rainfletcher: Hello, Hapi. I've often heard that the brain is the biggest sex organ there is. This is absolutely true. Women (and men, I assume), LOVE confidence in their partner - nothing is more sexy, regardless of size. I was horribly insecure in my abilities as a sexual person. This had everything to do with my inabilty to achieve or sustain a hard-on, and with my inability to please anyone at all. Regardless of my size, I was a disappointment to every one of my parters.
The key to overcoming it all, was an older woman I managed to hook up with. It took a little time, and a ton of patience on her part, but she convinced me that I OK. It's been smooth sailing ever since.
That's my typical long-winded response (off thread, no less). Bottom line, is that I found the right person to help take the blinders off, but ultimately it comes from within yourself. Take your mind off your dick and see all the positives you have to give, and women will come running. If your a creative, unselfish lover, they'll keep running back. Confidence breeds itself. Once I had a few good experiences, I became more confident, which started this wonderful cycle which continues to this day. I feel like a friggin' Stuart Smaley skit...
Hope this helps. e-mail or IM me if you want...