I am on the edge of a relationship with someone really special. 15 years ago I lived with his family for about a year - we were just kids, I was 15, he was 11 - and we were great friends then. Well, we reconnected maybe a year ago and had several reminiscing conversations at that point. Long story short, his wife left him (totally unrelated to me) back in the spring, and we've struck up a new friendship. He's quite heartbroken over his wife (who was his 1st gf basically), and she continues to play games with him, but is living with another man, now out of state, etc. Our friendship began very innocently, but has been progressing every so slowly into a relationship. He is beginning to understand that his wife is really not coming back to him, and he has recently started to more agressively persue me. I'm cautiously optimistic. I think he really may be the one - and he has been careful to this point not to get himself tangled up in a mess, which I very much respect and am impressed with his integrity in the matter. Now, I think he thinks he's ready to move on and consumate a romance with me, but I'm not so sure he is ready. I don't want to end up the rebound chick, and I want to know that he's decided that the ex-wife is really the ex-wife, regardless of whether she decides to come home, before I sleep with him. I have teased him pretty consistently for a while, telling him silly things about how great it would be and how much he'd enjoy it. So now I have a dilemma! I don't want to reject him, and he is fairly shy, so I imagine that when he makes his move, it's going to take all his courage. I think he's close to it, he's really started teasing me back about how much I will like it LOL. He's very old-fashioned and I don't want to look like a slut either. So there's the story. The question is, how do I time this just right so a) I don't look trashy b) I'm not the rebound and c) I'm not rejecting his advances now that I've teased him so much. Oh - and if you all think I must still wait longer - how do I control myself?!?! I want him really bad and I fear that if he kisses me, that will be the end of my willpower and clothes will be off - no turning back!