What is it with most of the men (and Petite) saying the right stuff in this thread?
I am officially all tingly, CHLuke. :08:
I'd like to butt in and say the wrong stuff then
Giving up control doesn't appeal to me, and my girlfriend has little interest in getting control either. We may be a little on the extreme end of the spectrum, as I don't even enjoy blowjobs much (only for brief foreplay), and neither one of us cares for woman on top positions. I don't think it's to do with any subconscious fears, it just doesn't match our preferences at all. She's really into light submission, and I'm very much into light domination.
The only scenario I could imagine where something like this would appeal to me would concern teasing where I eventually break free and ravish her passionately. And in that case, I'd probably prefer her playing with herself and giving me a show, rather than being focused on me.
Also, I actually did have an ex girlfriend shove her entire hand up my ass gradually during a long session. There wasn't anything dominant about that, and it was actually more similar to massage than sex. It was fairly pleasant up until the last finger, I asked her to keep going mostly out of curiousity
The look on her face afterwards was priceless.
Concerning the compromise topic, we do that a bit differently. I'm moderately interested in anal sex, without it being something I can't do without. I don't feel I'm missing out without it, it's just a small bonus item on the menu. My girlfriend cares very little for it, but will do it for my sake. We tried it once and it was a turnon for me, but I didn't enjoy doing something that she didn't really care for. As such, it's stripped from the list.