Has Lpsg Made You More Or Less Confident?

[drainedmt]

I'm not a confident person and I base my self-worth on what people think of me. In gay society where a certain look and cock size are praised -- two things genetics will never grant me -- sites like this can often further depression.

I've hit rock bottom thinking "why can't that be me" or "why can't I look like that" since I was a teen. That, combined with being an oft-rejected minority, doesn't help. It got to the point where I felt suicidal. After that I decidde if I were to have a son, I would choose a white egg donor so that he would not go through the pain I did.

There's obviously a lot of visual stimulation on this site and of course those feelings of jealousy, inadequacy (the "why can't that be me" feeling), and depression creep in. But I'd say more often than not I appreciate the content -- both photos and especially the discussions.

The men (and women) on this site are generally nice and respectful (with the exception of one nasty poster who came from another board to stir up trouble). There have even been a handful of posters who I've met in person and have been complimentary.

So I remain a non-confident person but am more confident (and grateful) for being here.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Way less confident. Since I have been on the sight due to all the negative comments I have received about my body.

That's disturbing.

When I had posted some photos, it basically went in two directions. My album had all compliments, but anything posted in a thread had far more negative and downright insulting responses. And it's not as if I've ever been bragging or conceited.

The comments were ridiculous...one guy complained because a measurement photo, which I clearly described as bone-pressed....was bone pressed. Another mocked my hair, saying it was gray (my head hair IS gray, but this was a dick closeup, and everything down there is simply blonde). I'm overweight, and of course was called "corpulent", told to go to a gym (I actually am very physically active as I work construction).

And of course, despite having correctly measured photos, some douche has to claim I'm overestimating by two inches.

The common thread through all of this? Not one member who was insulting to me had any photos at all. In fact I've rarely ever seen a negative post coming from anyone, to anyone else, who actually had photos of their own. That speaks far more about them than anything they may write about you or me.

Don't be discouraged by insecure assholes.

 

[916416]

Great point on negative comments coming from those who don’t post their own pics

 

[englad]

Yes, I'd say so on the whole. I joined this place as a closeted 19 year. So I started by getting confidence via my body, and the site also helped with confidence with my sexuality. Then I became more confident generally but I don't know how much of the last point has anything to do with the site, probably fairly little.

 

[905339]

A mix of both. Less confident in the sense that even though this is a community for the hung, there is A LOT that is much bigger than I am. It makes me thing that being hung is a lot more often than the percentages often talked about.

However, I’ve received nothing but compliments on my cock and body so that makes me feel good. Makes me appreciate what I have

 

[iamsam4x]

More confident...I'm a lot more of the attitude 'who cares, just make the best of your body, and enjoy your cock'

 

[chiasmj]

I'm recently becoming more confident, mostly because of the work I've put in at the gym and with a diet over the past year. I'm starting to top more and that's bringing up some anxiety from times I was too big to top when I was younger and less experienced.

It's also about understanding that even at 5'7" I can have a cock that's bigger than most even though it doesn't seem all that big to me. I enjoy seeing a guy on here and thinking, "fuck he's big," and then realizing that I'm his size (or bigger).

 

[Thr3Dk1LL3r]

Less. Before i thought women just rejected me. Then I decided to explore my bi side and found out men reject me too. I just dont have the looks and equipment. At least its opened my eyes more.so thats a plus.

 

[halcyondays]

Neither.

 

[Nosuportneeded]

Since I’ve been here, 10years or so have passed and many other things happened. I am more confident in my dick area than I used to be. Don’t know how much of it is accredited to lpsg

The truth is here if you can discern it. I think that has helped me feel shallowly confident about my dick size relative to others.

I don’t know how I would feel if I was small or average though. I am pretty sure that increasing my size slightly with PE has influenced my “penis confidence” more than anything else

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I am aware that my size is way up in the range.

I am aware that this doesn't change who I am, who will like or want me, or who will not. An understanding of oneself doesn't really change how others perceive you.

So in the end, I enjoy whatever small contribution I can make towards helping others better understand themselves, and that helps me better understand myself. It's not about confidence for me.

 

[BigBadWolf84]

More confident in my body....or at least the stuff LPSG likes. I suck at everything else.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

More confident in my body....or at least the stuff LPSG likes. I suck at everything else.

We're stuck with the physical. At least most of the rest can be worked on.

 

[WillB63]

Very true. There's nothing wrong with showing off if you want to. If you've got it, flaunt it!

Now, if you have an account here and you have any pictures of yourself at all, wouldn't that technically be showing off, in a sense?

Love your pics.

 

[deleted716371]

More confident. For size in a sense, but mostly for being in so many open discussions, taking part in so many stories, understanding more about sexuality and eventually how size is a big issue that is a cultural construction that means a lot as a "mindset", but less in a real life relationship.

 

[1727181]

I'm both more confident and crushed. I get numerous compliments that make me proud if what i got. Then i see some of the meat bats around and shrink ever so slightly... Metaphorically

 

[Happy to Go Barefoot]

This may sound weird, but I was always under the impression that most men in relationships (gay or straight) don't ever indulge in wanking/edging ... Well, since joining Lpsg I've realized that all men have solo sessions just about all the time. That made me feel good, as I am a regular masturbator who was beginning to think that he was some rare wanking freak ... I feel like I've cum home finally!

 

[Cum_is_Great]

This may sound weird, but I was always under the impression that most men in relationships (gay or straight) don't ever indulge in wanking/edging ... Well, since joining Lpsg I've realized that all men have solo sessions just about all the time. That made me feel good, as I am a regular masturbator who was beginning to think that he was some rare wanking freak ... I feel like I've cum home finally!

Funny, I have a friend who said "men who masturbate solo having a wife/gf are weird". I asked why and he said something like, "You don't do it yourself, you get her to help you, and you her. I would never masturbate in a relationship." (He never had one btw) And I just chuckled and said "okay."

 

[nicnic]

This place is nice to remind me I'm not the only one with the same curiosities, questions, etc. Does that make me question myself less? Do I like myself more? Not necessarily. Maybe that was never the point. But I do appreciate the positive conversations that happen as a byproduct of people showing up to talk about penises.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I'm both more confident and crushed. I get numerous compliments that make me proud if what i got. Then i see some of the meat bats around and shrink ever so slightly... Metaphorically

It's worth repeating that a LOT of photos and videos on this site are manipulated images. Peruse the $10,000/10" thread...the majority of images submitted are photoshopped, the videos are almost always in an altered (stretched) aspect ratio, with fisheye-type lenses. It's ridiculous.

The number of cocks 8" to 9" is minuscule. Not one among the many thousands of member can prove even close to 10".

While taking pride in anything physical is ill-advised, being demoralized by it is downright silly. Be an excellent person...it goes SO much further.