I took a buddy of mine to my gym up in the south Bronx in NYC, a spot I dig cause of its good-looking, seriously built friendly working-class guys- cops, construction workers, parcel delivery guys - who workout hard and exude a masculinity that I find sexy as hell. My buddy HATED the place cause it was "too straight" and prefers gyms in Chelsea or mid-town Manhattan where many of the gay guys workout in the latest athletic fashions, can be flamboyant if so inclined, sometime call each other "girl" and can cruise the locker room or showers for dick. That's fine for those who like this. I never found guys like that attractive or wanted to be part of their social environment. My friend's reaction got me thinking. I went to my first gay bar at age 16. Now in my 40s I've seen how urban gay culture has gone from a campy masculinity (the Village People, the Marlboro Man, etc) to campy feminized stereotypes (RuPaul's show, gay icons like Christina A, or Beyonce who are always women, never men; everything on Bravo). I've met plenty of conventionally masculine guys who like guys over the years, but very few have ever been much involved with the urban gay culture you find in most big cities. Has the public face of gay male culture turned against masculinity altogether??