Hairy Body Issues

[digolim]

I wanna share some experience with you guys:

I left my mother’s house wearing shorts and a zip-up shirt, unzipped almost halfway down my chest, to go meet my boyfriend. When he saw me, he asked, “What’s this? That’s way too open.”
Then he zipped it all the way up to my neck, as if he didn’t want to share the view he has of me with anyone else on the street. Maybe it was jealousy.

I can understand that he doesn’t want me to show off too much, but that day I did it on purpose. I was trying to normalize something that, for years, has been a stigma for me. We see so many men with perfectly smooth skin that having body hair starts to feel wrong, disgusting, unhygienic, or something people will judge you for. But in reality, it’s simply part of being a man.

It’s been more than ten to twenty years since my family last saw me without a shirt. I’ve always hidden my body because I compared myself to my brother and my cousins — all of them practically hairless. I, on the other hand, was the “lucky one” to end up with a carpet covering my body. That made me see myself as different, out of place, and so I kept hiding more and more.

It’s awful not being able to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Feel free to give your opinion.

 

[JohnGw]

Enjoy and flaunt it.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I wanna share some experience with you guys:

I left my mother’s house wearing shorts and a zip-up shirt, unzipped almost halfway down my chest, to go meet my boyfriend. When he saw me, he asked, “What’s this? That’s way too open.”
Then he zipped it all the way up to my neck, as if he didn’t want to share the view he has of me with anyone else on the street. Maybe it was jealousy.

Its possible your boyfriend thought seeing you like that was "too sexy" for public!

I can understand that he doesn’t want me to show off too much, but that day I did it on purpose. I was trying to normalize something that, for years, has been a stigma for me. We see so many men with perfectly smooth skin that having body hair starts to feel wrong, disgusting, unhygienic, or something people will judge you for. But in reality, it’s simply part of being a man.

Yes, there was definitely a time where hairless was being made out as "better". I'm so so happy pubes and such are back instead of all smooth. Nothing wrong with being smooth, just was a bit odd/disappointing that everyone was following the trend.

It’s been more than ten to twenty years since my family last saw me without a shirt. I’ve always hidden my body because I compared myself to my brother and my cousins — all of them practically hairless. I, on the other hand, was the “lucky one” to end up with a carpet covering my body. That made me see myself as different, out of place, and so I kept hiding more and more.

It’s awful not being able to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Feel free to give your opinion.

So sorry that happened to you. I love hairy men! Literally no such thing as too hairy. I wish you didn't feel so othered and different growing up and all these years! Easier said than done but please never feel bad about having body hair! Body hair is a masculine trait and natural. There's plenty of people who more like it!

Show off your hairy self! Post pics! You will learn to love it and embrace it fully in time and much more quickly!

 

[sdbg]

Trimming your body hair is an option, and it looks good and feels good. I use a pair of clippers to keep the hair short. A friend buzzes my back for me without a guard on the clippers. Give it a try; it will always grow back.

 

[caddymac]

I hate the itch when trimmed hair grows back. I love hairy men. I am disappointed in that so many don’t like a hairy man showing off his hairy chest.

 

[braziliancub]

Você tem o peito peludo mais bonito que já vi na vida. Não sinta vergonha. Sinta orgulho.

 

[lanricray]

It's the "feminization" of America! (I blame Oprah!)

All of my life, I've ADORED hairy men, and admired men who keep a hairy chest, until...I suddenly notice hair NO LONGER "pouring" over their shirt collar! (Steve Corell...country singers Tim McGraw, Josh Turner...and now, I think TOM SELLECK!). MY GAWD! They've even manscaped LITTLE CAESAR!!

 

[Badcat]

I wanna share some experience with you guys:

I left my mother’s house wearing shorts and a zip-up shirt, unzipped almost halfway down my chest, to go meet my boyfriend. When he saw me, he asked, “What’s this? That’s way too open.”
Then he zipped it all the way up to my neck, as if he didn’t want to share the view he has of me with anyone else on the street. Maybe it was jealousy.

I can understand that he doesn’t want me to show off too much, but that day I did it on purpose. I was trying to normalize something that, for years, has been a stigma for me. We see so many men with perfectly smooth skin that having body hair starts to feel wrong, disgusting, unhygienic, or something people will judge you for. But in reality, it’s simply part of being a man.

It’s been more than ten to twenty years since my family last saw me without a shirt. I’ve always hidden my body because I compared myself to my brother and my cousins — all of them practically hairless. I, on the other hand, was the “lucky one” to end up with a carpet covering my body. That made me see myself as different, out of place, and so I kept hiding more and more.

It’s awful not being able to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Feel free to give your opinion.

did you express all of what you posted here to your bf? Because he should hear these words, if he hasn’t already, not because you need to excuse why you were exposing skin, but because you need to normalize, for yourself, the act of proclaiming your natural body hair to be worthy. The explanation isn’t for him, or anybody else, it’s for you, and for your own comfort in your own skin. And if after hearing all of that, your bf still thinks “you need to cover all of that up,” then he isn’t man enough for you.

 

[Scuttley]

It's the "feminization" of America! (I blame Oprah!)

The hairless thing has been going on a lot longer. Hell, Shatner had to shave his chest while playing Kirk in the 1960s.

 

[lanricray]

The hairless thing has been going on a lot longer. Hell, Shatner had to shave his chest while playing Kirk in the 1960s.

Yeah. William Holden had to shave his chest for "Picnic" in the Fifties, but...I'm talking about the idea that chest hair is "gross" and "dirty" (as some women refer to it), and men being EXPECTED to clean it up "down there" if they want blow jobs from women. They now shave their legs, under their arms...! Whatever happened to being brave, and/or doing something MANLY because "it'll put HAIR on your chest"?!

 

[lanricray]

Not many women were complaining that Burt Reynolds' or Tom Selleck's chests were "gross" back then. Now, women who DO like 'em are probably ashamed to ADMIT they like a hairy chest. Again, peer pressure.

 

[deleted36933931]

my boyfriend used to struggle with the same issue, but rather than feeding into it I encouraged him to not shave and show off his hairy chest and back, which I personally love so if I might add to your situation, I would strongly advise you to have a conversation and not so much ask for his understanding, but his support because at the end of the day, we are in charge of our own bodies and we should feel comfortable in our bodies and love our bodies. I personally struggle with body dysphoria a bit but I push myself to not care and it’s hard, but it helps me to do things that I don’t normally do. My mantra whenever I’m doubting myself is to look at myself and say to myself why not.

 

[Scott1982]

I wanna share some experience with you guys:

I left my mother’s house wearing shorts and a zip-up shirt, unzipped almost halfway down my chest, to go meet my boyfriend. When he saw me, he asked, “What’s this? That’s way too open.”
Then he zipped it all the way up to my neck, as if he didn’t want to share the view he has of me with anyone else on the street. Maybe it was jealousy.

I can understand that he doesn’t want me to show off too much, but that day I did it on purpose. I was trying to normalize something that, for years, has been a stigma for me. We see so many men with perfectly smooth skin that having body hair starts to feel wrong, disgusting, unhygienic, or something people will judge you for. But in reality, it’s simply part of being a man.

It’s been more than ten to twenty years since my family last saw me without a shirt. I’ve always hidden my body because I compared myself to my brother and my cousins — all of them practically hairless. I, on the other hand, was the “lucky one” to end up with a carpet covering my body. That made me see myself as different, out of place, and so I kept hiding more and more.

It’s awful not being able to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Feel free to give your opinion.

Love being g hairy hairy men are hot and normal

 

[Mrdaddy05]

I love a hairy man thats somewhat fit its like a huge turn on idk why

 

[RiisPiece]

I have the hairiest back at the Beach, and usually wear a thong or tiny bikini. I tried wearing a woman's one-piece suit, and a guy said I was too hairy for that, and he preferred to see more skin with the thong suit. My partner & I prefer our furry bodies, nice to feel.

 

[lanricray]

I have the hairiest back at the Beach, and usually wear a thong or tiny bikini. I tried wearing a woman's one-piece suit, and a guy said I was too hairy for that, and he preferred to see more skin with the thong suit. My partner & I prefer our furry bodies, nice to feel.

Yes! Stay HAIRY, dude! You have PLENTY of supporters who ADMIRE you!!

 

[Jerk1975]

Sorry you're feeling this way and in a place to question it. I think you're sexy as all get out, but I prefer hairy men and I would be wanting to look at that hairy body as much as possible. Now saying that is it possible that your boyfriend is covering you up because of his own insecurities. He might be afraid of you getting too much of the wrong attention and someone else will take you away. In my younger days I had issues like that and I wouldn't even introduce my boyfriends to my friends, but of course they were all whores and would pounce at the first chance. But that was my issue keeping them away and staying low key because I was afraid that someone would take him. Now I'm like I don't give a shit at least I don't have to sleep with him. Maybe that's what is going on with him, possibly, him covering you up is his way of saying that's mine. I think you should discuss it and allow each side to be heard

 

[Charlie Albers]

that's an edge you got. shouldn't be an issue. people who look down on masculine body hair are slow.

 

[MattBoyMA]

I'm happy to see the fur making a comeback.

 

[HairyAFBro]

Sorry you aren't feeling confident in yourself. You should definitely talk to your boyfriend about what he meant. Maybe he wanted you all to himself in a good way, maybe he was being controlling for bad reasons. But what he said bothered you so ask him about it.

I get it, I've had time when I felt embarrassed about being really hairy. I usually stand out in the crowd. Took some time before I learned to not let that get to me, and be proud that there was something really manly about me that set me apart.