Great BF but miss single life...

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  1. D_Wormslay Wonderwand

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    I've been with my gorgeous boyfriend for nearly 5 months now, my first serious relationship. I've never been more in love before and for a while, I couldn't imagine cheating or even looking at another guy. Lately though, I've started to miss the single life, random hook-ups, etc. His cock doesn't turn me on and I've been tempted to find a random hung guy to blow. It's driving me mad, he's great but I get bored so easily! Not the most eloquant post ever but I'm looking for some reassurance, please help!
     
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    That's why I am boyfriendless at the moment. I want someone whom I can love and be turned on to. A rare combination.
     
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    You've found someone you love though, right? The city I've been stuck in offers only women whose age surpasses their IQ. I'd more than happily stop having sex with random people in exchange for something meaningful... it really eats at you after a while.

    Word of warning though: if you go through with hooking up with just one guy outside of your relationship I will bet you'll start doing it again and again. Maybe if you talk to your boyfriend about it he'll be open to let someone come into the relationship casually.

    @crescendo69: Kudos for living in Knoxville. Very cool city but confuses the hell out of me.
     
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    what if your boyfriend would enjoy watching you get fucked by a big cock?

    talk to him about having a more open relationship, it's quite common in the gay (male) community for couples to have sex with other guys.
     
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    Perhaps you need some time. I mean, the time to adjust yourself in the relationship. You said yourself that it's been a long time since you have been in a serious rship. Trust me, a bit of resistance here can be something that pays off really well in the future, because when you fight for this relationship, you're gonna be the one who enjoys it.

    For me, what I'd do is list down the great things about him and keep your mind that he. as a normal human being, has some weaknesses and it's your responsibility to accept him the way he is. Keep remembering the things that made you fall for him in the first place, most people often forget about that after they're in the relationship after quite some times.

    There might be no deep feelings yet, but when you spend your time with him and see how he'd do anything for you, you might begin to feel how he is the one for you.

    Good luck, I really hope you're happy with him... :)
     
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    i have been with my man for 4 years now, and sure some times i want to try new cock BUT at the end of the day is it worth messing everything up when there is some great porn out there!
     
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    Don't cheat. If he doesn't satisfy you be man enough to break up with him before you go looking for something else.
     
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    One more vote for the advice above. Sounds like you have a good thing going, so don't blow it! (nice pun, eh?)
    You're options are either talk to him and let him know you love him but that you're having doubts about being monogamous, or find some good big-cock porn to satisfy your wandering eye with.
    If he's a great guy and you love him that much, then show him that he's made the right choice in loving you. Don't cheat.
     
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    If it's really love you can at least try to make it work out. Toys, Porn, even a third person if you want. If after all of that you still aren't feeling him man up and break it off. Better to break up and go get that big dick you want then to cheat. Messing around with someone else while you are together will only get you bad karma.
     
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    I'm in a very similar boat... watching replies :(. Cheating makes it worse..
     
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    I'm in the same boat too, and it's lasted 15 years! I just don't enjoy sex with my bf any more - at all. Don't you think this is sort of a male thing - I don't think monogamy is possible for some of us - ask Tiger Woods. Why I don't leave is very complicated.
     
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    Its not a male thing. It happens to women too. They love their man but their man doesn't turn them on sexually, because...*gasp* their cock is not on the attractive side (however anyone wants to define that), because their partner is selfish in bed, or because their partner is overweight. Can be any reasons.
     
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    For the OP and others above, your honeymoon period is over. Now you are left with just the two of you and it's up to you to decide if that is what you want. To the OP, you say you are with the most gorgeous guy for 5 months, but yet you say his cock doesn't turn you on. It's up to you to decide man. If you really felt he was the most gorgeous guy, he would pretty much always turn you on. It is possible that you are just not ready to settle down and be monogamous. If that is the case, be honest with him and see if the two of you can work something out. If he is the type where it's monogamy or he doesn't want it, then you are left with are you satisfied with having one guy as your monogamous lover. If not, the choice is clear.
     
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    I was in the same situation.I sometimes imagined new cocks.But I had to endure.I really loved him.And this love could prevent me from.But it was ok when he was near me and his big cock in my palms in the evening or at night.In the meantime we were living together .
     
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    After a couple of wild pendulum swings, I think I've got the freedom+commitment balance worked out and would like to recommend this kind of arrangement as an ideal. First LTR was 4 years of unremitting monogamy. At the time I was satisfied but looking back I can see how the monogamy poisoned the relationship with feelings of mutual resentment. Second LTR was a guy I met at a sex party and we had ten times the sex with others as with each other. Just as strong an emotional bond as before but no sexual loyalty at all. It was a less satisfying situation than strict monogamy and didn't last as long. Then I found true love with my present partner. 95% of our sex is alone together and we never play outside the relationship. But do enjoy playing with others. Men need both security and variety in their sex lives and this works for us. Have you broached this subject with your bf? Threesomes are a much healthier thing than cheating that's for damn sure.
     
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