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Which brings up a good point. As my username implies, I hate condoms but for the opposite reason. Condoms numb all sensations on my cock and I get soft in minutes. Do guys generally last that much longer? Ok, 3 to 4 hours is extreme, but you know what I mean.

I understand the numbing problem. You could try looser-fitting condoms and put some lubricant inside the condom.
 

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Which brings up a good point. As my username implies, I hate condoms but for the opposite reason. Condoms numb all sensations on my cock and I get soft in minutes. Do guys generally last that much longer? Ok, 3 to 4 hours is extreme, but you know what I mean.

I've seen both cases happen. Some guys get soft and others are able to last longer. I think the particular person I was with had sort of trained himself to hold out longer. I'm not sure if he had a previous gf that appreciated all night sessions but I certainly didn't.
 

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It always takes me a long time to cum, except with a new toy I got - it's a masturbation sleeve and I cum in about 10-15 minutes with that. But I've noticed it always take longer, if I can even cum, when I'm with a new partner. I don't know whether it's performance anxiety or what. I can stay hard for a long time (hours), he and I can both work it - but I just can't cum or it takes forever. After we've been together awhile I can usually cum in 30 minutes to an hour.
 

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Girls how do you feel when you have sex with a guy and he can not reach orgasm (as you will)? Have you ever?

Ps : he doesn't reach orgasm but his cock always stay hard.

Medications can really chaneg things down there for a guy, esp. pysch meds.

When I first went on Prozac eons ago, I couldn't come from fucking or oral for more than a month or so. Not even handjobs by myself at first. It started to drive my girlfriend crazy that I couldn't come in her pussy or mouth or even hand. I'm sure she felt like it was her fault, given her comments about wanting me to go off it--no pun intended. Since I could only come from my own hand--extreme jacking off, I started to do it till I was about to come and then have her hand replace mine to finish me off--make her be the one to put me over the edge. Made her feel like she was able to please me, in one way. Eventually my body rewired itself and I was back to normal. Later on different meds, I've had problems "down there" with ability/inability to get hard, too much/too little stamina, orgasm, too high/too low sex drive etc. Each med has been like a new experiement. Not all have worked out, and I have Cialis now--whetehr I need it or not isn't quite known b/c I've been, ahem, without.

Are you on new meds? It's normal to experience changes, and your body can learn to adjust sometimes. It's normal, but read up and talk to a Dr. about it no matter what is up, meds or not. Could be something medical going on with you.
 
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Don't know why, but sometimes it's just impossible for me to cum. It doesn't detract from my enjoyment unless I'm alone. But it's like a big deal for some partners, which is unfortunate.