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I've used it to chat with people and what not but I've never met anyone through it. I actually just find it fascinating to be able to see how close other people are in any given area. Especially when I'm somewhere new it's sort of nice to open the app and see several people who are sort of nearby.
 

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I have Grinder and Scruff. I like Scruff better cause it searches for random global guys and I will talk to them more and the amount of space for profile is much larger. I haven't met with anyone from either, though. Too many just after hook-ups.
 

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Grindr seems useless to me. Too many restrictions IMHO and the guys on it (at least in Atlanta) are full of themselves. I have, however, had a few nice chats but only met one guy as a result of the chat.
 

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for all the folks who aren't in to the whole 'hookup' thing, i would suggest getting the okcupid app.... the profiles are clean, have substance, and the guys there aren't primarily looking for hookups.... the site itself also has an algorithm based on interests, stats, and little fun quizzes that you can take which helps the website find suitable matches for you.... it also helps that people actually post face photos there....
 

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for all the folks who aren't in to the whole 'hookup' thing, i would suggest getting the okcupid app.... the profiles are clean, have substance, and the guys there aren't primarily looking for hookups.... the site itself also has an algorithm based on interests, stats, and little fun quizzes that you can take which helps the website find suitable matches for you.... it also helps that people actually post face photos there....

am trying out OKCupid. I hope there is an eventual end to these multiple choice questions or I am going to delete it.
 

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I don't know why I expected OkCupid to be any different than all the other gay dating sites. The guys there are just as shallow as everywhere else. And after answering over 3600 questions, I find my best matches are jobless and/or weigh over 400 pounds and/or are extreme Christians.
I messaged a few guys that are over 80% matches and none of them have responded. One guy is a 91% match and still nothing.
I gave up on Grindr and Scruff isn't looking good.
 

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I've used Grindr on and off for a few years now. I've met some guys on there and actually had some form of relationship with each of them. With that being said, each one has failed due to one reason or another (moving, visiting, etc.), and most recently I met a great guy after chatting with him on the app and he dumped me out of nowhere after a couple weeks. I think that was the last straw for me. Nothing good has come out of using it in the long run, and as I'm not looking for a hook up, the service doesn't do anything for me.

I would also be embarrassed to tell other people that I met my boyfriend/partner through Grindr. Just sounds trashy.
 

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I met an ex-bf on xtube. The relationship tanked, but there were many good points. However, telling people we just said "a dating site" because it just sounded bad. Lol...I have friends I've met off here as well and I think we've all made the consensus to say we met on Facebook, even. ^_^;
 

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seriously folks: there is absolutely no difference between meeting a guy online or meeting a guy anywhere else.... sometimes the context is a little seedy, but you are going to have just as much good or bad luck using the internet to meet people and find a relationship as you would in any bar or club setting.... the fact that people just 'expect' to meet and date people just because they posted a profile on a dating site is extremely naive, and i personally have just as much success as i do failure online as i do offline.... it's all just one big fucked up process of elimination, and even when i do chat with a guy online i don't just express to them that i have the intention of dating or sleeping with them..... that is also very naive.....

on here, people don't seem to have any issue in just being themselves and going with the flow on the forums talking about whatever they fancy..... for some reason, dating websites don't get the same respect and it really shows how much we as a society feel about ourselves and other people..... when it comes to online dating, i think most people just need to grow up.....
 

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Interesting to hear the opinions. I just got Grindr to try this week. Had a long chat just now but the guy was a bit pushy and is a bit far away. If he'd bothered to have a pic I might have been tempted to go drive to meet him!!
 

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Grindr as with any other type of app/website that's geared for instant gratification (ego stroking or hooking-up), usually ends with disappointment. On-line conversations make it difficult to read subtle, non-verbal queues given by the speaker, and therefore doesn't provide an accurate depiction of the conversation. Some people communicate really well on-line but fall flat in face to face interactions. Hiding behind a computer screen relieves people of their inhibitions and allows them to act in ways or say things that they wouldn't normally. We've all learned that 10 inches in on-line speak, is really more like 5 inches - which isn't bad either, but false advertisement leads to disappointment, especially if you were looking forward to mounting a stallion, and you end up with my little pony! (Ha!...I slay myself!) I digress.

I agree with Bashful, in that one has as much of a success rate on-line as in the real world of meeting someone who is dating/relationship material - especially given the porn-star status bar that has been set, that the vast majority of us don't meet, and probably never will. I'm sure that in the beginning sex between Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie was smokin' hot, and now it rates below the Denny's GrandSlam breakfast platter! Lets get real - yes physical attraction is what initially draws us in, but unless you have more to offer, such as brains and personality, you're doomed after the sex glow wears off.

So as long as one utilizes these apps/websites without the rose colored glasses on and the blinders have been removed, and the expectation of success has been set on "normal" mode, play safe, but leave your heart, jewlery, and anything you value at home.

On another note: Don't bring someone you haven't met first, in a public setting, to your home. I've read recently that there has been a rise in robberies, assaults and in some cases murders, where someone just invited a complete stranger to their homes - see Advocate.com, about a young man who was murdered in San Francisco - witnesses stated that they recall seeing someone leaving the guy's apartment building carrying a computer and a flat screen television, unbeknownst that someone had been murdered.

Listen to what your inner-voice is saying, or in some case screaming about a situation you're about to enter into - it just might save your life!

- Kiltiesf