Had first (gay) sex today and I'm worried

[Joseph]

Well, you know, sex is not all it is cracked up to be. Orgasms are orgasms right? I mean sometimes it is amazing and sometimes it is just ejaculation, but the difference is like one order of magnitude, not ten. And sometimes having sex with yourself is amazing. Don't denigrate masturbation.

It's just one of those things some people will go to the ends of the earth to bed a particular person. For some people it is all about the build up or the chase I'm supposing. I've never been wired that way. It sounds like you aren't either.

Isn't it nice though to have had that moment of frank intimacy with your friend and still be friends? When I was your age I didn't know anyone with whom I could share that luxury. That's something good, isn't it?
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I had about the same first impression of sex. It can definitely be the person you are with, but it can also be overblown expectations. Like somehow it is going to be mind-meltingly better than masturbation.

Yeah admittedly, now after this, I appreciate masturbation a lot more.

Yes, while it wasn’t as great as we hoped, we are pretty happy we had this experience.

Ok so … to list all possible reasons why it wasn’t good
1) We weren’t experienced – heck, we were not, we were both virgins. Maybe we should do it with someone experienced… and no, we’re friends only, that’s the reason we did it: to experiment.
2) We were friends only – not enough chemistry. We’re friends since years and had thought of it for a long time. But yah…
3) Expectations - We didn’t do it just because people said it was great, but we were interested and we had some expectations from what all people told us.
4) It wasn’t supposed to be that great – Maybe I had the wrong approach to it and I was suppose to give pleasure. I did want to give some pleasure to him, but I guess it mostly was important to me to enjoy it myself (and well my friend admits he was like that too)
5) Not s gay as we thought – Yeah, maybe we’re both just bi curious.
6) Not enough attraction – well I gotta admit, I ain’t a beauty queen and my friend… well he’s kinda overweight, so maybe… Well I’m not disgusted at all, mind you, but… yeah…
7)Just not the thing – true, we didn’t do anal, so maybe… well more experimenting I guess.
8) No shower – emmmmmmmmm ehhhhhhhhhhhh mmmmmmmaybe?

 

[Ohioguy]

Don't know about gay sex, but I do know that you get out of sex what you are willing to put into it. If you want it to be fantastic then you need to makie it fantastic for the person that you are with.

 

[slurper_la]

...I heard that cock tastes “salty”, but that was far more salty than I’ve expected…

a shower before might have helped that. just sayin'

 

[Symphonic]

You have herpes. That explains the unhappiness.

 

[bigbull29]

Not sure what the rest of you looks like, but with a big dick like that you need to have sex more! :wink:

I have to find the right person first. I don't offer my big fucker easily. You have to earn it.:biggrin1:

 

[rbkwp]

Thanks for your comprehensive report (post 22) on all happenings Joseph
Often people give minimal amounts of info in a thread and/or next to no feedback
I think that can be frustrating to contributing members suggestions

Apart from that
i was going to post earlier re my own first experience, that may have been helpful, see no need now.

What i think your thread has achieved as lpsg is a support group primarily, is that you may well have given an insight into a 'first time Gay experience' for others of similar age in particular, to take note of if they wish, perhaps learn from it,improve on there own first attempt, and/or whatever.
ALL Good
Thanks for the sharing of your experience.
enz
may your future encounters (if any) be a lot more rewarding

 

[invisibleman]

Ok. I decided not to talk about my first time on LPSG, however my plans changed after having it…

It was… kinda disappointing. It wasn’t bad, but not really much better than masturbation… we didn’t do anal, we did oral and like nipple sucking.

I do have to say, getting a blow job was kinda ok, had its moments, but the way people described it, I thought it’d be like amazing…. I was positively surprised of nipple sucking, but still it wasn’t that big of a deal. And then when we switched roles and I was the one sucking and it was even worse. God, I heard that cock tastes “salty”, but that was far more salty than I’ve expected…

I repeat, it wasn’t horrible, but I didn’t really like it and I don’t see the whole fuzz about sex now… and neither does my friend with whom I did it. We don’t know what the problem is…. Are we just straight-er than we thought we were? Is it the fact it was our first time? Should we have tried anal sex too? Or did we just have too big expectations?

I used to act all ok with it and happy, but now I do get a bit worried…. Please help me.

My first time was bad. I made mistakes. But over time and after meeting a lot of men, I have realized what I like. And you will in time after meeting lots of people and having sex.
Some people know what they like. And some don't know what they like.

You will have to discover what it is that you like. And you don't have to do a lot at one time. You can do things in small increments. Do some research on sexual and relationship issues at your public library. Talk to your doctor. Knowledge is power. Get all the info you can to make the proper decisions for you...not what others expect you to.

 

[EdWoody]

Nobody gets it right the first time except in fictional stories. Don't let it put you off.

 

[dreamer20]

A first timer's bad experience is not uncommon. Have salty wash away his perspiration before you try this again. Give rimming a try next time.

http://www.lpsg.org/111349-rimming.html

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Give rimming a try next time.

One word: Hepatitis.

 

[ewa123]

Yeah admittedly, now after this, I appreciate masturbation a lot more.

Yes, while it wasn’t as great as we hoped, we are pretty happy we had this experience.

Ok so … to list all possible reasons why it wasn’t good
1) We weren’t experienced – heck, we were not, we were both virgins. Maybe we should do it with someone experienced… and no, we’re friends only, that’s the reason we did it: to experiment.
2) We were friends only – not enough chemistry. We’re friends since years and had thought of it for a long time. But yah…
3) Expectations - We didn’t do it just because people said it was great, but we were interested and we had some expectations from what all people told us.
4) It wasn’t supposed to be that great – Maybe I had the wrong approach to it and I was suppose to give pleasure. I did want to give some pleasure to him, but I guess it mostly was important to me to enjoy it myself (and well my friend admits he was like that too)
5) Not s gay as we thought – Yeah, maybe we’re both just bi curious.
6) Not enough attraction – well I gotta admit, I ain’t a beauty queen and my friend… well he’s kinda overweight, so maybe… Well I’m not disgusted at all, mind you, but… yeah…
7)Just not the thing – true, we didn’t do anal, so maybe… well more experimenting I guess.
8) No shower – emmmmmmmmm ehhhhhhhhhhhh mmmmmmmaybe?

1. If you're not experienced, there will be some fumbling, that's normal, and natural.
2. Friends can have great sex, you have to really love each other though. It can be more about 'playing' rather than being 'in love'. It can still be great.
3. Expectations: don't have any, other than a feeling of eager anticipation. That will make the experience better.
4. You both have to give. And it should be great. But keep in mind that getting a person's rhythm and knowing what really gets them off comes with time, not a one-time deal. So...keep practicing
5. Even if all you are is bi-curious, keep practicing, and I'll bet you'll start enjoying it more or you'll find someone else to practice with that you like better. Or you won't and you'll stop.
6. The attraction factor is key. Your experience will be "blah" if you're not on some level attracted to the guy. I can't currently imagine having any kind of sex with someone I wasn't attracted to on some level. I've been there and done it, and the experience 'felt' gnarly, slutty (not in a good way), and gross, so that you feel ambivalent about it is normal.
7. I doubt any experimenting with any other part of your body will make up for the lack of attract-ed-ness. Skip it.
8. In my experience, cock does not and should not taste salty (pre-cum is, but only slightly). Jeez, no shower? That's the least you could do. "Man-smell" and tastes are not always for everyone; my guy hates smells, so I have to make sure I've showered before we do it. However, I love a little scented musk, but to each their own. Go clean first, then allow smells to creep in!

Good luck!

 

[Chase1600]

Long time since I encountered that salty taste. Not only a turn-off, but part of the turn-on is the man smell and taste and salt nullifies that.

I think you two were not in to one another enough; maybe you’ve been friends too long and too much in ways that are just not sexually exciting for either of you. Most of sex is in the head – the one on your shoulders – and in our fantasy, it’s probably difficult to indulge much fantasy with someone you’ve known a long time, particularly if the two of you are close – and to repeat – you’re not turning on one another.

I can’t imagine that experience has anything to do with it. If you were fooling around with someone that really got to you, I doubt you’d care if the technique was porn star quality or not.

If you guys like, try it again, if not, don’t sweat it. And nobody has to be gay, if you’re not, you’re not, worse things happen, you could be over here and a Republican.

 

[jdoe86]

I've had bad sex with both guys and girls. If things don't work out, they just don't work out. All I can say is try it again with the same person (or a different one if you choose). Just think about the first time you had sex with a girl (if you have), was it "wonderful" or kind of awkward? Odds are your first time will be more mechanical and just going through the motions than something that rocks your world.

As for the taste, hygiene and diet have a lot to do with the salty taste. I've had guys who were salty and ones who had almost no taste at all. I've had girls who tasted stupendous and others who tasted like a garbage can (I can say I refused to go down on them after the first lick). Take a shower together, have him eat some limes (improves the taste of his semen) and relax.

 

[FuzzyKen]

This is not an orientation issue at all. Orientation is far more than just having sex. Orientation is how you respond emotionally and connect with the other person. If you connect with the individual the sex will be good, and has already been said, if the connection is not there it is simply a way to get rid of some stale sperm. The tired joke "anti-climactic" might apply and again this is not an indicator of anything. Exploring orientation is not easy and it takes time, you are going to have to have far more experience than a single sexual contact with both sexes to be able to begin to assess this.

I have a friend who is gay, and yet I don't think that this man has ever had anything good in the way of sex for his entire life. He does not know what really good sex is and that is unfortunate and this is because he is completely unable to make any kind of emotional connection to anyone he takes to bed. He wants sex, but he just simply can't feel anything with everybody. He was abused by a former "lover" and it may have been this situation that made any form of emotional connection impossible for him.

Don't judge the contact or anything in either direction based on what you have done so far, give it time and simply relax and enjoy it. If you meet the right person it will happen for you.

Good Luck. . .

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

And nobody has to be gay, if you’re not, you’re not, worse things happen, you could be over here and a Republican.

Or you could be a U.S. gay Republican, and there's a surprising number of those!