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Bigredlobster

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So been trying my luck on Grindr and apart from a few random odd bods not had much success. What's the best way to start a chat? Is there a magic bullet? I've tried sleazy and I've tried friendly and nothing really works.

In person I'm great at talking to folk but just can't seem to crack this. All hint/tips welcome!
 

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No magic bullet to say but here are a few tips:
Be clear in your profile-nothings worse than a guy saying he’s looking for chat and friends but then sends you his hole pic or vice versa. The clearer and concise you can be, the better. And don’t be afraid to put some personality in it.
Pictures-this goes along with profile but don’t put up sexy shots if you’re not looking for sex.
Starting the chat-“hey” and “what’s up” don’t get you any place and take up time with useless conversation. Try asking a question about something in their pics or profile. Something that’s gonna make the other guy think ok he read my profile he knows what’s up.
Have patience you’ll find your own rhythm and getting what you want in no time
 

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So I did try putting a big spiel on the profile but not many folk seem to read it. I sometimes used to open with a question relating to the bio in a profile or try and be witty but I ended up stopping as even then there was very few replies.

Picture wise I try and avoid the camera unless I'm drunk as I know I'm no oil painting (maybe a Picasso) so I don't have a great collection of non drunk pictures.

There are times though when I do get into a chat and maybe swap some pics and it's the other person that's initiated it and they just randomly delete/block me. It just totally puzzles me.

The other day I was chatting away to a guy swapping pics, arranging a potential meet and when I messaged asking if we were still on the chat disappeared - mental!