Had my first "big dick" up the ass (8+ inches)

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Hi,

I had sex with this guy on Thursday night (3 nights ago). I still feel soreness deep in my ass, which I guess might be normal but it's definitely not a foreign feeling for me. He was my first real big dick up the ass. I must say that he was pretty amazing. It went in and out really, really smoothly, I was surprised since I always thought my asshole was pretty tight, since I've had trouble before with smaller guys (the biggest I've taken before this guy was about 6.5").

Now with that aside, my problem is this uncomfortable feeling while he was fucking me, like I could feel his dick actually touching somewhere in my lower body below my stomach. I've never felt that while getting fucked before. When it would happen, my sides would feel like they're hurting, it was just every time he penetrated. At one point I was almost in the verge of tears but at the same time it was the best sex feeling. I can't really explain it or maybe some of you know what I'm talking about.

And it was the first time ever in anal that I couldn't get my dick hard the whole time he was fucking me, I guess I was more concentrated on how the uncomfortable feeling is but again, it still felt good at the same time.

Anyway, I just would like to know what he might be hitting and giving me that sensation? Is it normal? Do I just get used to it? Do I just take it like a man?

I would love to do it with him again, but just this anomaly about it is bothering me.
 
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He may be hitting you pueborectalis muscle. It seperates your rectum and sigmoid colon. I will post more info tonight as i must dash to work. Lnow that there are waysbto minimize and possiblybeliminate the discomfort, but in some cases it is there. I promise to pop on and advise. It will be around 1140 pm pacific daylight time when i post.
 

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He may be hitting you pueborectalis muscle. It seperates your rectum and sigmoid colon. I will post more info tonight as i must dash to work. Lnow that there are waysbto minimize and possiblybeliminate the discomfort, but in some cases it is there. I promise to pop on and advise. It will be around 1140 pm pacific daylight time when i post.

Cool. I'll check in, thanks.
 

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Hey. Sorry, I meant to post last night but crashed after work.

Ok, so it sounds like he is hitting your puborectalis muscle. This is ...picture a sling of muscle that constricts around the divide tween the rectum and sigmoid colon. The rectum is about 7 inches long...usually. People vary so the length can vary. In the rectum itself you have three (rarely two, one or four) Houstons valves, or transverse folds of the rectum. They protrude into retcum and are what you sometimes hit going in, that kinda wiggle, "pop" oh there ya are feeling. lol. So fr so good?

So about seven-ish inches in (or less or more depending on the person. I knew a guy who had a short rectum of about 5 inches or so) you get to th PR muscle. Those what people mistakenly call the "second sphincter". It is not true sphincter but acts similar. This is what causes the rectum to bend at an appox. 120 degree turn into the sigmoid colon. If you probe it feels lie you have hi a blank wall, but then you can find the curve and proceed on up.

So what has this got to do with you? Everything. You guy, being of longer than average length, is hitting, or even passing beyond this muscle. If you are not properly relaxed, this can cause anything form discomfort to an almost stabbing sensation. The best thing to do, is to start slllooooowwww, as he gets near it. Tease it open. Yu can help by laying on your side and pulling your knees up to your chest, so in a fetal position. This will help to straighten out the curve and relax the PR muscle. Remember, its function his to hold feces until you get ready to shit from dropping into the last staging area, which is the rectum. So getting into this position mimics the position you would be in when having a movement. You can also be in doggy style and really lean back, or have your legs over his shoulders and him pushing ya into a pretzel, but this way there is more control for him to go slow and really limit how much is going into you.

It helps if you bear down a bit when you feel him reach this point. It also helps to practice with dildos of about his length on your own, to prep yourself and find out what angle, side etc works best for you. Does he curve in any direction?

This sites search function can be...um...shetchy at times, but you may be able to find more info on this here. Or google search. There are people here who have far more education than I in this area and who are 99.9 percent total bottoms. The moderator joyboytoy79 is one. He is friendly enough and probably would not mind if a member shot him a pm with a question. He also knows more about anatomy than I do. The member BBB2.5 is a font of knowledge when it comes to the practical issues of deep anal insertions. The member erratic has very sound info and advice on anal sex.

Feel free to ask me anything on the boards or pm. I d not claim to have all the answers on this (I am giving you advice based on a combo of personal experience and googl search, lol) but I will try. Good luck and I hope I helped some.

ETA: I experience the sensation you described with my current BF though not in every position as he has a curve. If I work with it, I have discomfort if I am not prepared (feels fantastic if we take our time) work against...um yeah, lol Though I do at times seek it out as a pervy pleasure. That riding the line between pain and pleasure. I had an ex who was ramrod straight and close to 7 3/4 and n matter the position, he ALWAYS felt like he was stabbing me. I loved sex with him, but hated it at the same time. If he went ridiculously slow, it ws nice, but the moment he picked up speed? Forget it. My point is, never feel you have to just grin and bear it. Pain is there as a signal. It is letting you know that something is wrong. This is not to be confused with an odd sensation or mild discomfort, which are your bodies ways of saying "ok...that's odd" and "You may want to slow a bit as I get used to this" :wink: anyone who tells you to just suck it up and endure pain is nt worth your time.
 
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Wow, thanks for.all that information, I think that was more than enough but I'll research some more also. I just wanted to understand what I was getting that sensation.

It helps if you bear down a bit when you feel him reach this point. It also helps to practice with dildos of about his length on your own, to prep yourself and find out what angle, side etc works best for you. Does he curve in any direction?

But again, thanks for all that and the tips. I really appreciate it.
 

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My point is, never feel you have to just grin and bear it. Pain is there as a signal. It is letting you know that something is wrong. This is not to be confused with an odd sensation or mild discomfort, which are your bodies ways of saying "ok...that's odd" and "You may want to slow a bit as I get used to this" :wink: anyone who tells you to just suck it up and endure pain is nt worth your time.

great advice, overall
 

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