Thank you but the issue for me is, my hair is very blonde. Wigs in a champagne/beige look pretty fake especially if they are long. I ordered a really good one but my natural hair wavy, even took a bit of a shorter style since it would look more natural but it still looks so fake to me. The week before I bought a black bob that got good reception but it is cheap and not something to wear out for the day. At night I dress creative, feminine, with a little avant garde so I can get away with it then but during the day it is hard to look natural
I always had a lot of hair on my head, it would drive stylists crazy. It was hard when it thinned during the last rounds but I did not have to shave it, just cut it to a shorter style to look even. Then it started falling out more so I wore it in different twist styles. Now I started wearing a wig for few weeks but need to shave my head. I even tried coloring thinking it would look fuller
I asked because during the recurrence, I have been single and dating. I did not have any outward appearance issues so it was easier to save telling someone if I cared for them enough to. I was dating someone and ended things right before my first surgery but he still liked me and we dated again months after. Sex is also important to me and I wanted to understand some of the male perspective of the situation. It hurts less knowing there are people who just can not deal with illness and I am starting to understand
I avoided going out socially for the most part this weekend because of my hair. I missed one of the biggest parties of the year that I was looking forward to. It just felt weird to be around a lot of people looking very different. I have only gone out socially three times in the past two weeks because of it. When I was out friends saw the black bob and loved it but the blonde style looked fake to them too
Now it is the week of shaving my head. It is going to be better than having some hair under a wig that is uneven. It is just hard to decide about walking around with a shaved head, a wig, a wrap, a hat or who knows. I do not want to stop dating either because it is something I enjoy doing. It is the normal things that keep me from being depressed
Hair is so overrated to me. I've had all colors, styles and lengths and even guys who swear by long hair still have complimented me on having super short hair.
Now I embrace not having long hair because it's a part of my persona that helps me stand out. Not everyone has a face to pull it off. When I shaved my hair I was fully expecting the men to be repulsed by it. Instead I couldn't beat them off with a stick. It was such a conversation piece. It showed my confidence and men (and women) were really drawn to that. I relished in the attention I received from it.
But now that I am a Mom, I feel like I can't pull it off without being judged harshly for it. Even though my hair isn't very long now....I still love every inch of my hair I've grown out in the last couple of years. It doesn't grow very fast.
I included a link to a picture of me with a shaved head, how I met my husband who still wants to keep this picture up at work to show off his cute shaved-headed wife. Even though I look nothing like this years later!
But I digress, this is about your hair and feelings of self-worth. I agree when it comes to wigs they often aren't in a natural enough shade. Blonde tends to be too shiny and plastic looking and the hue is either yellow or greyish. I find the same thing with red hair, they are often too eggplant purple, fire truck red or have way too much brown.
I hope you can find something that works well for you. When it comes to wigs, you definitely get what you pay for and if you can go into a wig store and try several one and get a 2nd opinion in the store rather than buying from the internet that is the way to go.
OH i forgot to add even though my hair was shaved I still managed to make it purple LOL
http://www.lpsg.org/attachments/23137d1203549446-do-you-know-how-attractive-purple-jpg