guy won't look me in the eye

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  1. sleuthe

    sleuthe New Member

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    This guy who i am friends with for some reason when we're talking won't look me in the eye. i just don't get it. maybe shy or rude? we have been friends for about a week i think. any ideas.
     
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    are you ugly?
     
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    It could be many things...cultural or as a result of being shy...if he is your friend..then accept it as part of his personality.
     
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    There's only a coupe of people I can actually look in the eye. I've had friends for years and if they're talking to me, I'll kind of look off to the side or at the ground :p No idea why, it just makes me extremely uncomfortable.

    Maybe he's just shy, or he has some very slight form of autism/asperger's.

    Our family doctor thought I might have slight autism when I was younger, so maybe that's why I never look people in the eye. I've never been tested for it, though, so who knows.
     
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    Do you write sonic the hedgehog fanfiction? That's the primary symptom
     
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    no, some consider me handsome... the thing is we have this connection where for a whole year we never talked and only stared at each other on occasion. now recently we've become friends and i need slight hints to know if he's interested or not. i know he looks at other guys, but that could be anything. any ideas?

    also he is American and he is very smart and talented. we're both americans.
     
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    There could be a zillion reasons he doesn’t and one of them could be that he’s interested in you too but doesn’t want to admit it to himself … or he knows you are interested in him and is trying to blatantly show he has no interest in you. I know that situation sucks as I’ve been there before also. Keep pursuing him, you will find out eventually whether he is interested or not. A few guys it took me months to find out.
     
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    thanks for the advice.. we actually are both in college and the first time we hung out he kept pointing out every girl he thought was cute. i think he was over compensating. i don't know.
     
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    maybe hes a serial killer lol
     
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    that's probably it

    report him to the authorities
     
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    So what you are really asking is: "How can I tell if he is gay and interested in me?" Sounds like you two are made for each other. He is "monkey just can't see" and you are "monkey just can't do". be yourself and be honest with him. But pretending to be his friend to get into his pants so not cool.
     
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    Maybe it is not your eyes he wants to look at... maybe he is more interested in your cock eye.....
     
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