Gq article - why straight men are joining masturbation clubs

[Blkgymrat]

Is there really a presence of young married guys at these? I am picturing a group of old fat creepers waiting. Any near DC?

Try Home. Never been but heard good reviews.

 

[Blkgymrat]

Try Home. Never been but heard good reviews.

It’s near Navy Yard

 

[smichaelsmd]

Try Home. Never been but heard good reviews.

Thanks. The site is currently down. What is th general age and demographic? Is it a jo club only?

 

[deleted1168963]

Just read this article on GQ. Great to see this topic reaching a popular men's mag.

Homosocial behavior is not the same as homosexual behavior - but there certainly is an intersection in "buddy bating". The take away is that our sexualities are complex (assuming that we're all freely expressing ourselves without shame and with affirmative consent).

I've had some great convos with LPSG members across the whole spectrum that just really like talking cock size.

Wondering what everyone thinks about straight identified men attending communal bate clubs? Also, does it make a difference if the group of men is mixed sexually, or all straight? (y'all know you can't actually check that anyone is gay or straight, right?)

Why Straight Men Are Joining Masturbation Clubs

I been camping with fellas gotten drunk and had circle jerks into the campfire. We pretty much knew what every guy looked like flaccid from the showers at college so only the growers got comments and of course my girth always get the ‘holy shit’ comments.

 

[DiomedesXVI]

Because it's a lot of fun! It's obviously not everyone's cup of tea, but it truly is a great experience for those who enjoy it. It's not the same at all as jacking off by yourself. It's a completely different level of intimacy, and although "having an audience" is obviously not for you, some men enjoy the unique bonding time it provides.

I really enjoyed it when I was in my earlier to mid teens. It didn’t feel like it was about labelling anything, it was all about doing something all us guys liked to do, something we constantly talked about anyway, and instead of keeping it private, we just decided to do it out in the open among one another. I didn’t get to do it as much as I’d have liked since those friends moved away. During those moments I did have, we all never touched one another. It felt freeing to bond that way, we got to see what almost every guy is curious about: where does my size fit in among other guys? do we all jerk the same way or different? what do other dicks look like? (porn clearly isn’t the norm), mainly all questions most guys have which stem from the basic “am I normal or different, and what does it mean to be a guy?” I personally found my times jerking with other guys enlightening. I learned I’m very well endowed through that experience, I learned I cum way more volume than the average guy though that experience.

One of the things I really liked was that I got to learn that dicks and balls come in all shapes and sizes making every man unique: some dicks are long and thin, some long and thick (e.g. mine), some short and thin, some short and thick, some medium and thin, and some medium and thick. Some dicks have a long head (e.g. mine), some a short head, some a thick head (e.g. mine), and some a thin head. Some dicks have a big meaty slit, some have a narrower slit (e.g. mine). Some dicks are mostly straight (e.g. mine), some are rather curved, some dicks are thicker at different areas, some are the same thickness all throughout (e.g. mine). Some dicks have a foreskin (e.g. mine), some don’t, some dicks have lots of veins, some a few (e.g. mine), and some none at all. Some dicks are your same skin tone, some are lighter, and some are darker (e.g. mine), some dicks have pink heads, some have purple heads (e.g. mine), and some have tan/brown heads. Some dicks are big soft and stay big hard (e.g. mine), some are smaller soft but grow a lot when hard, some dicks get erect quickly like a spring-loaded machine, and some get erect slowly like a gradually stretching out tree branch (e.g. mine). Some testicles are huge egg sized balls (e.g. mine), and some are smaller grape sized balls, some testicles are oblong, and some are more circular (e.g. mine). Some testicles are in tight high-up sacks, and some are in loose low-hanging sacks (e.g. mine). Some guys cum a few drops, some cum a few hearty ropes, and some cum like a geyser (e.g. me), some guys ooze out their cum, some guys shoot it out (e.g. me), and some are a mix of those two, and there are tons of other things a guy’s genitals can be or have.

Mainly I learned where I fit in, that I wasn’t average at all in dick size, ball size, or cum volume and it felt good to learn about myself in comparison to other guys, since often we feel insecure about the size of our genitals or our sexual potential or we are just curious if we’re normal or are curious in general about others. And most importantly those times helped me discover my sexuality, but in no way did those times make me my sexuality, that is an innate thing. Those times just allowed me to learn about it by feeling free to be among other guys, because when we would jerk off in the same room together, there wasn’t any pressure or judgment, we were all just enjoying an activity we all did anyway but these times it just happened to be in the presence of others than alone. It’s all about the bonding experience, self-understanding, and self-discovery. I wouldn’t trade my social jerk off experiences as a teen for the world.

 

[DiomedesXVI]

I think "Get the fuck out of our space," really.

So communal bare clubs are LGBT only? Don’t be narrow-minded.

 

[DiomedesXVI]

This has toxic male masculinity written all over it.

Care to illuminate in what ways? If guys enjoying their sexualities and seeking to feel less repressed in it by using it as a way to socially bond with other guys (who men are often told to avoid any sexual openness at all with) is toxically masculine, then I think toxic masculinity needs to be brought under a magnifying glass and that we actually define what it is instead of it continuing to be this nebulously vague thing that people apply to anything male-associated that they don’t personally like.

 

[Blkgymrat]

Thanks. The site is currently down. What is th general age and demographic? Is it a jo club only?

I’ve never been. My buddy who goes is about 45 and in good shape. I believe it is mostly a jo club but there is a space where more stuff happens.

 

[SonyToyo]

This has toxic male masculinity written all over it.

Oh dear god. Why is it always toxic feminists that use this phrase?

Buzz off

 

[smichaelsmd]

I’ve never been. My buddy who goes is about 45 and in good shape. I believe it is mostly a jo club but there is a space where more stuff happens.

Never wanted to go yourself?

 

[jtm011]

Care to illuminate in what ways? If guys enjoying their sexualities and seeking to feel less repressed in it by using it as a way to socially bond with other guys (who men are often told to avoid any sexual openness at all with) is toxically masculine, then I think toxic masculinity needs to be brought under a magnifying glass and that we actually define what it is instead of it continuing to be this nebulously vague thing that people apply to anything male-associated that they don’t personally like.

Awesomely well said! We shouldn't feel ashamed or repressed of our sexuality, whether male or female. And men shouldn't feel punished for being born men. Society can never change the very primal instincts we have (both male and female) that have been ingrained in us for tens of thousands of years through evolution. Masculinity and the need for men to bond in a group is not toxic. What is toxic is society trying to making masculinity into something evil that needs to be neutralized.

 

[Blkgymrat]

Never wanted to go yourself?

Nah. I’m not exactly sure why. He’s invited me to join. Maybe I worry about the selectivity? He says that no one gets offended if you say no.

 

[DiomedesXVI]

When I was single I wanted to go to any Jacks clubs of the place I was living at the time. There’s one in my city that’s trying to form, but I haven’t discussed it with my bf nor do I really feel comfortable seeking outside sexual experiences in a relationship.

But, I managed to get to Atlanta Jacks once when I was there in college. It was a blast (pun intended), various guys of all ages though it did skew a little more towards upper 30s and older. I didn’t really mind being one of the young guys. You indicated before the session started if you wanted to be left to yourself (i.e. no touching) or if you were comfortable being approached for touching (a guy had to expressly ask and get your consent before he could touch you). Absolutely nothing but masturbation was allowed, no oral, no sex period, which is good.

Spoilers for anyone not wanting to read the details. But quick summary: I had a very fun time and enjoyed being open with my sexuality and bonding with the guys I met and shared the experience with.

Spoiler: A more detailed account ahead

I didn’t know if I’d get the chance to go to AJ events much, so I opted for “approachable” status. There were maybe 15-20 guys there, I didn’t actually count. Various dick sizes, but only 3 very well-endowed guys (of which I was one of them). I was nervous and didn’t get erect right away, I was semi for a good while until I got more comfortable being in the space and finally got up to full size. I didn’t get approached right away but after a few minutes and reaching a full erection, two guys came over together and complimented my body and of course my appendage, and asked if they could touch it. I consented and they took their time, weighing it in their hands, exploring my testicles, seeing how many hands could fit my length haha, and they were super into my foreskin, I was only one of two guys with a foreskin there.

Then I was asked if I’d allow them to stroke me and I agreed, they took turns at first and it was interesting feeling the different styles, and then they settled on stroking me together, one had his hand at the base of my shaft and the other guy had his hand up toward the top of my shaft. I apologized for all the precum I was leaking since I put out a lot of it and was assured it was fine. After watching me be stroked two-handed, another guy came over to see if he could join in on the experience, so I agreed. One of the earlier guys let him have his spot on my shaft while he asked if he could play with the new guy, I mustered up enough courage to ask the first guy who was still stroking me if I could touch his dick and I did. It was a heavy medium length dick but very thick. It was fun being stroked and stroking another. The guy who had stopped stroking me and let the new guy join later asked if he could caress my balls while the other two guys continued switched between single and double stroking me and I let him.

Getting all this attention, but especially being two handed and having my balls stimulated, got me close and I was told that I could let it out whenever I was ready. I was a little nervous and tried to hold it in as long as I could because I erupt a huge amount of cum and I didn’t want to surprise anyone, but I couldn’t hold back very long. My dick was leaking exuberantly, my foreskin had long since been unable to catch all the precum I was spilling out and I had rivulets of it running down my shaft and the guys’ hands. My cock was so bloated and swollen from all the stimulation and looked so engorged in the guys’ hands, so I spoke up and said I’m ready to cum but be aware I shoot heavily and if you don’t want any of my cum to possibly get on you then you can quit now. None of them were uncomfortable with that so they continued their work on my shaft and balls, picking up their stroking pace and really starting to massage my cock head with my foreskin, and then it was time, I managed to get out “I’m cumming” among my moaning and grunting, to which a few guys not in my immediate play group turned to watch, and I just let loose.

God it was intense, I could feel each stream surge hot and full up my tube and just jet forcefully out my slit, first two shots were low flying but then it started soaring up a foot and a bit more and ropes upon ropes continued flying out. I was feeling a lot of things: an intense orgasm but also satisfaction and also awe at having enough courage to come to this event and be so open with my sexuality and let others enjoy it as a bonding experience. During my geyser shooting, the guy I was stroking announced he was going to cum and asked if I wanted to continue stroking him to his release so I agreed and he bust loose as well, nothing near my volume but it was hearty. In fact he finished cumming his load before my own load finished.

After my cumming subsided, those three guys expressed their awe at my output and also thanked me for letting them get to enjoy masturbation with me. I watched a few other guys unload then headed home. I was thanked for attending and asked if I enjoyed the event and I definitely said that I did, and was told I was welcome to come to the next event and other future events and that they hoped to see me again. Wish I got to do it again before I moved away, but regardless I have very fond memories of my one time going to a jacks event and I still remember my soft dick was so swollen and plump my entire way home, I guess it decided it had had so much fun that it was ready anytime for more haha.

 

[Rutherruther]

I see we’re continuing to get along nicely.

 

[WebMale80]

I can only speak for myself but there’s something fascinating and erotic about seeing another man’s erect cock.
My first sexual experiences were with guys in this exact way when I was a teenager. Watching porn in a little bit of touching with a good trusted friend isnt so bad.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

When I was single I wanted to go to any Jacks clubs of the place I was living at the time. There’s one in my city that’s trying to form, but I haven’t discussed it with my bf nor do I really feel comfortable seeking outside sexual experiences in a relationship.

But, I managed to get to Atlanta Jacks once when I was there in college. It was a blast (pun intended), various guys of all ages though it did skew a little more towards upper 30s and older. I didn’t really mind being one of the young guys. You indicated before the session started if you wanted to be left to yourself (i.e. no touching) or if you were comfortable being approached for touching (a guy had to expressly ask and get your consent before he could touch you). Absolutely nothing but masturbation was allowed, no oral, no sex period, which is good.

Spoilers for anyone not wanting to read the details. But quick summary: I had a very fun time and enjoyed being open with my sexuality and bonding with the guys I met and shared the experience with.

Spoiler: A more detailed account ahead

I didn’t know if I’d get the chance to go to AJ events much, so I opted for “approachable” status. There were maybe 15-20 guys there, I didn’t actually count. Various dick sizes, but only 3 very well-endowed guys (of which I was one of them). I was nervous and didn’t get erect right away, I was semi for a good while until I got more comfortable being in the space and finally got up to full size. I didn’t get approached right away but after a few minutes and reaching a full erection, two guys came over together and complimented my body and of course my appendage, and asked if they could touch it. I consented and they took their time, weighing it in their hands, exploring my testicles, seeing how many hands could fit my length haha, and they were super into my foreskin, I was only one of two guys with a foreskin there.

Then I was asked if I’d allow them to stroke me and I agreed, they took turns at first and it was interesting feeling the different styles, and then they settled on stroking me together, one had his hand at the base of my shaft and the other guy had his hand up toward the top of my shaft. I apologized for all the precum I was leaking since I put out a lot of it and was assured it was fine. After watching me be stroked two-handed, another guy came over to see if he could join in on the experience, so I agreed. One of the earlier guys let him have his spot on my shaft while he asked if he could play with the new guy, I mustered up enough courage to ask the first guy who was still stroking me if I could touch his dick and I did. It was a heavy medium length dick but very thick. It was fun being stroked and stroking another. The guy who had stopped stroking me and let the new guy join later asked if he could caress my balls while the other two guys continued switched between single and double stroking me and I let him.

Getting all this attention, but especially being two handed and having my balls stimulated, got me close and I was told that I could let it out whenever I was ready. I was a little nervous and tried to hold it in as long as I could because I erupt a huge amount of cum and I didn’t want to surprise anyone, but I couldn’t hold back very long. My dick was leaking exuberantly, my foreskin had long since been unable to catch all the precum I was spilling out and I had rivulets of it running down my shaft and the guys’ hands. My cock was so bloated and swollen from all the stimulation and looked so engorged in the guys’ hands, so I spoke up and said I’m ready to cum but be aware I shoot heavily and if you don’t want any of my cum to possibly get on you then you can quit now. None of them were uncomfortable with that so they continued their work on my shaft and balls, picking up their stroking pace and really starting to massage my cock head with my foreskin, and then it was time, I managed to get out “I’m cumming” among my moaning and grunting, to which a few guys not in my immediate play group turned to watch, and I just let loose.

God it was intense, I could feel each stream surge hot and full up my tube and just jet forcefully out my slit, first two shots were low flying but then it started soaring up a foot and a bit more and ropes upon ropes continued flying out. I was feeling a lot of things: an intense orgasm but also satisfaction and also awe at having enough courage to come to this event and be so open with my sexuality and let others enjoy it as a bonding experience. During my geyser shooting, the guy I was stroking announced he was going to cum and asked if I wanted to continue stroking him to his release so I agreed and he bust loose as well, nothing near my volume but it was hearty. In fact he finished cumming his load before my own load finished.

After my cumming subsided, those three guys expressed their awe at my output and also thanked me for letting them get to enjoy masturbation with me. I watched a few other guys unload then headed home. I was thanked for attending and asked if I enjoyed the event and I definitely said that I did, and was told I was welcome to come to the next event and other future events and that they hoped to see me again. Wish I got to do it again before I moved away, but regardless I have very fond memories of my one time going to a jacks event and I still remember my soft dick was so swollen and plump my entire way home, I guess it decided it had had so much fun that it was ready anytime for more haha.

Food for thought: Touching others isn't masturbation. To be clear, I don't disapprove or anything like that...I just think that a club that permits touching is more than a jacking club. Kinda the way a strip club that permits guys to touch the dancers is more than a strip club. Contact blurs the line quite a bit imho. And in these aspects it's a little unfair to bi and straight members if women aren't permitted. I haven't read anything about that one way or the other....what if women show up seeking to masturbate around all these guys? Allowed?

 

[GLATERNS]

Apparently GQ Magazine doesn't know what straight means. Gay and bisexual guys may join masturbation clubs but straight men do not.

 

[mymomsaysitsbig]

Yep agreed.

I started a thread on sexual preferences and how I preferred masculine manly hairy sexy men (sorry I’m horny haha)

And guess what? The glitter queens brigaded, accusing me of hating gay people and having “internalised homophobia”. Pretty sure “racism” and “misogyny” got thrown in there too.

And what once was a promising thread that could’ve included good stories and pics turned into the effeminate gays shitting and vomiting all over other people’s sexual preferences, just because they were excluded from them.

 

[1335531]

Yep agreed.

I started a thread on sexual preferences and how I preferred masculine manly hairy sexy men (sorry I’m horny haha)

And guess what? The glitter queens brigaded, accusing me of hating gay people and having “internalised homophobia”. Pretty sure “racism” and “misogyny” got thrown in there too.

And what once was a promising thread that could’ve included good stories and pics turned into the effeminate gays shitting and vomiting all over other people’s sexual preferences, just because they were excluded from them.

And again and again those types of guys are the biggest hypocrites. It's the I'm and entitled victim and I want to be able to chose and not get chosen mentality.

 

[1335531]

Apparently GQ Magazine doesn't know what straight means. Gay and bisexual guys may join masturbation clubs but straight men do not.

There's no such thing as a straight or gay person, they're only sexual identity labels and humans are naturally sexually fluid.

Also men bond through physical contact and sexual activity. If you've watched another man have sex with a woman either in porn or real life or been in group sex with other men, you've still engaged in homoerotic activity.