Has your partner been with someone who is bigger than you?

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by isorryi, Aug 17, 2009.

  1. isorryi

    isorryi New Member

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    i been with my gf for about a year and the sex is the best ive had and she agrees (her cumming 10x to my one time is enough evidence). ive only had one girlfriend before her and the sex was def not as good. lately i dont know how to think about my size. i mean i measure 7.5-8 x 5. sometimes i feel confident but when i see other members on hear im not that confident lol...

    anyway we got drunk and talked about sex and our previous encounters and i found out that shes been with a bigger one. i didnt ask how big because she probably didnt know and doesnt know my size so it wouldnt be accurate. but for her to say it was big and it hurt i know he was definately bigger. she said she didnt enjoy it though and she said im the best shes had.

    have you ever found out youve been with someone whos had a bigger one than yours and how did you feel about finding out? and do you think that she could be lying about not enjoying it?
     
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    All the time, mate.
    Each and every girlfriend I've had in my life.
    Yours sounds genuine though about not enjoying her ex as much as you. Also, you seem well endowed so it's not as if she's comparing her big ex b/f with a micropenis. I mean, someone's gonna have a slightly bigger dong than someone else. YOu're well above average, so dont worry.
     
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    According to my wife she has been with guys bigger than me, smaller than me, and about my size. She says a couple were really big. But hey, somehow I got lucky and she picked me to spend her life with. I enjoy hearing about her past sexual adventures because they are a part of who she is today.

    Your best bet is to always assume she's been with guys bigger than you, because that is most likely the case. Try not to get hung up on it (sorry for the bad pun). It sounds like your girlfriend very much enjoys being with you and it sounds like she has chosen to open up to you about her past because you guys genuinely want to share with each other. Sounds like a good situation to me!
     
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    even if her ex-bf was bigger (which I find hard to believe!), size really doesn't matter unless the person is a size queen. I mean, of course it needs to be something you can work with (the cut-off for the majority of women is usually around 4.5" long, and probably 4" circumference). as I've found out, it's definately about more how you use it. I'm only 6x6, but my gf is definately more than satisfied with me. for the longest time, I thought I was horribly inadequate, and that every guy out there was swinging a hammer (mainly due to porn), and it really isn't true. because the nerve endings stop only about 3 inches in (this means they can't feel ANYTHING past this point, whether they say they can, or not), how deep or w/e you can go isn't necessarily important, it's more what and where you stimulate, and what their mental state is. as far as my ex, I've found out she's had experience with two other guys, but no sex. we were both virgins. one of them was about 5 1/4 - 5 1/2 inches long, and the other (a real douchebag) was a little over seven inches long. none of them were near as thick as I am, though, so I took a bit of comfort in that. as far as how I felt, at the time I was distraught about the idea that she had her hands on something bigger than myself, but that was more because of personal insecurities. I've since gotten over it because I definately know I am more than adequate, and I know she enjoys me every time because she just about falls asleep after we're done because I wear her out completely. I can physically tell that she has multiple orgasms (pupils dialiating, spasms/twitches in the vagina and legs, the disoriented look for about 30 seconds-a minute afterward orgasm, etc, etc), so I know she's not lying. that, and before we started having sex, I told her I never wanted her to fake an orgasm under any circumstance, and she agreed. I trust her enough to not do that to me. we're very much in love, and I keep her pleased in and out of the sheets, so I don't spend my time worrying about another meaningless inch and a half or two or three that some other guy may have. it took me a little bit to gain full confidence in my abilities, but I definately don't worry about it now.




    Joseph.
     
  5. isorryi

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    its funny because everything you just said feels like its something i have said or thought lol. yea when i found out this guy was huge immediately felt insecure. i always was curious too because i would hint about it and refer to my own penis as small and she would just say "your fineeee". (which i guess is a good thing but i felt that whenever someone says that, theyre just being nice. which might be the case if it werent for her intense orgasms that assure me it is indeed "fine" lol.) so then i knew there must be someone who was bigger for her to say things like "its fine".

    i disagree about the 3 inches of feeling they have because i know that when i really want her to cum hard i try to hit the bottom of her vagina and press really hard. she says it hurts but feels so good. so maybe this is what made me feel insecure when she told me about the bigger experience shes had.

    also i think most of my insecurities come from lacking in the girth area because i know this is what most women enjoy the most. so im definately jealous of your 6 inches around lol.
     
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    hachikid

    It is true what you say that "the nerve endings stop only about 3 inches in", but quite a lot of women have different types of orgasms made more intense when they are completely full down there. The thin line between pleasure and pain.

    Basically a big cock, especially if thick, maximises by far chances of orgasm. Again: there are big cocks out there that are totally useless, so it's no guarantee that it provides female orgasm, but it helps. A lot. Source: every girl I talked to about it.
     
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    Yeah, my exes have been with bigger men. And they have enjoyed it--they haven't looked back to dating me. I felt bad...but what could I do about it. There are men that are bigger. I can't do anything about what my exes wanted. People do whatever they want to do. But I don't have to tolerate or like what they do.
     
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    the "full" feeling you talk about is just a mental thing. of course they are going to feel a thicker cock because it stretches the parts of the vagina with the nerve endings, but not necessarily a longer cock, assuming their vagina can accommodate it. and yes, some women get off on pain, but not a whole ton. that's with the whole "size queen" thing I touched on.

    first off, you're not small. lol, trust me. and your dick is still plenty thick. look at it like this, you aren't like a pencil! and if that still isn't enough to satisfy your ego, your dick works VERY good for her. apparently well enough to make her cum 10 times! I haven't been able to manage that...yet! ^_^

    and as far as her having really intense orgasms when you press really hard, also remember that your pressing up against her clit, her g spot, and the tissue with the nerve endings with more intensity, and there's a possibility that you're hitting her cervix. some women enjoy that feeling, too. not too much, but just enough (my woman enjoys it, too). it's a medical fact that the majority of a woman's vaginal nerve endings end around 3" in. it may vary from woman to woman, but this seems to be the majority.

    as far as size, I'm getting my information from a friend in Texas. her and I were talking about the subject of what it feels like for a woman, and she said it is definately more about how the person uses it, rather than the size. she said it's sort of vague down there, she doesn't really feel anything specific, "just pressure" (her words, not mine". she went on to say that as long as your within a reasonable size (around 4.5-ish), you're set. she's had a few guys with sizes ranging from 5 inches to about 7.5-8 inches, and she said she didn't notice a physical difference, more of a difference in how the guys operated their equipment. I've come to terms with that there are people out there with bigger dicks than myself (I've fooled around with one that outright shamed me, a little over 9"), and I'm sure there are guys out there that could pleasure my woman better than I can, but she doesn't care about them, and she doesn't want them. she wants me, and only me. and it's the same on my side. there are women who I find that are very attractive, but I know I have something special with my woman, and I could care less about the other women when it comes down to it. I wouldn't trade her for anything. it took a little bit to come to this point, but if you're just looking for sex, don't let your feelings get hurt if someone can do it better than you because that's true of anything. if you're looking for actual love and a solid relationship with a person you can trust no matter what, things like an inch here or there won't matter. just like I physically prefer taller women with a bigger chest, I don't really care about things like that when it comes to my lady (she's 5' 3" and has gorgeous b-cups) because of everything else that we share (connection, history, love, etc, etc).

    so, I think while sex is an important part of a relationship, it's still just one part. you have to be good at all the other stuff to keep the relationship fulfilling and so forth, and what happens between the sheets will follow suit. I can definately attest to that.




    Joseph.
     
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    The guy my wife dated before me was 6'4", I'm 6"0". I used to assume he was bigger but never saw his cock or asked. I guess what counts was that she dumped him and married me. Worked for 10 years and sex was not the issue in divorce. End of story.
     
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    Every woman he has ever been with has had bigger boobs than me. :biggrin1:
     
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    ^I was thinking of bringing that up, but I figure other guys would say it was an invalid comparison.



    Joseph.
     
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    i always THOUGHT girls had been with bigger guys. I'm very insecure about myself in general... it took about 6 girls telling me i was big and the biggest they had before i actually believed it. So for the first couple of relationships/ nights with girls that i had i had just always assumed that girls have been with bigger ....

    I just tried to make up for by lasting longer, and giving them an experience to the best of my ability ... and that just led to me getting better and better at sex and have an bigger than average penis ...

    so in the end i say, if your the best she's had ... then you're the best she's had... and your size is nothing to frown at at all... think about all the girls you've BEEN with and the poor guys who had to follow your act ...
     
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    I've had two ex-girlfriends who've had partners bigger then me, one said it was uncomfortable for her and the other said the guy was long but thin. My bf has told me that he's been with a guy who was big but the sex was terrible.
     
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    When I was younger, I was with a woman who'd fit right in on this board, and the first time we did it, she said to me afterward, "How come you weren't surprised I had a clit ring?" I said, "I didn't think it was that big a deal. Why didn't you say anything about the size of my cock?" "Oh, I was broken in by a double-fister."

    Now, she didn't specifically say it was bigger, but that's how I took it at the time, and I thought it just made her hotter.
     
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    I've gotta go with what Johnny has said. My girl has been with bigger as far as length goes, but none thicker than me. But even knowing that, I wouldn't want that to change. Everything she has experienced in life has made her who she is today, and the person that I love. We are together now, the sex is incredible, and we love each other. I don't mind hearing about her past experiences. I love that we're open and honest with our thoughts and feelings. And I love hearing that although she's had more experience, she wishes I could have been her first and only. Makes me realize that while this is my first relationship, I'm doing a good job. Couldn't ask for anything better.
     
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    Or he could have really small hands.:eek:
     
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    Wait, at 7.5-8 x 5 he's supposed to assume that she's been with guys bigger than him because that's most likely the case? Girth wise it's possible, but that length is very long in the real world. A possible guy or two who was maybe bigger doesn't exactly qualify as "most likely the case that she's been with guys bigger than you".

    Unless any person is actively seeking a very large cock in the 8-10 inch length range or the 6-8 inch girth range it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY that they will ever find one that reaches both of those maximum ranges, let alone either one of them just by chance.
     
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    I'm currently seeing 3 women, and I'm sure at least one has been with a bigger guy (maybe all of them for all I know). I don't see why it should matter if you're the biggest she's had or not. As long as she's happy with your cock and you're enjoying the sex with her, who cares if she's fucked a bigger guy? Just keep fucking her, make sure she cums a lot, and don't worry about it.

    -Ranger
     
  19. isorryi

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    i guess its just the element im in. you see i live in NYC but wont be specific...and lets just say everone knows everyones business. so if a guy around here is well hung, girls talk about it and they get a reputation. it just seems that every other guy has a proclaimed "huge dick" here and it never helped my insecurities. i wasnt always this big. im 21 and that is my current length. i was actually not as insecure until i found out that my ex-gf was with a bigger man. and i guess it didnt help to find out that my current gf was with one as well. when it comes to being a good boyfriend, i try my best to give my girl the best whether its sex or not. so when you hear that shes been with a "HUGE" dick, its kind of a shot to your ego and you start to think your is not as good (i know im definately not alone on this matter considering were all on a forum about penis sizes). both girlfriends have said it was very thick and wide and very painful, talking about the "HUGE" dick they encountered (both of spanish decent as well). but i always felt like they told me that not to hurt my feelings lol. especially if they saw the expression on my face when they both said they had a hard time walking the next day...
     
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    the ones who've bothered to mention it usually say i'm the biggest in SOME way...if not overall, then either longest or thickest. was once told i was the biggest white guy she'd ever been with (or seen), so i at least won my demographic there. lol! only know for sure that a couple haven't had bigger than me since. it's nice to know when it's true, but it's not the end all be all of my sexual abilities so i don't get hung up on it.
     
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