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There are many different kinds of gossip. Some harmful, some harmless.
"John has the flu today" could be considered gossip, maybe he does have the flu, maybe he doesn't, but its meant to inform people of his situation.
"John has herpes today" carries more baggage. Maybe John wouldn't want everyone to know he has herpes. Maybe John would like to control who knows this.
"John cheated on his wife today" ...well, perhaps John would want that broadcast, perhaps not. Who's benefitting from that information being broadcast? Should this be something we let John deal with/not deal with on his own?
"Betsy told me that Mike felt that perhaps Wendy was operating under the assumption that John was cheating on his wife" ...well what the fuck is that? Even if John was cheating on his wife...statements like that are insane, bizarre, and malicious.
Maybe all of the above are wrong. Maybe all of the above (with exception of the last) are right. Where I draw the line in determining if gossip related to me is offensive is to understand the intent. Some people are more real than others and speak truth more freely. I understand that and maybe they can learn diplomacy. Others will suppose and insinuate in order to make themselves appear more central...I tend to make myself scarse with such people.
"John has the flu today" could be considered gossip, maybe he does have the flu, maybe he doesn't, but its meant to inform people of his situation.
"John has herpes today" carries more baggage. Maybe John wouldn't want everyone to know he has herpes. Maybe John would like to control who knows this.
"John cheated on his wife today" ...well, perhaps John would want that broadcast, perhaps not. Who's benefitting from that information being broadcast? Should this be something we let John deal with/not deal with on his own?
"Betsy told me that Mike felt that perhaps Wendy was operating under the assumption that John was cheating on his wife" ...well what the fuck is that? Even if John was cheating on his wife...statements like that are insane, bizarre, and malicious.
Maybe all of the above are wrong. Maybe all of the above (with exception of the last) are right. Where I draw the line in determining if gossip related to me is offensive is to understand the intent. Some people are more real than others and speak truth more freely. I understand that and maybe they can learn diplomacy. Others will suppose and insinuate in order to make themselves appear more central...I tend to make myself scarse with such people.