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  1. Ninja56

    Ninja56 New Member

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    Hi, ladies.

    The general consensus among my female friends is that hardcore heterosexual porn is laughable, tacky, boring etc. Do you agree? Can porn ever be arousing?
     
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    I have about three hardcore magazines and a couple tapes of an ex-boyfriends that I still check out every once in a while. The funny thing is that when I do, I find myself paying closer attention to the images of women than those of men; they're more aesthetic, I suppose. I don't think the basic image of a nude male would do much for me, which is why I'd opt for the hardercore material featuring the beauty of a guy putting himself to good use. My ex-BF and I would watch it together sometimes; it can introduce variety and help keep things interesting in a longer-term sexual relationship.

    On the whole, verbal and literary material is much more erotic to me than visual images. Talk to me, write to me, describe what you've had, what you want, etc. I know that in standardized tests, women tend to slightly outperform men in verbal ability to the same degree men tend to outperform women in visual/spatial ones. Don't know how cross-cultural this tendency is or whether men's preference for visual media pornography is a corollary of it.
     
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    I often wondered this regarding women and porn......do they find it the least bit arousing?
     
  4. Karen M

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    AmericanWoman, we're very much alike. No surprise there I suppose when it comes to this topic. lol

    Ninja56, I don't mean this to be a putdown so please don't take it that way, but men generally are clueless when it comes to what makes a woman tick. There's no surprise in this for anyone, it's something we all know, so let me try to give you just a little bit of insight if I can.

    Porn is a good example of how we're different. A man watches hardcore and becomes aroused by it, but a woman has to be in the mood already - meaning at least a little horny - before she's even interested. If I do watch it, then I too am more interested in watching the woman than the man because I'm identifying with her. That being the case, I'm not going to watch very long before I want to do it, not watch it. Am I making any sense to you? To add to this, I'm not interested in watching fake orgasms either. I find them to be a turn off, I think because I have a perception of a lack of satisfaction. Then there's the fact that they're just fucking, not making love, and there's a huge difference between the two! I need to be able to believe that the subjects have at least some attchment to each other beyond the physical.

    Another good example is nudity, and again I agree with AmericanWoman. The sight of a naked man truly doesn't do much for me. I would much rather see a nicely dressed, good looking man with a nice bulge! I admit, I do look for bulges! But the clothed man rather than the naked one will catch my eye first. In other words, the bulge alone doesn't do it for me. There's soooo much more to it than that!

    I could go on all day here, but I'll spare you that. Have a great weekend! ;)

    :hi: Karen
     
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    Karen, you write, "A man watches hardcore and becomes aroused by it, but a woman has to be in the mood already - meaning at least a little horny - before she's even interested."

    Exactly. Porn is only ever an aid to my mood, not an instigator of it.


    Then you write: "If I do watch it, then I too am more interested in watching the woman than the man because I'm identifying with her."

    Exactly right again. And I'm wondering as I watch her what it must feel like to be in her place, a process which does get me aroused.


    Next: "That being the case, I'm not going to watch very long before I want to do it, not watch it."

    Yep. That's the deal. You nailed it, Karen. :pals:
     
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    What you just said is such an eye opener! I had no idea this is what women were looking for when they watch porn.

    I guess for guys, the picture of two people going at it like "animals" will hit us first, and then later on we wonder if the orgasm was real, etc......
     
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    Well, I'm only speaking for myself, but if it helps to increase understanding between the sexes....

    I'm truly willing to talk about almost anything if it helps someone, but always with the understanding that you're getting my opinion.



    :bigsmile: Karen
     
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    Thanks, Karen. What you said tallies pretty much with what I thought. Actually, this whole "what makes women tick" question is extremely jaded in my opinion. I've never found female sexuality/thought processes all that opaque. In fact, they seem fairly simple most of the time. All you have to do is look and listen.
     
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    I agree with American Woman and Karen. Porn doesn't get me all hot by itself, but it helps make your sex life a little more diverse than the same routine.

    Sometimes yes, it is only good for a laugh........but I think it all depends on what frame of mind your in and what your looking to get out of it.
     
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    Hi there,

    what do you expect? You're watching porn, so this film is about two (or more) people fucking, and all the other stuff is just side stories - so you can't expect much realism, or at least aesthetic storylines from it. I haven't watched much porn by myself, but I have been to several bachelors parties - and I'm from SoCal, which is the Silicone Valley of porn industry (silly-cone meaning tits, silly-kan meaning the computer stuff), and from the porn I saw there, I have to say I got most aroused by feature movies, or compilations, which avoid phony story lines and get right down to the thing. But I agree, the storylines are laughable.

    Bruce
     
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    Ninja, I do like porn sometimes, but this is only my opinion. My chief complaint with porn is that so many of the male stars are not very attractive. Why would I want to watch an ugly guy fuck? Most straight porn is aimed at arousing the male without intimidating him. This is nothing but bad news for the woman!

    I usually opt for gay porn if I watch any. The guys are hotter and seem more into it than in straight porn where the women's orgasms are almost always faked. They also give better blowjobs, so it makes for a good training session.
     
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    It's right what Madame Zora says about guys in staight porn and what straight porn is for, but even though I'm straight myself, I too find these guys a turn-off, rather than being "unthreatening".
     
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    zgirl248: well I used to be in adult industry, so i totally appriciate all the girls and the wonderfull work that they do! Porn is usually what you'll find in my cuboard at home! that and some LOST tapeovers
     
  14. BruceSter

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    Hi Zgirl,

    you mean, as performer? In what movies, if so?

    I'm far away from being judgmental, and everyone has the same chance for my sympathy and friendship, but that aside, it appears to me that 90% of the female porn "actresses" look like clones. A few times, I watched the AVN Awards show when it was broadcast on TV, and almost every time they call up a female artist to receive her award, it's a dolled-up, doll-looking blonde. However, I also learned what's behind that facade.

    I also read Jenna Jameson's autobiography (yes, actually do stuff like that), and after reading it I wondered what the fuss was about. I haven't read enough autobiographies to judge it's artistic qualities, but the content was actually a good read, very insightful. In fact, it changed the 'porn reality' for me, things that are happening off the camera - or behind it - and that the viewer is usually unbeknowst of, are described here, talk about drugs, bitch fights and the atmosphere on a porno set, which is far from being erotic. Well, I couldn't have sex in an air that consists mainly of the smells of detergent, desinfectant, aftershave and perfume. I guess it increased my respect for the girls by at least 300%.

    Bruce
     
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    Bruce,

    Pick up Christy Canyon's autobiography at Amazon z-shops, or on Ebay. It is a decent read and she tells what her life was like from a young girl through at least her first 'retirement'. She is a very open and honest person, and she is not bleached blonde with big fake boobs! (She was mostly brunette with big real boobs!)
    I actually spent some time with Christy when she wasn't on stage or performing (strictly platonic - darn!) and she is a guenuinely nice and fun person to be around. i.e. 'normal' except for the fact she did porn and danced.

    The Amazon link is Christy's book

    If you do pick one up, the 'lapdog' on the fan dedication page is someone I think you might know. ;)

    LapDog :p
     
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    Guy on guy action turns me on, not straight porn. As other women have also posted porn in general doesn't set my mood but adds to it.
     
  17. BruceSter

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    Thanks for the tip, lapdog, I'll surely buy this one. I'm not a big reader, but I'm always interested in unusual personalities, and so I just have to try this one.

    Thanks again,
    Bruce
     
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    Nice insight actually, Zora did hit the nail on the head with ugly guys...makes me wonder why I got fanmail then. :p
     
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    Well, since I'm one of the lucky few that's seen you honey, I cay tell you why- you're fucking HOT!
     
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    I'm not into porn, the sight of ugly men and women who are obviously faking it doesn't turn me on. If I do watch its more for my man than me. I'd much rather watch our home videos, even though it may be crude. My man has a chiseled body that I love to look at.

    However recently I saw a video with Kobe Tai that I really liked. She is Taiwanese (like me!), gorgeous, and has a great body. I got quite aroused watching her trying to handle some of those dicks, I could definitely relate.
     
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