Guys, How often do women ask you out?

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Nowadays I make sure I'm the first one to ask. I have been asked out before, but it has always been because the woman is so frustrated at my lack of attempts to initiate anything.
 

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So you guys think it's weird when women ask you out? I don't have any problems doing it. It's rare that a man says "No," though once I was told "I can't, I have Bible study." I thought I was totally being lied to. What I great line to reject someone! Later I found out that the guy was indeed a hardcore born-again. hahaha.
 
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So you guys think it's weird when women ask you out? I don't have any problems doing it. It's rare that a man says "No," though once I was told "I can't, I have Bible study." I thought I was totally being lied to. What I great line to reject someone! Later I found out that the guy was indeed a hardcore born-again. hahaha.

Don't think it's wierd - think it's quite nice :wink:
 

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Never.

Well okay, wait. There was this one time where a girl pretty much asked me out, but I was way too picky back then and didn't really appreciate the broad spectrum of females that I do today.

Then of course there's the two or three situations that I think back on and realize all the signs and vibes were there, but I never picked up on them until years later.

But pointedly asked out, well no. Not that I remember anyways.


So you guys think it's weird when women ask you out?

No. Fuck no. Bring it on. I can't stand this whole "guys are the chasers and girls are the chased" thing. I hate that society has most women totally convinced that it's weird or improper or whatever to be the one doing the asking and that they should just sit back and wait for something to happen. Who was it that said, and this is paraphrased, "Good things do come to those who wait.....but they're only getting what's leftover after the other people who actively went out and got what they wanted"? If a girl wants someone, she should just fucking have it at. Setting aside, of course, the normal things like shyness, fear of rejection, etc. Less tradition and more Sadie Hawkins plzkthx. I totally don't think that a girl that does the chasing/asking is needy or desperate or slutty. It's confidence and aggressiveness and being straightforward with none of this "subtlety" bullshit and it's awesome.
 

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I really like it, it is unusual (mostly). If by asking out you mean a woman trying to get together with me, it's happened just some 4 times in my life. But girls asking me to go out for a day, night, trip, dance out, then it's happened many more times.
Best was once a couple of girls on a car ahead of me at the stop light, they saw me, smiled at me, I followed them to the gas station and talked to them, next thing they invited me to go to the beach for the week-end with them...
 

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It happened to me once, many years ago. A girl who worked at a desk where I had brief dealings every day suggested that we continue our conversation over lunch. She was a very nice girl, and quite pretty too, but I found it difficult to keep a conversation going with her. I already had an inkling of that before she asked me out, which is one reason why I did not ask her out first.

I suspect that taking the initiative is not a wise policy for a woman. I am a chicken-shit of the first rank when it comes to asking women out, but even I would rather that a woman indicate interest and offer me an opening than that she ask me out.
 
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OMG, misread the title; thought it said:
Gays, How often do women ask you out? :redface:
Come on, I bet in your younger day, before you were 'out' girls threw themselves at you. :wink:

It happened to me once, many years ago. A girl who worked at a desk where I had brief dealings every day suggested that we continue our conversation over lunch. She was a very nice girl, and quite pretty too, but I found it difficult to keep a conversation going with her. I already had an inkling of that before she asked me out, which is one reason why I did not ask her out first.

quote] I suspect that taking the initiative is not a wise policy for a woman. I am a chicken-shit of the first rank when it comes to asking women out, but even I would rather that a woman indicate interest and offer me an opening than that she ask me out.
I'm shy :redface: and I fear rejection so I'm not asking a guy out ever. :cool: Now that I know that the smart, handsome, hotties like Calboner don't like that; I probably never will. :cool:

is it really that rare?
Yup, rare as hen's teeth. :biggrin1:

it happens all the time, and it's bothering me because I want a guy asking me out not a girl.
Then you need to move to a city that is friendly to gay people. Salt Lake City is not it . . . sorry. :frown1: