naughty
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I understand what you mean. See my "toilet paper" thread. YOu are "useful" but not valued as a person. As long as you are serving someones needs, and don;t ask for anything in return, you are allowed to exist and be around. THe moment that someone doesn;t need your skills anymore, and are done wiping their shit on you, they flush you away like used toilet paper. And they treat you, before they do, like you are some nasty disgusting thing that they have to get rid of as soon as possible. Those of us who have our "gifts" on the inside--whether it be personality, a giving heart, some useful skill, a good mind, etc. often would LOVE to be fawned over for our externals. Just like those who are only desired for their external characteristics would love to be treated and seen as a whole person, useful, and wanted for the whole package. Unfortunately, people are just damned shallow and selfish. Life would be so much easier if I could just totally not need or want other people in my life, but as much of a loner as I am, I find I really DO want and need those other people in my life. You can either ride the roller coaster, or live in a hole. Doesn;t seem to be any other choice in this life.
Oh David,
Sweetheart it makes me so angry that you feel like this. I hear friends who are so fabulous tell me the same things. The wild thing is the those who run after beauty alone are putting all of their chips on a depreciating asset. I know that does not help you when you are feeling down. but it is true. We are very much influenced by societies ideals. But as you can see there are many people who are considered really attractive who are also going through times of doubt. As I have said in earlier threads, they attract all sorts of individuals and not necessarily those who really care about them. I have two friends (one who is a member here) who were heavy all of their lives and who decided to lose weight. They both assumed that the reason they were not having the life they deserved was because of their weight issues. When the weight came off they discovered that yes they were being noticed but all of a sudden being approached by all sorts of people who wanted to be with or around them for the wrong reasons. The were both angry that all of a sudden they were approachable where months before they were not, and that now it seemed people could not see their wonderful inner qualities for looking at the outside! What can one do ? People can be shallow. Please do not give up hope. I say that to Viking as well. There are many of us looking for our soul mate out here!