Great Guy, Bad Dick…am I Superficial?

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Had 3 dates with a guy. First 2 dates were amazing - lots of kissing and just getting to know each other.

3rd date we got naked. All going well then he took his underwear off and what I saw was the most unattractive dick I’ve ever seen.

I couldn’t even put it in my mouth.

Do i acknowledge that a nice penis is just as important as the guy in general, or do I try to work with what he has?
 

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If a nice penis is important to you then this guy isn’t for you. Don’t worry about what other people might define as superficial - everyone has things that are important to them. If a nice penis is one of them for you, then find someone who ticks the box.
 

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There is nothing superficial about that. The penis is an important part of the body. You are gonna spend some significant time with it. If you don't like it then you don't like it.

Could you get used to it? Maybe. Only you can tell. But don't feel bad about it. Better to cut the cord now than later.
 

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Had 3 dates with a guy. First 2 dates were amazing - lots of kissing and just getting to know each other.

3rd date we got naked. All going well then he took his underwear off and what I saw was the most unattractive dick I’ve ever seen.

I couldn’t even put it in my mouth.

Do i acknowledge that a nice penis is just as important as the guy in general, or do I try to work with what he has?

a sexual relationship needs sexual tension to work, if his dick is ugly (and god this forum has taught me that people with ugly penises are completely oblivious on the monstrosities they carry with them) there is no basis for a sexual relationship.
You can become great friends tho ;)
 

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I guess I'm a little confused? What was it about his dick that was so off putting?
We need to know! We need a description a sketch a photo something :laughing:
 

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Sex is important. If you don't even want to put his cock in your mouth, I'd say that's a problem. Call it superficial or whatever you want, if you don't find this guy sexy and great, and he doesn't make you horny, maybe consider him as a keep-your-clothes-on non-sex friend and keep looking for someone who turns you on.
 
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We need to know! We need a description a sketch a photo something :laughing:
I agreed with you on this, before jumping in and provide my opinion, it'd help to know what does his dick looks like. Without knowing the details, one thing I can think of is that the guy may likely uncircumcised. Sometimes too much foreskin can turn off someone sexually. If this is the case, a solution would be to get circumcised.

Another one I can think of is that he may be too hairy down there, overgrown pubic hair can also be a turn off.

Just my thoughts.
 
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I agreed with you on this, before jumping in and provide my opinion, it'd help to know what does his dick looks like. Without knowing the details, one thing I can think of is that the guy may likely uncircumcised. Sometimes too much foreskin can turn off someone sexually. If this is the case, a solution would be to get circumcised.

Another one I can think of is that he may be too hairy down there, overgrown pubic hair can also be a turn off.

Just my thoughts.
He would not like my dick then :D
 
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Beauty is subjective so it doesn't matter what his penis looks like. Some people don't think penis is a pretty organ!
I'd suggest you should try to get used to it because if you love someone you'll love them for what they have, but if you feel like you're forcing this on yourself then you should stop it now and cut the cord before it gets more emotional.
 
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If you are looking for a pure sex partner, then I would say he is not for you. Since both of your are aiming for sex, and there should be mutual attraction for if to work, then the process failed at its primary test.

Whether he is partially or totally into you should not matter, sex is sex, and sex is not a relationship.

If you really like him as a person and would like to change the dynamics of the two of you into platonic friends, I am not sure if this will work because he may not be able to accept you - one who rejected his manhood.

So, my answer is, no, you are not superficial, both of you knew what was required and it did not work.
 
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If his cock is so ugly to you that you don´t even wanna touch it or suck it, then he is not the right guy for you. No matter how nice you get along. I don´t understand you tho. I cannot imagine a dick that ugly. But who knows.

it threw me too tbh. It was a car crash of genitalia. Also I love sucking the head. It’s my fave thing. His foreskin is really tight. It’s not nice
 

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it threw me too tbh. It was a car crash of genitalia. Also I love sucking the head. It’s my fave thing. His foreskin is really tight. It’s not nice

maybe you can find a picture of a cock that looks similar. I would like to see it
 
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There's no such things as superficial when it comes to choosing friends and lovers. If you don't find a person physically attractive in any way then they're not for you.
 
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God people here are so shallow. Why not just talk to him about it and see if you can come to a solution
 
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