Does anybody here is an extra large when is hard, but a average to small when soft? I am a pretty big boy, at least when I am hard, I am 9 inches long and 7 inches round. However when I am soft I am just about average, or let's say small. I friend says that I am big even when soft, but I disagree with that, comparing myself with other people. My problem is, as I always was told to be a big guy, I build a bit of my confidence involving my cock size, meaning that when I am soft I feel like a loser and very embarrassed to have a shower in the gym in front of other guys. I know it sounds stupid, but I HAVE the need to play with myself a bit before going to the shower. This friend tells me that it becomes obscenely big when I play with it, I can't kind of stay in the middle, I guess people think I am crusing or something, but it is only insecurity. I just would like to know, if there are other guys in the same situation, I would like to have similar situations to try to understand and see if in a way is normal. I also think that the best think is to measure it when is soft and post the size of it, then you guys can help me to see if I am a grower or just paranoia!