Guys and Girls Who Can't Get Laid

[D_Maurice Mountlilly]

By the way girls who cant get laid. Im not sure it's "can't get laid". I went for a year without having sex once in my 20's because I just decided I was going to wait to find the "right" guy. It didn't have to be serious, I just wanted to make sure it was a guy who was SUPER attractive, with a large penis, and didnt act like an ass.

As far as not getting laid though for lack of a willing partner..heavens no..I can't imagine that.

oh i know what you mean,i'm sort of going through that now(i don't look 37,and i get nothing but college age women comming at me thinking i'm 21-24)
i didn't mean by that person's own choice.

 

[String21]

My problem seems to be a lack of confidence and too much desperation. I mean, I'm a nice guy, and I get along with people really well, once I get to know them, but when I'm meeting new people, I'm shy, don't talk much, etc.

If I was more confident, I think it'd really help me 'get the girl' so to speak.

 

[B_New End]

Looking back from the perspective of 17 years of marriage, there's A LOT of things I would do differently if I were single, and I'm sure I'd be getting laid much more often.

In my experience, you develop a lot of habits when living with a woman. If you ever leave, those habits stay with you for a while, but the mojo starts to wear off, and pretty soon you are back to square one. Shy, no confidence, pretty sure sex is for everyone else. You forget how easy and natural it used to be, and get stuck in a rut. That's my experience.

My problem currently is I'll hit it off with a girl, but instead of just going for it, and forgetting about the morning aftermath, I analyze, "would I be willing to be in a relationship with her" then I get stupid and think something better will come along. I totally blew it with such a sexy thing about 6 months ago. After weeks of seriously hitting it off, the last time seeing her did not go as planned, and my planned "let me get your number so we can hang out this summer" was cut short by her leaving in the middle of the last class.

Then I actually ran into her, of all people, but it was just passing on the street, I just said "hi" when I should have grabbed her and demanded her number.

Some people aren't good at reading signals, so they think that no one is interested when in fact someone is trying as best as she/he can to throw him/herself at that person. It isn't that they can't get laid because no one wants to, but they can't get laid because they can't tell that they had a chance to get laid!

I can tell sometimes... I just like, say something, and then get a response, maybe chat for a minute, then I just walk away as if I am uninterested. I don't know what it is. It's like I feel guilty for wanting to love her as a lover. I mean it never is sexual, (except the girl I was hitting it off with, she turned me on something fierce, something I am not used to). Of course, all I can think about is the uncomfortableness of rejection if meeting them again. I can take rejection, but I'd rather it happen then I never see them again, than be a classmate, or someone on the bus or something.

It's like this: I feel like I am lying, if I am being friendly, but I really just want to eventually see them naked.

Well, thanks for the therapy, everyone.

 

[simbasa12]

For men when you're young, looks can get you laid. After you hit 30s it's all about being successful and personality. The older you get, the harder you have to play the game to be on the team...

Look at serial killers like Ted Bundy and BTK and Green River Killer ...they had wives and girlfriends, and the women were shocked when they found out that their honey bunny was a vicious murderer. It's got nothing to do with whether or not you're a psycho, it's how well you can play the game. It's clearly not women having a 'sixth sense' about guys. Sixth sense, my ass!

The key is this:

Self confidence

cheerful attitude-a laid back attitude works well to a certain extent. Not being pushy.

being a 'people person'-playing people to their personality


For girls that can't get laid, you have no sympathy from me. The ball is ALWAYS in your court. I have seen even the most unattractive, nasty women get laid when they want it. You have to be a real nutjob if you're female and can't get laid if you are looking for it.

 

[Nekoman]

For girls that can't get laid, you have no sympathy from me. The ball is ALWAYS in your court. I have seen even the most unattractive, nasty women get laid when they want it. You have to be a real nutjob if you're female and can't get laid if you are looking for it.

Wow, are you trying to incur the wrath of MANY women around here????

Or do you just not care what people think of you????

 

[wallyj84]

That attitude isn't going to get you anywhere, you must have some redeeming quality right? If this is how you see yourself,everyone else will too,try to be more positive :wink:.

Being defective I lack any redeeming qualities.

 

[String21]

I think you just mostly lack confidence. Which, I understand, 'cause I'm not very confident myself. And it seems that confidence is one of the biggest draws that attract women.

 

[wallyj84]

I think you just mostly lack confidence. Which, I understand, 'cause I'm not very confident myself. And it seems that confidence is one of the biggest draws that attract women.

Confidence, fame and money are th best ways to attract women.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

humor, self respect and a kind soul don't hurt.

 

[Nekoman]

humor, self respect and a kind soul don't hurt.

Second to that. ^^^

 

[Pendlum]

Just give up, you'll never be able to pry wally from his beliefs.

 

[D_Rosalind Mussell]

Confidence, fame and money are th best ways to attract women.

I prefer wit, humility and a sense of humor.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

Just give up, you'll never be able to pry wally from his beliefs.

i am sorry, but i have to say it. i grow tired of the sad sack, self humiliation people out there. i am a big believer in whatever is your thing, go for it, but geez!!!

 

[D_Rosalind Mussell]

i am sorry, but i have to say it. i grow tired of the sad sack, self humiliation people out there. i am a big believer in whatever is your thing, go for it, but geez!!!

Agreed, which is why I don't bother to respond to it anymore. I have no room in my head for such asshattery.

 

[Zeuhl34]

For me, I characterize my basic issues as:
1) A general lack of confidence when it comes to females I'm interested
2) General anti-sociality(?)/laziness that leads me not meeting new people (especially females) too often, which reduces my options

I'm trying to improve on those issues and finally get some, but it's fucking difficult.

 

[Nekoman]

For me, I characterize my basic issues as:
1) A general lack of confidence when it comes to females I'm interested
2) General anti-sociality(?)/laziness that leads me not meeting new people (especially females) too often, which reduces my options

I'm trying to improve on those issues and finally get some, but it's fucking difficult.

At least you acknowledge what's going on. Change is hard, but possible, you need to keep at it.

 

[KTF40]

Why do some people have to pay or advertise to get it?

When you say advertise, I'm assuming you mean by online methods.

In that case,

Paying for sex- If you're a woman, don't really see why any woman would do this. If you're a guy, it makes perfect sense. First, it gives you the opportunity to get laid. Secondly, the chance to get laid to a hot girl that you may otherwise have no chance of being with. And third, you don't have to deal with all the other headaches that may come with a women. As some say, "you're not paying for the sex. You're paying her to leave."

Advertising- As a guy, this is the only way I've been able to get laid, so I think that's reason enough for guys to advertise online. For women, I'm actually surprised most women don't do this more often. As someone who browses craigslist regularly, a woman can get any type of man she wants on there for sex. Whether it's a guy with a 6 pack, big dick, model looks, muscular, etc. A woman has her pick. Seems like a perfectly reasonable route to go.

 

[blackguy1]

For men when you're young, looks can get you laid. After you hit 30s it's all about being successful and personality. The older you get, the harder you have to play the game to be on the team...

Look at serial killers like Ted Bundy and BTK and Green River Killer ...they had wives and girlfriends, and the women were shocked when they found out that their honey bunny was a vicious murderer. It's got nothing to do with whether or not you're a psycho, it's how well you can play the game. It's clearly not women having a 'sixth sense' about guys. Sixth sense, my ass!

The key is this:

Self confidence

cheerful attitude-a laid back attitude works well to a certain extent. Not being pushy.

being a 'people person'-playing people to their personality


For girls that can't get laid, you have no sympathy from me. The ball is ALWAYS in your court. I have seen even the most unattractive, nasty women get laid when they want it. You have to be a real nutjob if you're female and can't get laid if you are looking for it.

You speak the truth. Any female can have sex right now if they truly wanted to. CALL ME A LIAR!

 

[Pendlum]

Okay, you are a liar.

 

[Nekoman]

You speak the truth. Any female can have sex right now if they truly wanted to. CALL ME A LIAR!

Yeah, you're right, but with who? It doesn't mean they can do it with the one they want!