Guys I have an update to my original post (below) and the news is not good... It took a few months but my lover, after seeing several doctors, got to a specialist..He was examined extensively and told that I have stretched out his inner sphincter and that the skin between his inner and out sphincter is very, very weak and 'soaked.' The specialist told him that the size of my penis was the cause and that he will probably never be able to have anal sex again... To say the least, we are both schocked, saddened and, for him, scared. Have any of you ever heard of this? Can you point us to research or medical literature about it? I have done a Google search but turned up little. And please, no more smart ass replies. This is a time when we both really need real support. I have posted the original inquiry below for those who haven't been following this Many thanks. Hi guys, I have a serious inquiry that I hope will get some responses....I'd appreciate serious answers only as this isn't a laughing matter.. I've been seeing a guy sexually for a little more than a year now and care about him alot. Besides all of his other great qualities, he is one of the few men who has been able to anally take my penis (a real 7 inches around, not Internet inches) for as long as I like to give it... Unfortunately, he, after the first few months, started developing, for lack of a better word, some anal seepage or leakage...commencing the following morning after we have sex. He went to a physical therapist about this and when he told her the size of my penis, she said she thought that that was probably the cause. He and I were hoping it was something else (kind of lube used, the positions we have sex in, etc.) We tried all kinds of lubes, positions, etc but the outcome is the same (he feels a small amount of liquid seeping from his behind and an unpleasant odor...he feels then, naturally, embarassed in front of colleagues). I was away for two months and, thus, we did not have sex. The problem remained though a little less intense. Now I am back and we have had sex only twice (in the last few days) and the problems have intensified again. MY QUESTION to both bottoms who have xxl hung boyfriends or sex partners or even the tops who are xxl hung (and by that I mean also very wide and fat): have you come across this problem and if so, was there any kind of solution? I would appreciate any feedback. I don't know where else to turn.