Grower/shower Dilemma

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I am DEFINITELY a grower: when soft my dick is on the small size (both length and girth) but once semi hard or hard it gets very thick and decently long.

Thing is every time I go to a sauna or sex club I shy away from potential fucks as I feel very self conscious and of course the more I try to get hard the more it doesn't happen.

Does anyone else have the same "problem"? Any suggestions/thoughts?
On a different note: I miss the sauna and HardOn so much!!!
 
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Same mate. I'm pretty small but get to about 7 or 8 inches (never really measured tho) and pretty girthy. Never had any complaints anyway! Plus its always a nice surprise really :D
I posted a story a while back about sucking off a mate a few years ago. Now he was something else... he was soft when I started and could fit it in with room to spare but then his cock turned into a monster. Like I'm taking coke can girth and about 9 inches I'd say. Fuck me he was HUGE! Either way it was hot af!
 
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That sounds hot mate!!! Gosh this lockdown is driving me nuts!
Thing is I had a couple of walkouts after dropping the towel and I think it was due to that:cold_sweat::laughing::laughing: I laugh about it now but one of the guys was soooo my type and I felt...meh.
Also in saunas there is some showing off under the showers which I cannot attempt and it bothers me a bit. I think I could get a lot more opportunities if somehow I could wake Him up LOL
 
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Ahhh try not to be disheartened mate! Bit shallow if some one judges you straight away.... Plus it's their loss!
 
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Yeah but judgement, when soft, when you're in the sauna is a normal thing. I've heard stories from guys who go to sex clubs etc that the bottoms basically go around and give the guys crotches a squeeze to see if what's packing is big enough and choose a guy to fuck based on that.

Not very fair for the guys that are growers. Very shallow but lets face it no one is there for someone's personality, it's just about the physical and the sex, so it is shallow. Still I'd rather pick an average guy, I'd want to kiss until my lips were sore, than a hung guy with a face I'd want to put a bag over.

The only thing I can recommend is keep warm and keep fluffed. A urologist who'd written an article in a local publication said that the difference between showers and growers is in a sheath of muscle that surrounds the genitals. Its job is to retract things towards the body and then inwards. Technically both showers and growers have the same size dicks it's just that the growers muscle sheath works far more effectively and retracts the penis closer to the body. So warmth, relaxing the muscle, is definitely a good idea. Same with the fluffing and trying to be semi aroused all the time. Easier said than done but maybe keep yourself covered up, or concealed, if at all possible, until you've warmed up. I'd imagine that the sauna itself is probably really warm, but between the changing rooms and getting into the sauna I could have ended up pretty chilly and shrivelled up.
 

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That's interesting. I did not know about this! Thanks for posting.
Another strategy that a friend of mine suggested to me is to go to the dark room or a glory holes area get sucked off and repeat when needed. Never tried it myself but he said it works like a charm for him. Might give it a go when this *@#!! Covid is over but never been a fan of not seeing who is about to suck my dick.
 
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I’m the same. I don’t go to saunas and sex clubs, but in the gym, I feel dwarfed by all the dangly dicks!

These days needing a little chemical help to get a nice big boner, I found that Tadalafil gives me extra hanging during the day when I’m soft.

I’m with the OP on handsome and personality and normal sized cock to a double bagger with a big cock!

Perhaps others don’t judge you the way you judge yourself. Be nice to yourself ;)

best x
 

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Thanks mate! I am also in favour of the overall package rather than just the PACKAGE. Saunas clubs ecc are what they are so I try to detach myself from what happens in there. It is just that during this lockdown I am probably overthinking about the past it is good to know about Tadalafil might give it a go and see...TA