keep sexually active and sexually in shape. I was blessed with a very large cock, an ability to control my climaxes, an ability to repeat, and a foreskin which women have loved on my sized cock. I need to be able to fuck for long hours and to do so without failing.

More than anything, I started early with wonderful partners and I realized that I adored women, loved giving them pleasure more than anything else. I understood that they were all different. I understood that it was my job to learn the secrets of their bodies, to learn to read their bodies and their emotions as intuitively as I could. And, I have tried to learn as many techniques to give pleasure to a woman as I possibly can. I learned that they deserve my great respect as both people and as sexual beings. I have continued to feel this way more and more.