Alright, so obviously I'm new here and not exactly of the femenine persuasion; however I think this question is particularly suited to this section as it is secifically geared towards women. I found this site doing a search for oral sex techniques and read an interesting thread here. I do understand that each woman prefers a slightly different style of oral sex, much as each man prefers a slightly different style of oral sex. For example, if anything touches within about a 3 inch radius of my sphincter I instantly lose my erection and can't get it back for at least a few hours. So, after a fairly considerable amount of practice and experimentation I THINK I have found a technique that is satisfactory for most (of course not all, but pretty darn close so far) women. I will explain. It's somewhat cliche but (aside from in a select few situations) very true that anticipation hightens the pleasurable sensation. Having said that, taking your time is almost always essential. Often kissing is the best way to start, although occasionally it's very desirable to demonstrate your desire and passion by taking a faster and slightly (not too much) rougher approach. Plenty of hands-on exploration is great, but don't focus too much on any one area. The ultimate goal is of course the vagina, but where that is the ultimate goal it should usually NOT be the initial destination. Rub the back with slow, gentle circular motions, caress the cheek lightly, perhaps brush the backside with your hand just slightly. Of course this continues slowly building in intensity until the woman's breathing becomes a little heavy (and although this is somewhat embarrassing to say often the smell is a good indicator that the woman is sufficiently turned on) and small moans can be heard. Occasionally the woman will enjoy putting on a show by taking her clothes off for the man, but usually the woman prefers the man to undress her slowly and gently, one step at a time. There is a bit more to this of course, but in the interest of time we'll pass to the second phase. At this point, regardless of whether the woman is standing, sitting, lying down, in the hot-tub or what have you, she should be undressed or mostly undressed. Begin to explore her body with your mouth as well as your hands. Kiss her neck, kiss her chest, kiss her breasts, thighs, midsection. Vary the sensations by alternating small, light kisses with deep passionate kisses, light flicks of the tongue, long licks, slight nibbles (careful, don't overdo it), and gentle sucking. Follow her guidance; eventually she will guide you farther down while you continue to explore her body. Starting a little bit closer in than the knees I usually begin to kiss (still alternating) while slowly moving inward towards the vagina. Don't just stick to one thigh, be sure to have some fun with the other one as well. Once you're relatively close in, gently lick the groin tendons between the thigh and the outer labia. I've noticed that, after sufficient foreplay, this tends to have a particularly good response. Spend a little bit of time on the outside, playing with the outer labia with gentle licking and soft kissing. Perhaps a little bit of nibbling would also be good, but again be sure to pay attention to her responses. Not all women enjoy nibbling. After that gently separate the outer labia. Starting at the bottom, slowly and gently explore your way upwards. Avoid the clittoris at first. Vary the style between soft and slow, firm and slow, flicking, and even the feel of the warm breath from your mouth can even have good effects if the woman is sufficiently aroused (which she definitely should be if you've managed to progress to this point). While you're doing this, continue to massage gently with your hands arount the thighs, backside, and lower stomach. It is generally a good idea to slowly lick in small circles around the outside of the clittoris. Again, vary speed and pressure to keep the sensation interesting. Too much of one specific style will get monotonous and can have undesired effects. Usually I rather enjoy performing oral sex and having the woman finish too soon can be a detriment. Similarly, if a woman is not being stimulated and finds the sensations to be too monotonous she can lose interest. Occasionally pay a bit of attention to the clittoris itself, with a soft slow licking, firm long stroke of the tongue, or gentle sucking motion. Too much of this can cause sensation overload in a large percentage of the female population, although there are some who like nothing better. The clittoris is immensely sensitive when the woman is aroused, so be careful. As a general rule of thumb slow stretching, rubbing, soft moans and flexing of the thigh muscles are good signs. Any quick, jerky motions or sharp loud sounds at this particular stage means you've carried things a bit too far too fast. Usually the female will enjoy herself much more if you take your time to build up to an orgasm rather than try to get it in in under 15 minutes. Some women enjoy having a finger or two inserted during this time (make sure they are wet, even if she seems to be extremely wet herself just to avoid any unpleasant sensations), but again pay attention to her responses to see if she's enjoying it or not. From this point on, just continue to keep things varied. Change speed, change direction, change pressure. Don't just focus on the area around the clittoris either, occasionally venture down further and back up. One of the most important parts is to KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'VE BEEN DOING. As the woman comes closer to climax, it is often a natural response for the man to become eager and begin to perform faster or perform the motions with a bit more pressure. Doing this can often cause the woman to lose the orgasm. What you've been doing has brought her this far; don't fix what's not broken. Some women cannot achieve an orgasm without a finger (or of course a penis) inserted into the vaginal cannal. In some cases where this is true, continuing your performance without inserting a satisfactory object into the vaginal cannal can be an extremely bad idea. The sensation builds and builds until she simply can't take it any longer but she never achieves an orgasm. I've only known a few women who experienced this, but it does happen so be aware of it. Again, be sure to pay attention to her responses to different motions, pressures and speeds. Perform the actions she reacts best to with the most frequency, but do not focus on them completely. Variation in the sensation will add a whole new dimention to the experience. After the encounter, if the woman is comfortable with it (some are not), discuss what she enjoyed and what, if anything, was detrimental. Be sure to listen to feedback and try to apply it in the future. Usually with different women I will return to this basic outline initially and adapt to her feedback after. This outline seems to have a pretty darn good response with most women. Ok, so now that that's over I'd like some feedback. Does this sound like a good general rule of thumb? Any errors you've noticed or things you can see that would benefit from change? As I said this is an outline and is meant to be adapted to individual women based on their preferences, but I would like some feedback on this particular technique. Thank you for your time!