Greek Life

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    GuyFromLA: Im just curious to know who all went Greek in College. I figured it might be nice to see who is greek and get some good stories out of it as well. By going Greek I mean joining Fraternities/Sororities (some people dont know). I went Greek and it has been one of the best things I could have done. And I dont have any stories to tell as now, maybe in the time to to come..........
     
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    dfox7.3x5: I joined a fraternity partly because I was from some distance away and didn't know anybody. Figured it would be a good way to meet other guys. Also, I had stayed in the university dorms a couple of times when I came to some programs they offered high-schoolers, and I didn't like the sterile atmosphere. I was quite happy being in the fraternity. I lucked out and hooked up with a really great bunch.

    I met the person I consider my best guy friend in the fraternity. Over the years we lived several states apart but always wrote frequently. Then he retired to my city three years ago, and we've had a good time together (yes, THAT kind, among other things).

    Go for it!
     
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    gigantikok: Sometimes I fantasized about joining a frat. The companionship, the support, the fun times, the sex... I quickly ditched the idea though. I hardly think of myself as the frat boy type. My schedule is pretty hefty, with all the theatre stuff. Plus, I am too artsy-fartsy, bohemian to fit into the Greek Life. Oh well, theatre provides the same companionship and support...well, sometimes.
     
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    captainstupid: hmm isnt it sorta embarrasing being in a frat??? its always struck me as sad. movies have it all wrong, frat guys are not cool nor tough. pathetic really

    and why are sorority girls always ugly??? soft core porn movies have lied to me.
     
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    throb919: Hey, Captain--what are you basing that evaluation on? "Embarrassing" and "pathetic"? I'm guessing that comes from stereotypes even more off-base than the ones movies portray.

    GuyFromLA: Sigma Phi Epsilon here. Fraternity president even. One of the influencing experiences of my life.
     
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    captainstupid: while my statement is a generalization its based on interactions with frat guys and soritety girls. before i met any i assumed they would be cool party animal types or tough jerk types (based on movies i have seen) but logically they are neither but they where not remotely cool or intersting people, totally pathetic

    and soriety girls are not good looking (check out mtvs sorority life if you dont believe me those girls are ugly)
     
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    Hmmmm....I joined a fraternity to play in the intermural sports programs. At a fraternity there is always a place to sign up for a team, and the fraternities always fielded teams. Yeah, individual groups fielded teams, but you were never sure that enough would sign up to make a team.

    I liked the frat life - a place to hang when you were being a little homesick, a place to watch mindless tv with friends, take a date to dance. I was active for a couple of years; then I moved into an apartment far from the house and just quit going. But then, I always thought that Animal House was an etiquette book for the y-genners. ;)

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    oldman9x7: Cappy, I don't know where you came up with your expressed ideas about fraternities/sororities but having lived in that atmosphere, being a life member of Delta Tau Delta, belonging and being active in an alumni chapter and as an undergrad dating Greek girls (mostly from Chi Omega), I must tell you that MY experience could not be more opposite. The girls that I dated were DOLLS! The friendships formed at the fraternity have endured to this day and if you think that frat life is dull, it can only be because you have never been there. There's always a possibility that if one carries a "dull" attitude around with them, it will color their whole life experience.

    Gramps
     
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    7x6andchg: Well, being the geek that I am, I was in one of those honor fraternities...co-ed...I liked it. You got to meet and greet with people all over the world. You knew you had something in common with people from all over the country, and learned a little something about dealing with people in the process.

    It helped also that the Greek system at my school accepted us into the council, too. That way we weren't some fringe organization on campus.

    I still keep in touch with a few of my brothers (even the females were called brothers - it was voted into our constitution) even all the way over in Michigan (I know, I know, real far, right?) :D

    All in all I'd have to say it was a good experience...worth trying out if nothing else. Choose wisely, however. Find one that fits you.

    Gigz - I can see where theater would spark some of the same camraderie...I acted through high school and there was always a bond that formed...especially as the same people kept going out for plays year after year.

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    prepstudinsc: I was a pledge in a frat my Sophmore year of college, but ended up having to drop out because I didn't have time for school and my busy musical career AND the fraternity. I hated to give it up, but it was taking a toll on my grades, and I figured good grades would help me get a better job than being in a frat would.
     
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    DerSchwanz: I grew up in a college town, went to college myself, though not there.

    My impression of fraternities and sororities was that they seemed to be mini-ghettoes. All the members of any greek house were of the same socio-economic and ethnic type. Sure, they eventually had a (fill in the blank) to remain in the good graces of the rest of society, but they were very homogenous in general.

    I found, and still find, it antithetical to what the college experience should be. It's a big world out there, and the sooner one comes in contact with those not like you the better off we all will be. That's how tolerance begins.
     
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    mindseye: [quote author=DerSchwanz link=board=meetgreet;num=1066086337;start=0#10 date=10/14/03 at 19:32:54]I found, and still find, it antithetical to what the college experience should be.[/quote]

    I like the way you phrased that. I graduated from a school that had no Greek system, and now teach at a school that has over 50 different fraternities and sororities.

    To spend every weekend at the same house, with the same people -- that's what marriage is for.
     
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    7x6andchg: Well maybe it's because my frat was "different"...but we were one of the least homogeneous bunches on campus. The point is well taken though...they do tend that way.

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    oldman9x7: HI. 7X6,

    I guess our house was different too. We had all kinds. We had those who were "shot in the ass with diamond dust" (I was NOT one of those) but we also had farm boys and guys whose parents really strained to give their kids a college experience. Over half of our membership had jobs on the side (this was in the early 40's) but we were "brothers". We got an understanding of family beyond our bloodline which included not only help (when needed) with school work but hands-on training in the social graces.

    All in all it was an experience I appreciate to this day and remember with affection.

    BTW, I was the "biggest" in the house at that time.

    Gramps
     
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    blo1988: Fraternity guy here. Enjoyed it alot. The quality of the experience depends on the person, the fraternity, the setting,etc. I was in a relatively small University and it was a great group. The only college folks that stayed in touch over the years after graduation turned out to be fraternity friends. It was a great experience.
     
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    11inch: I was in a frat and loved it. I am still great friends with a lot of my brothers.
     
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    jerkin4-10: i went greek...but didnt go to college to do it... :eek:
     
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    I couldn't rush for a fraternity because I was too busy with other responsibilities, namely a part-time job to pay the bills. My freshman year roommate rushed, and through his experience, I learned that while on the surface fraternity folks aren't so bad, once you get deep down into how they operate, the politics of them couldn't come off as any more depressing, exclusive, or awful. I went to an undergraduate school that only had four of each, but because people had such an ingrained fear of not being accepted (since they push Greek Life from day one), it was a 75% Greek population. Thankfully, the percentage has dropped since then, and I know that elitism isn't representative of everyone who rushes and goes through the process, but it's still a strong sentiment.

    Take it from me. That roommate cited above rushed the same fraternity all four years and never made it in -- that's a lot of heartbreak. Also, before Greek life sank in its clutches, I remember having friends that eventually dropped out of my life because, now that they had some letters on their chest, there were too cool to associate with other people. Sure, there was social mixing, but overall I think the fraternities and sororities kept to themselves most of the time. (After all, it was all this contest to see which floor of the fraternity building had the coolest parties.)

    Oh well. Something that really helped me rationalize the nonsense of the system: Who are these Greeks anyway? I don't know what's so Greek about having two or three letters embroidered onto a shirt, but culturally, I'm the real McCoy! (That, and a lot of them did portray themselves as unintelligent meatheads whose idea of community service included a keg stand with spillover profits going to the Hope Center.)
     
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    prepstudinsc: Dee, you need to have your initials emblazoned on a sweatshirt in Greek letter. You could stump everyone as to what frat you belong to.
     
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    oldman9x7: Delta Beta Tau ???
    Gramps
     
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