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Do you ever withold sex or oral sex from your girlfriend/wife when you feel resentment towards her? My husband finds going down on me a very intimate and personal thing to the point where he wont do it for long periods of time if he is really tired or the least bit upset at me for something. In the oral sex dept...he thinks more like a woman and i think more like a man.
 

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I don't know that I'd use the word "withhold," which has a bit of a malicious connotation ... I'd never use sex (or lack thereof) to punish my wife.

But I do think it's pretty darn normal for people who are angry at each other not to want to have sex together.

Was that what you were asking??

Steve
 

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I don't normaly withold any form of sexual activity from my partner - I'm so desperate for it I'd have to be a complete dufus. Although once I decided to stop initiating sex and see how long it took her to notice. It took her 6 weeks!!!! before she asked if anything was wrong - that told me loads about her sex drive
 

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I only give my girl oral when I feel like it and/or when I feel like she deserves it. It's alot of work that I dont feel all that much pleasure from and it can some times strain my tongue/mouth and she's got to earn a full session some how.
 

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Yup, I've used sex as a weapon. The girls love sex almost as much as guys do and I have no problem holding off if there is something bothering me, fighting, etc.

I'll have angry makeup sex before shifting back to oral though.

I won't hold out on goung down on a girl just cause i'm tired though...I might not do it for as long, but i'm still down. (pun intended)
 

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Well my sex drive has been higher than his for almost as long as i can remember. So he gets sex probably 3 to 5 times a week without initiating it. So there is a lot of sex that can happen where he *can* choose not to do it many times over.

Back when i had a virtually non existent sex drive due to hormonal issues, we rarely had sex and almost every time i was guaranteed some oral sex.

11 years into marriage i can sense its a very intimate thing that he doesnt always choose to do. I'd say when he does it he thoroughly enjoys it. I feel like a man searching for BJ porn sometimes because i long for it.

Part of it might be that i approach him for sex many times after he is asleep and i dont ask for it because he gets little sleep anyway. I just hear on this forum how much the men love to eat pussy and insist their women cum that way.

My orgasms often have a seperate life from sex, they are mostly brought out from masturbation when he's not home or asleep. I enjoy sex more than i do masturbation so i dont put up much of a fight if i can get that.

So a tired, busy man that works 100+ hours a week doesnt eat alot of pussy even if he gets fucked often from his wife.

I do make hints when he comments on how good the head is, i say "Yeah im earning some myself...."
 

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sometimes when i am pissed i make out like i am going to
go down on her and when she get worked up to the point of wanting
sex i pull out her dildo and use it on her.

this is usually followed by orgasm denial.
 

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If you just give him head randomly, I think he would appreciate that so much he would give you head more. Dont ask for sex after the head just get him used to you giving him head and then letting him fall asleep. It's called servicing, I guess.

He'll love it.
 

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I don't know that I'd use the word "withhold," which has a bit of a malicious connotation ... I'd never use sex (or lack thereof) to punish my wife.

But I do think it's pretty darn normal for people who are angry at each other not to want to have sex together.

Was that what you were asking??

Steve

I'm not a guy, but I'm with you on this. I never purposely withheld sex from my boyfriends, it wasn't a conscious decision. But when I was angry or resentful towards them for something, the last thing I wanted to do was be intimate with them.
 

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I only give my girl oral when I feel like it and/or when I feel like she deserves it. It's alot of work that I dont feel all that much pleasure from and it can some times strain my tongue/mouth and she's got to earn a full session some how.
:261: That's some bullshit there. I would so NOT be putting up with that mess!:mad:


FWIW: They don't call it a blow job for nothing! It is work.
Adam: Come on, give me a little BJ, up and down a couple times, you're done, it's easy!

Samantha: Easy? You men have no idea what we're dealing with down there. Teeth placement, and jaw stress, and suction, and gag reflex, and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey, they don't call it a job for nothin'!
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sometimes when i am pissed i make out like i am going to
go down on her and when she get worked up to the point of wanting
sex i pull out her dildo and use it on her.

this is usually followed by orgasm denial.
:261: is wrong with you people?!?! :mad::confused::eek: Sex should never be used as a weapon against someone you allegedly love and care about. :irked:
 

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You're assuming she's giving me head while I'm not giving her head. From my experience most girls cant give head worth a shit so I dont even let em try after the first few times.

She has to earn it.
 

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I like eating pussy regardless, so I am not really doing it for her. Just like she dont need to tell me to suck on her tits, or bite her neck, I will do that anyway. Oh, I could spend hours kissing every part of her body. I love putting my face on her cold buttcheeks. Im into foreplay a lot.

I dont hold out on the oral thing. Sometimes I dont like it when they pull me up and I am not done.
 

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So a tired, busy man that works 100+ hours a week doesnt eat alot of pussy even if he gets fucked often from his wife.

I do make hints when he comments on how good the head is, i say "Yeah im earning some myself...."

We men can be dense. Especially if we are overworked. Don't hint. I suggest you sit him down and tell him directly that you love giving him BJs, but you also love him eating you out, and would like him to do it more often, and how important and pleasurable it is for you. I think that might get the point across.