Guys & girls attracted to, or not exactly unattracted to, older guys.

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This is a question to all the ladies, the gay guys and the bi-sexual guys, plus my own stance on the matter.

The thought of having sex with an older woman (60 years plus, for instance) is not a turn on. Even if she has kept herself fit and sexy.

Yet the idea of sucking on a 60+ cock has equal appeal to sucking the cock of a younger stud.

Those gay and bi friends that I've discussed this with all seem to agree with me.

We often see younger ladies with older male partners. Ditto within the gay community.

I can't put my finger on the cause of this (maybe it's cuz women begin as generally beautiful but gradually lose it as they age, whereas a cock is born ugly - which makes it somehow all the more stimulating to suck and play with - so ageing isn't such an issue).

Do any of you girls and guys agree?

If so, do you have any additional opinions or insights/experiences as to why?

Or do you disagree?

And if so, why?
 

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Denise - honey - that's not nice. When you're 60 and not getting any you can look back at that comment and feel ashamed.

Hmm STD - you've put this in more genral terms than your similar question in the Women's Issues Forum so perhaps I can try a more helpful answer.


I think it is social conditioning. I think we are regularly presented with images of men in their 50s and 60, and into their 70s, and told that they are still sexy, that it is socially acceptable to find them sexy. This is not so true of women. There are some exceptions, but precious few.

Older actors get great roles in films of all varieties, look at Harrison Ford, ffs. But it is not the same for women - most of the cast of Calendar Girls were younger than Harrison Ford doing the last Indy and yet their sexuality (and that of the real life women they protray) is seen as amusing, or at least quirky, not sexy and NOT normal.

It's a shame. Older women have just as much to offer sexually as older men and yet we're conditioned to write them off for between the sheets fun from (I would say) mid-forties up.- which is nuts, because a lot of women don't hit their sexual peak til then.

So for those of you who don't fancy an older cooch - well fuck ya - there's more fun for the guys and girls that know better.
 
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Sucking a 60yr old cock? Noooooooooooooooo!!!

everybody's got a price......by that I mean older men with money can buy companionship. we've all seen it, straight and gay.

I'm 56 and my cock works better that some of the other parts of my body, and doesn't look any different than it did 30 yrs ago, 'cep it's bigger.
 

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The perceptions are likely tied to biological realities.

As women age beyond menopause, they lose the ability to produce children. Men do not.

The association to desirability probably lies somewhere in the reptilian area of our brains that instinctively fuels our basic drive to reproduce.
 

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The problem is that any man over the age of 30 who would be willing to sleep with someone 10+ years younger than him is batshit insane.

Batshit insane, eh?

I can think of at least one 21-year-old that I wouldn't mind fucking six ways from Sunday...and I'm only moderately antisocial at best. :biggrin1:
 

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The problem is that any man over the age of 30 who would be willing to sleep with someone 10+ years younger than him is batshit insane (correlation doesn't equal causation, but they usually have many issues).

You're talking out of your arse! There are thousands upon thousands of men over thirty who are happily boffing men or (and) women more than 10 years younger than them and the vast, VAST majority of them are perfectly sane.

Issues? Yeah, right! Grow up.
 

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Ehhh. . .

From what I can tell, the desire to be with an older man stems from lack of attention from your father; you want someone with life experience that can teach you, show you and take care of you. The problem is that any man over the age of 30 who would be willing to sleep with someone 10+ years younger than him is batshit insane (correlation doesn't equal causation, but they usually have many issues).

I don't know about you guys, but I really don't want to fuck anybody that reminds me of my parents. *shivers* hughuhguhguhgg. . .

I've dated guys that were anywhere from 16 years older to 19 years younger. Psychoanalysing me, my former or current partners is a waste of time. The only people with issues are OTHER people who think age is the issue. Period.
 

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I think love is hard enough to find anyway. I am tickled when I see the amazing diversity of individuals who find a way to come together. I dont think I have ever dated someone my exact age. They have always been either younger (most of the time) or older.
 

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There is somebody for everybody, i agree with Lex ageism sucks:mad:, i know plenty of older ladies and gents who look great in their mature years , majority also have the class, confidence and wisdom and a damm good value base on how to treat and respect people and be great in the bedroom, i personally do not have a problem with dating or being intimate with a maturer person a lot can be learned from this, as i have.:biggrin1:
 

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My first sexual experiences were with men in their 30s. It's something I deeply regret.

This does not mean that all experiences that you have with men who are older will be negative.

Part of becoming a complete, happy person (to me) is overcoming past traumas while learning from them without letting them cloud your present and future.