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WAIT! Chat with me! It's not sleazy, and neither are you or I! My husband and I have been in an open and honest relationship for almost 30 years. We chat with other men, and we fuck with other men. The only thing we don't do is fall in love with other men. Sometimes we're sleazy by choice, though.A wise member here once told me that if I had to sneak around, I shouldn't be doing it. I don't chat with guys as I have a BF, that's totally sleazy.
Thinking about couples I know who are in an open relationship, it seems to me that their emotional and sexual energies are mainly focused outside that relationship. They'll talk feverishly about their latest crush, always busy planning their next fuck, and kind of ignore the person they are with. You ask how their partner is and they say oh he's fine I think, distractedly. Then it seems to me that there are other reasons why they stay together, usually financial or convenience or companionship. And often one is more 'open' than the other. Nothing wrong with that but it looks a bit unrewarding imo. Love that's turned cold and a bit stodgy.WAIT! Chat with me! It's not sleazy, and neither are you or I! My husband and I have been in an open and honest relationship for almost 30 years. We chat with other men, and we fuck with other men. The only thing we don't do is fall in love with other men. Sometimes we're sleazy by choice, though.
HH30, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. It sounds, actually, like you're describing my parents' 54-year monogamous relationship! I know some great ones, including my own. I wonder if there's something generational at play here. I'm about 20 years older than you, and in part that means that the majority of m/m couples I know in my age group are in open relationships. So maybe I know the ones at have lasted a long time.Thinking about couples I know who are in an open relationship, it seems to me that their emotional and sexual energies are mainly focused outside that relationship. They'll talk feverishly about their latest crush, always busy planning their next fuck, and kind of ignore the person they are with. You ask how their partner is and they say oh he's fine I think, distractedly. Then it seems to me that there are other reasons why they stay together, usually financial or convenience or companionship. And often one is more 'open' than the other. Nothing wrong with that but it looks a bit unrewarding imo. Love that's turned cold and a bit stodgy.
Yes, cynical and drunk and boring someone in some dark cafeHey there, HH30, you're generalizing in a really big way. Sounds like you've been in or witnessed some bad ones.
Lol, you have a point!HH30, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. It sounds, actually, like you're describing my parents' 54-year monogamous relationship! I know some great ones, including my own. I wonder if there's something generational at play here. I'm about 20 years older than you, and in part that means that the majority of m/m couples I know in my age group are in open relationships. So maybe I know the ones at have lasted a long time.
If you think it's cheating then chances are it's cheating. If you can't tell your partner what you are doing then it is definitely cheating. Not cheating would be both you and your partner playing by the same rules. If you can't agree on the rules then find someone else to be your boyfriend.Yup, but with my catholic upbringing my head totally says " be guilty you crazy cheating asshole!". My cock says something else tho!
Thinking about couples I know who are in an open relationship, it seems to me that their emotional and sexual energies are mainly focused outside that relationship. They'll talk feverishly about their latest crush, always busy planning their next fuck, and kind of ignore the person they are with. You ask how their partner is and they say oh he's fine I think, distractedly. Then it seems to me that there are other reasons why they stay together, usually financial or convenience or companionship. And often one is more 'open' than the other. Nothing wrong with that but it looks a bit unrewarding imo. Love that's turned cold and a bit stodgy.
WAIT! Chat with me! It's not sleazy, and neither are you or I! My husband and I have been in an open and honest relationship for almost 30 years. We chat with other men, and we fuck with other men. The only thing we don't do is fall in love with other men. Sometimes we're sleazy by choice, though. [/QUO
HH30, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. It sounds, actually, like you're describing my parents' 54-year monogamous relationship! I know some great ones, including my own. I wonder if there's something generational at play here. I'm about 20 years older than you, and in part that means that the majority of m/m couples I know in my age group are in open relationships. So maybe I know the ones at have lasted a long time.
Water seeks it's own level. "Most of the couples I know" are in exclusive, monogamous relationships. Funny how that works.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, never cheated or had another guy join us in the bedroom. We have a great sex life, but I agree its just nice to chat and get horny, as long as its looking and never touching I dont ever see the issue.Are guys just too horny to have one partner? Urgh... Life is messy and complicated
I chat and enjoy fantasies with other guys, but I never talk about my intimate life with my partner and I would never consider even meeting anybody from the site. Basically it's an outlet for some of the wilder corners of my imagination, without ever leading into anything meaningful. This feels OK to me.