When encountering something I want that seems out of reach, I do not say, "I can't have that." Instead, I ask, "How can I get that?!" I learned to approach life that way from an ex. Oddly, that approach has made me very happy, and I have done and obtained things which would otherwise have been impossible (A 4.0GPA, for example.) He, on the other hand is miserable, jaded, and just the other day declared something I thought didn't seem too hard for him to do would just be impossible. He is a man without dreams, and without drive. It's almost as if he gave it all to me.