Had a random hook up but i don't think I enjoyed that much.

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Bi guy here, was feeling a bit down and horny so I downloaded grindr and just went for it and met up to fuck a guy, we both came and all but I wasn't all that into it.

I feel like a have to care about someone to truly get horny or maybe I don't like guys that much or random hookups.

Anyone else?
 
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Could have been your mental state going into the hook up? You did say you were feeling down beforehand.

But to answer your question, yes, I've regretted a hook up before and couldn't really put my finger on why. Might be a subconscious thing where you feel like things should be just fine but something in your mind is telling you differently.
 
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Could have been your mental state going into the hook up? You did say you were feeling down beforehand.

But to answer your question, yes, I've regretted a hook up before and couldn't really put my finger on why. Might be a subconscious thing where you feel like things should be just fine but something in your mind is telling you differently.
Yeah, seems to be something like that.
 
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I can totally relate to this.

I get all sorts of doubts - if I have a guy "phase", is that what it is - a phase? Is it because I left a long term relationship with a woman? What if I prefer one over the other - am I still Bi? And so on, and so on.

But these things happen with "straight" hookups too, right?

It'd be good to get a bit of context - but you don't have to share - about how you came to consider yourself bi; because if you're a relative late starter like me, then I think I totally get it.

Will just add - feeling down and horny at the same time is often a recipe for trouble, but I don't think the sex or gender of the other party need be the pressing issue - but it's easy to make it so when you're trying to come to terms with being Bi, pan, etc.

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