Guys stop talking to me once they find out i've never been with a dude before?

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There are men who want relationships with other men. I have really liked guys before that do not return phone calls. It happens.

As a general rule a lot of men won't call back if they are not 100% into it.

Honestly I advise to not do websites altogether if possible. People lie too much about age etc.

For me I found love when I was least looking for it, and you can too.

Any gay bars or clubs? Some other way?

The best oral I ever got was from an inexperienced man actually. He sucked dick like he was starving for it.

Anyway if I was single it certainly would not bother me.

It is so true that guys lie on websites. I'd always assume that they were 5 years older, 20 lbs heavier and an inch shorter than what they said in their description. I gave into my urge to experience oral sex with a guy about 11 years ago. All of the guys I met were online connections. I would guess the total number of partners I had were about 30 - a few I had many multiple encounters with. I had many good experiences and no really bad ones. There were maybe one or two guys with hygiene issues and a couple that were into things I clearly stated I was not into but they tried anyway (but backed off once they were told I wasn't into what they were attempting - anal, kissing and cross dressing don't appeal to me). However, the thing that got me to avoid online encounters was a hook up with a very aggressive and muscular guy who basically used me as a sex toy. He was well-dressed, lived in a high end home and otherwise seemed like he'd be a partner I would be comfortable with. However, once the door to his home closed, he took charge and started barking commands at me. I was scared about what was going to happen and the fact that he could easily force me to do anything he wanted. In the end, no boundaries were crossed and I actually found myself getting really turned on by being totally dominated. However, it taught me that there are risks associated with going to stranger's homes and that my luck might run out.

Be safe.
 

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It is so true that guys lie on websites. I'd always assume that they were 5 years older, 20 lbs heavier and an inch shorter than what they said in their description. I gave into my urge to experience oral sex with a guy about 11 years ago. All of the guys I met were online connections. I would guess the total number of partners I had were about 30 - a few I had many multiple encounters with. I had many good experiences and no really bad ones. There were maybe one or two guys with hygiene issues and a couple that were into things I clearly stated I was not into but they tried anyway (but backed off once they were told I wasn't into what they were attempting - anal, kissing and cross dressing don't appeal to me). However, the thing that got me to avoid online encounters was a hook up with a very aggressive and muscular guy who basically used me as a sex toy. He was well-dressed, lived in a high end home and otherwise seemed like he'd be a partner I would be comfortable with. However, once the door to his home closed, he took charge and started barking commands at me. I was scared about what was going to happen and the fact that he could easily force me to do anything he wanted. In the end, no boundaries were crossed and I actually found myself getting really turned on by being totally dominated. However, it taught me that there are risks associated with going to stranger's homes and that my luck might run out.

Be safe.

I had a serious boyfriend I lived with lie about his age by 10 years and I only found out because his dad told me. He also did identity theft on me with 3 cards and one to 3 grand. He did it nearly the whole time we were together. This scumbag I met off manhunt.net.
 

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Congrats on coming to terms with your sexuality, Bouncer.
I have two thoughts to share.
One is that if you have only had two rejections (unless there were others that you didn't mention in your post), I don't think that you should give up in frustration yet. Two is not enough to call a pattern and conclude that all guys will reject you because you're a man-virgin.
The second thought is that instead of hiding it and worrying that it will scare people off, turn it around and use it to your advantage. There are PLENTY of guys out there who would be totally turned on by being a guy's first (me for starters!) Play it up and use it as a selling point. Be proud of it. I think that taking that kind of attitude (not necessarily in a cocky way, but seeing it as a strength instead of a weakness) will make you all the more appealing. I think it's best to be boldly open about it in your profile so that you filter out the guys who wouldn't be into that, narrowing it down to the guys who would LOVE to have a piece of your virgin ass/cock. ;-)
Good luck!!
 
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Over the past 6 months I have accepted the fact that I am gay and have gotten to the point where I am ready to start getting involved with guys sexually. I matched with a few guys and ended up meeting up with one, he was really surprised I had never been with a guy before and seemed to be understanding about it. In the end all we did was kiss and I told him I wanted to meet up again and he seemed really interested too. A couple days later I contacted him again and he took ages to reply and basically said he couldn't that day. I messaged him again and he never responded.

I matched a guy a week ago and was talking to him for a few days. I liked him and was really attracted to him and he seemed really into talking to me. The other night he asked to meet up, unfortunately I couldn't but we started talking quite sexually and I told him I had never been with a guy before. As soon as I told him he just wrote 'seriously... wow' and then blocked me immediately.

I was pretty dissapointed because I actually did want to get together with him. I was really attracted to him. This has happened several times now while talking to guys I've matched with. As soon as I tell them I'm not out and inexperienced they stop replying or unmatch me all together.

How am I supposed to meet guys and get experience if they can't be bothered getting with someone who has never done it before? I'm pretty disillusioned right now... does anyone have any advice?

I think the answer is to come out and get some experience, pretty straightforward. Don't do it on your own, there are plenty of support groups/networks around. You have a social challenge, sort that out and make some friendships and connections then the sexual stuff will happen more easily. There are a lot of other things to manage in your life if you are gay - its not just about hunting cock and ass. These are horny guys you have met, the have no responsibility for your social development. It is your life to live.
 

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Hey the reason you don't hear them speaking any more after you tell them you're gay is they've already knelt down and have your cock in their mouths...so not only do no you need to not worry about telling them - but you'll also get experience immediately (....and I'm just kidding with you a little bit here....)