Guys On Dating Apps Identifying As "anon"

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I'm not quite familiar with this "Anon" scene that I've been encountering lately. I'm hoping that someone here could shed some light. I understand that it's anonymous but is this a type of fetish or new trend in the gay community. I've engaged in 3 separate encounters with 2 different guys. The first guy hit me up on Grindr and his profile picture showed him wearing a hooded face mask with only the eyes showing and little in the information section. The second guy also hit me up on a different app and we met up twice. This guy was into something much more kinkier that involved him being more aggressive and humiliating me in different ways. I agreed to all of this. Now his setup was always at a motel where he'd rent a room by the hour and invite me to join him. Once I arrived he'd give me the room number where I'd walk into a dark room and he'd be naked with a bandana covering half of his face. He'd lead me to the bed because the rooms would often be so dark that I would need time to let my eyes adjust. The sessions with guy number 2 were always a bit rough and only involved me giving him oral and him face fucking me. He'd give me directions and sometimes he'd force me to eat his ass which I rather enjoyed. I was wondering if anyone has engaged in any such encounters. Please share and if you are apart of the scene please shed light on what this "anon" scene is really about.
 

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Anon's are basically guys who are identifying themselves as bi/hetero in their public life but like to have some dirty/kinky fun in secret.
Probably have to be careful about their public persona due to their position or are simply in closet and looking for sex because they can't approach gays like straight men approach girls.
Maybe they just like the idea of "anon sex", man in the streets, sluts in the sheets..

Please dont find this post offensive but I guess most of them are people who I have described.
 

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I know one guy who goes by 'anon' on grindr but only because he fucked with everyone already in the city and its hard to find him someone new + guys hes been with dont want to meet again so this 'anon' thing is his only way of having sex

/anon in his case=you come in his apartment, fuck him in dark and go without seeing his face/
 
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Anon's are basically guys who are identifying themselves as bi/hetero in their public life but like to have some dirty/kinky fun in secret.
Probably have to be careful about their public persona due to their position or are simply in closet and looking for sex because they can't approach gays like straight men approach girls.
Maybe they just like the idea of "anon sex", man in the streets, sluts in the sheets..

Please dont find this post offensive but I guess most of them are people who I have described.

This is very much the vibe that I got from both guys. Especially the second guy who seems to have some more extreme kinks that verge on sexual fetish.
 

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Anon just means people that don't want to be identified. As you've seen, some use masks, some like very dark rooms, etc. There are many ways people can meet and still maintain an anonymous identity.

It has been around for ages. People that would cruise parks late at night, or engage in gloryhole/understall sex, or even go to black-out nights at bathhouses, although the latter is relatively new in the history of anonymous sex.

It just really boils down to someone not wanting to be identified for one reason or another. Usually they are married, or have a job where they can't be compromised in any way. Or maybe they want to engage in that sort of encounter as their kink, and want to keep that side of them as unknown as possible.

Part of the deal with it as well, is the trust they are placing in the other person. For instance, people that cruise on the DL in various ways, assuming the person they engage with will respect the need for discretion. So, say they bump across each other in their normal life, and one guy is with his wife or co-workers, or whatever, there is an unspoken code that you don't engage them in any way, period.
 

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Anon just means people that don't want to be identified. As you've seen, some use masks, some like very dark rooms, etc. There are many ways people can meet and still maintain an anonymous identity.

It has been around for ages. People that would cruise parks late at night, or engage in gloryhole/understall sex, or even go to black-out nights at bathhouses, although the latter is relatively new in the history of anonymous sex.

It just really boils down to someone not wanting to be identified for one reason or another. Usually they are married, or have a job where they can't be compromised in any way. Or maybe they want to engage in that sort of encounter as their kink, and want to keep that side of them as unknown as possible.

Part of the deal with it as well, is the trust they are placing in the other person. For instance, people that cruise on the DL in various ways, assuming the person they engage with will respect the need for discretion. So, say they bump across each other in their normal life, and one guy is with his wife or co-workers, or whatever, there is an unspoken code that you don't engage them in any way, period.
Great explanation.
 
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To the other explanations, I'll add that for some, including myself, anonymous sex becomes a kink in and of itself, long after any need for discretion has passed away. I've been out of the closet for decades, but I still really enjoy anonymous sex and engage in it in several ways, including being blindfolded when having sex, being face down and ass up when having an internet hook up come over (Craigslist used to be awesome for this) or using a glory hole, among others.

Definitions do vary as to what constitutes anonymous sex. For some, hooking up with a guy and not exchanging names or getting to know each other is sufficient. For others, one or both (or all) partners can't know what the other looks like either.

I'm not exactly sure just why it's so exciting to me, though I suspect it has something to do with my Catholic upbringing and my having been taught that sex was something to be reserved solely for the woman you were married to, whom you would know and who would know you intimately. Ever since I recognized that I was gay, I've enjoyed breaking almost every single rule I was taught about sex hard, so I'd imagine there's a lot of that going on.

I do remember the first time I came across something like that. It was my first time in a bathhouse and I came across a guy lying on his stomach in his room with the door open and the lights turned down. I instantly understood what he was after and distinctly remember thinking to myself, "Oh my God, you can do that? How cool is that!"
 
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For years I've enjoyed anonymous sex as many times you know its a one off and you'll never meet again. At glory hopes or public toilets why waste time with introductions when all you both want it to get your ends away, holding a conversation with a cock i n your mouth is very difficult. So those times are anonymous as are the pick ups in cinemas, ion the super market because all either of you want is sexual gratification. Even on the beach with my butt in the air the guy is more intent on fucking me than discussing his family lineage.. So yes, there's lots of it out there, enjoy the feeling of not know who had it in you last night.
 
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