groping at work...

[dolfette]

if a female worker flirted with a male coworker,
what degree of flirting would make him groping her excusable?

 

[Industrialsize]

none......any groping at work would be inexcusable........even with the flirting.

 

[D_Madam_Ovary]

God, I think the line is different for everyone here. Personally, that's quite an escalation from flirting to groping. I'm uncomfortable with it entirely unless it was invited... or she laid hands on him first. Which doesn't seem fair when I think about it. Hmmmm....

 

[dolfette]

none......any groping at work would be inexcusable........even with the flirting.

if the guy took the flirting as a sign that a physical relationship might be in the offing...

 

[ManofThunder]

I'd wait until she groped me. Problem solved.

 

[D_Madam_Ovary]

I'd wait until she groped me. Problem solved.

Ha!

 

[dolfette]

I'd wait until she groped me. Problem solved.

at work?

 

[ManofThunder]

at work?

In any professional situation really. If I'm at work and she's flirting with me, I'd wait until she took the offensive before returning the grope. If it's a flirting creature at a nightclub or somewhere similar - I may take the offensive, depending on her body language and reaction to light touching. Why I called the imaginary lady a 'creature', I don't know.

 

[Pendlum]

Her literally asking for it would make it excusable, between them at least. They can still get canned though.

 

[dolfette]

Her literally asking for it would make it excusable, between them at least. They can still get caned though.

fyp to make it kinky and exciting.

 

[The Dragon]

If he had an ounce of common sense and valued his job at all he'd keep it in check and ask her for an after work drink and then proceed with all caution. Pulling that shit in work hours and on work premises is career suicide.

 

[Shawn8]

if the guy took the flirting as a sign that a physical relationship might be in the offing...

IF (and that's a big IF) based on this then groping would be very agreeable ... IF done in a surreptitious manner.
I can tell you from personal experience most co-worker would probably have some sort of issue with seeing this kind of contact. :tongue:

 

[Shawn8]

fyp to make it kinky and exciting.

Definitely both, BUT caution is key here. Not every audience is appreciative.

S8

 

[dolfette]

If he had an ounce of common sense and valued his job at all he'd keep it in check and ask her for an after work drink and then proceed with all caution. Pulling that shit in work hours and on work premises is career suicide.

this gets my vote.

 

[HiddenLacey]

I used to work in an industrial building as the only secretary. I was younger, maybe 20 when I first started working there. Anyway I was the only female in the building and the guys were always flirting. They were all also much older than I was, many of them would smile and be cordial, maybe hang around my office and talk more than they should have, but there was one guy that worked in sales that always used to touch me in some way. Nothing extremely inappropriate, but he would always try to brush against me in the hallway or he would slide his hand just across the top of my shoulder to move my shirt to "see what color of bra I was wearing that day." He would put his hands on my waist if he needed to get behind me for something and once he popped me on the butt when I was putting files away. Honestly, I didn't really know what to do, he made me feel nervous and uncomfortable. I think he pushed the boundaries of what I would consider to be work place appropriate. I never considered being nice to him or anyone there to be flirting. Sometimes being nice to some people makes them think they are getting some type of invitation.

I don't really think anyone should have contact with another employee. Groping is groping even when invited and could cause people to lose their jobs. If the couple are that interested in each other they should take their personal lives outside of the work place.

 

[L_egit]

Nothing extremely inappropriate, but he would always try to brush against me in the hallway or he would slide his hand just across the top of my shoulder to move my shirt to "see what color of bra I was wearing that day."

Trying to see what color of bra you're wearing is extremely inappropriate. Tell him to fuck off.

 

[B_Jordan85]

I used to work in an industrial building as the only secretary. I was younger, maybe 20 when I first started working there. Anyway I was the only female in the building and the guys were always flirting. They were all also much older than I was, many of them would smile and be cordial, maybe hang around my office and talk more than they should have, but there was one guy that worked in sales that always used to touch me in some way. Nothing extremely inappropriate, but he would always try to brush against me in the hallway or he would slide his hand just across the top of my shoulder to move my shirt to "see what color of bra I was wearing that day." He would put his hands on my waist if he needed to get behind me for something and once he popped me on the butt when I was putting files away. Honestly, I didn't really know what to do, he made me feel nervous and uncomfortable. I think he pushed the boundaries of what I would consider to be work place appropriate. I never considered being nice to him or anyone there to be flirting. Sometimes being nice to some people makes them think they are getting some type of invitation.

I don't really think anyone should have contact with another employee. Groping is groping even when invited and could cause people to lose their jobs. If the couple are that interested in each other they should take their personal lives outside of the work place.

you should of brought your gun to work. Or a knife, in Doffette's case.

 

[HorseHung40's]

Why would you do something so unprofessional as to flirt at work? Keep your legs closed, and, focus on your job!

 

[AlteredEgo]

I used to work in a phone sex office. The lines in that situation are definitely blurred. A coworker insisted I feel her implants when I didn't believe her breasts were enhanced. She also showed me that her tattoo finished up inside the crack of her ass. A couple others showed me their hood and/or labia piercings. Many gave me shoulder rubs or neck rubs, and I reciprocated. One of male supervisors would borrow porn from our communal stash, which was meant to help us out during calls without chemistry. If your magazine was sticky or crispy, we all knew why, and who was to blame. It was a huge joke. I had one friend who I'd always take my bathroom break behind hers because I would need to open the window and wipe the sill free of her cocaine remnants. We ALL flirted outrageously with the sexy, young security guards, and if they flirted back, we upped the ante.

None of that seemed inappropriate at the time. In retrospect, none of it was acceptable, not really, even in that highly charged atmosphere. Still, it was the most fun I ever had at work.

Now in the real world, I would think that if anyone flirted with someone at work, the best course of action would be (if the recipient is interested as opposed to harassed) to flirt back once, and ask if the flirtation could be picked up after hours. During the date, if the two would like to see each other some more, the boundary should be set to be professional at work, and do whatever after.

 

[dolfette]

that's not flirting! that's crossed the line of what flirting is a long time ago!!

is it hot in here?

i would define flirting as smiles, looks, laughs and a little unuendo. by that standard, i've never flirted in my life!