We all have seen the guy but very few of us are him. The guy who seemingly without effort scores. The one with the long list of conquests. Who here is like that? When did you realize you were skilled? How do you go about seducing? How do you manage? How many were there? Does it ever get boring?
Honestly, it's a matter of confidence, charisma, brazenness, and just having a spirit that people want to be near. Be naturally you. Don't
try, because people can smell disingenuousness a mile away. Be genuine, be nice, and respect the people that you meet. If someone isn't into it, walk away.
I don't look at the people I've been with as conquests. Don't be a Chad. There are just quite a few people I've met in my life who I was lucky enough to have a shared attraction, and the right timing to have some fun.
Grindr is boring. There isn't any fun for me in picking someone from a list who will say yes and be over in 10 minutes, then leave after they've gotten off. That said, I do use Grindr when I travel. It may be easy, but you can also find someone entertaining. I try to find the gems, not the whores.
I much prefer a long flirtation. Like, a year or more. One guy and I have been at it for over 15 years, and we haven't had sex yet. It is definitely in the air, and we could, but the energy between us is fucking electric and that in itself is worth keeping. I really enjoy a build up, of thinking about them when I am away, and also of making them think about you when you aren't there. Inch by inch, introduce that you are interested, that you find them attractive, and don't be afraid to let that be known. A certain amount of brazenness is hot, but overdoing it reeks of sleaziness. Stay classy.