Have You Always Known Wether Or Not You Wanted To Marry A Man?

krazioso13

Superior Member
Joined
Mar 2, 2020
Posts
613
Media
0
Likes
2,876
Points
188
Location
Waukegan (Illinois, United States)
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
as a laidback gay men, the answer to your questions are yes and yes. even though i grew up in a catholic family and what not, especially since my parents are latino...they've always pushed things that are for women, for men, and more so. example is..the wife stays at home to cook, etc.

so even as an 8yo, i knew i wanted to have a husband. the smiles it brought me thinking of my husband and im cooking for him and being a wife made me so happy too. sure..ive gone through many changes..but that still holds true. i also dont mind being the breadwinner, so to speak, or being the stay at home dad.

now, thats all romantically. sexually, i learned that FTM turn me on a lot..guys who had vaginoplasty too. and also, only one women ever in my life, have i wanted to plant my gay cock balls deep in her and squirt every once of cum in her. i wanted to eat her pussy and more so. shocking turn of events..took me a while to be accepting of that new part of me..as i had no one to talk to about it

which leads me to an off topic...theres a straight irish dude who im having trouble with. im being patient as he must be in shock of being straight his whole life n having feelings for me. so its something i wont take lightly...i actually really like him a lot a lot. i mean, i bake him cookies. i dont do that for anyone
 
  • Like
Reactions: miker875

Brodie888

Worshipped Member
Joined
Dec 10, 2015
Posts
3,058
Media
0
Likes
12,707
Points
233
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
If you are bi, but only see yourself falling in love and marrying a woman, it may suggest that you are prejudiced by social conditioning.

Perhaps you meant to say you are bi but you are more attracted to women?
 
  • Like
Reactions: miker875

OKCLane

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Sep 27, 2012
Posts
1,922
Media
307
Likes
6,655
Points
383
Location
Oklahoma City (Oklahoma, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
We flew to NYC shortly after it became legal to marry. We were the first couple in our very large group of gay friends to get married.
A female relationship has never been in the cards. Period.
In my teens I grieved that I would never have what heterosexual couples have. Then I accepted it and moved on with my life. My first serious partner and I had a backyard ceremony and exchanged rings in front of our friends. We both believed marriage would be legal one day but not during our lifetimes. He passed and I’ve been with my husband since about 2000.
My husband and I hoped it might happen but were surprised at how quickly things changed and jumped at the opportunity to be legally wed.
I’ve always been certain in my sexuality which is not the case for every gay man. My husband was married to a woman and I’m thrilled to be a stepdad and grandpa. I won’t judge anyone’s journey but for me marrying a woman was never a choice.
 

cedarizzo

Superior Member
Joined
Apr 15, 2013
Posts
1,495
Media
34
Likes
6,513
Points
533
Location
Champaign, IL, USA
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
Ever since I was a kid and knew I was different from most people (gay), I have always pictured myself married to a man at some point. And since it has become legal, I have given it some really serious thought. But I've been with my current partner for 10+ years, and I have no desire to marry him. I would have considered it for the other 3 serious relationships, but the current partner isn't husband material to me. He has a hot body, great in bed, 15 years younger than me, and he makes me laugh constantly. He is a people person and can walk up to anybody, start talking and be an instant friend. I'm not like that, I am much more guarded and I don't make friends easily, but the ones I make are really good friends. He has hinted a few times at getting married, but I always laugh it off. And when I realized I wouldn't marry him, I really started doubting my relationship with him. But we are still together. I still love him but I just don't think I could marry him.
 

miker875

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Dec 17, 2019
Posts
146
Media
63
Likes
6,271
Points
388
Age
48
Location
Monkton Ridge (Vermont, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
I've always known I was gay since I was kid. And growing up, I always wanted to find that special someone that I could share my life with and get married. I had a long distance relationship with a Danish guy and thought that was going to happen, but it didn't. Then I had a 2 year relationship with a really masculine guy that was younger than me. We had talked about it back in the day but our relationship was toxic. Dated around and finally found a guy that was the one. We lived together for a while and he popped the question and we ended up married 2 years later. Still together and I wouldn't trade him in for anyone else.
 

malakos

Superior Member
Joined
Oct 29, 2012
Posts
8,358
Media
30
Likes
6,518
Points
223
Location
Cumming, GA, USA
Sexuality
No Response
Gender
Male
... can only see myself marrying...

... being with... both romantically and sexually?

To be clear, you're conflating two questions that are not necessarily related.

Some people are interested in having a romantic and/or sexual partner, but have no interest in marriage.

On the other end, some people are interested in marriage, but don't see it as particularly related to romance.
 
  • Like
Reactions: deleted1074483

JonSomebody

Worshipped Member
Joined
Sep 20, 2017
Posts
1,019
Media
0
Likes
16,439
Points
308
Location
Ohio (United States)
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
I never gave marriage a thought even though since coming out a gay man...I have been proposed to a couple of times...but did not take any proposals seriously until my late partner did prior to his sudden passing. In fact...we were in the process of finishing the last minute details of the wedding and was preparing to marry the following month prior to his death. Once I got to the point of facing the fact that he was gone forever...I packed everything that was associated with the wedding in two huge boxes and taped them with very strong reinforcement masking tape and placed them in the back of the closet.
 

OKCLane

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Sep 27, 2012
Posts
1,922
Media
307
Likes
6,655
Points
383
Location
Oklahoma City (Oklahoma, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
I never gave marriage a thought even though since coming out a gay man...I have been proposed to a couple of times...but did not take any proposals seriously until my late partner did prior to his sudden passing. In fact...we were in the process of finishing the last minute details of the wedding and was preparing to marry the following month prior to his death. Once I got to the point of facing the fact that he was gone forever...I packed everything that was associated with the wedding in two huge boxes and taped them with very strong reinforcement masking tape and placed them in the back of the closet.

I’m very sorry for your loss and pain. My previous partner died unexpectedly too. We were joined in a ceremony because marriage was not yet legal.
I was helped by sharing letters with a friend who was also suffering a loss. Phone calls were possible but the letters were more personal and powerful if that makes sense. It was a good outlet for my grief and we comforted each other.
The letters turned into a daily event and were the highlight of my day. I couldn’t wait to open his letter and read about his day and always found comfort in his words.
Four years of daily letters turned into a marriage proposal. This is our tenth year of marriage.
I won’t pretend that your journey will be like mine but I send you love and hope. I look forward to the day when you can open those boxes and smile at his memory.
Peace be with you - Lane.
 

JonSomebody

Worshipped Member
Joined
Sep 20, 2017
Posts
1,019
Media
0
Likes
16,439
Points
308
Location
Ohio (United States)
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
I’m very sorry for your loss and pain. My previous partner died unexpectedly too. We were joined in a ceremony because marriage was not yet legal.
I was helped by sharing letters with a friend who was also suffering a loss. Phone calls were possible but the letters were more personal and powerful if that makes sense. It was a good outlet for my grief and we comforted each other.
The letters turned into a daily event and were the highlight of my day. I couldn’t wait to open his letter and read about his day and always found comfort in his words.
Four years of daily letters turned into a marriage proposal. This is our tenth year of marriage.
I won’t pretend that your journey will be like mine but I send you love and hope. I look forward to the day when you can open those boxes and smile at his memory.
Peace be with you - Lane.

Thank you so much for your response..I'm sorry for your loss as well..I really appreciate it..JS
 
  • Like
Reactions: OKCLane

Me23

Experimental Member
Joined
Sep 25, 2017
Posts
6
Media
0
Likes
6
Points
38
Location
New York (United States)
Sexuality
Unsure
Gender
Male
I think the question is; if you're bisexual, can you live (when you get married) without having sexual relations with the same sex? If you can't, can you find a woman who's willing to share you, just sexually? Which is an incredible feat for a relationship and a woman like that are hard to find. But if you can live without having sexual impulse for the same sex, then I think you are good to go to live happily ever after.
 
D

deleted1074483

Guest
as a teenager in the 70s with no role models and living in rural england it never occurred to me that i'd be anything other than married with kids to a woman - first time i had sex with a woman i began to doubt that scenario, first time i had sex with a man i knew that wasn't going to happen and i considered what it would be like to be a married gay man and thought that is what i wanted. 3 long term partners later i know i am sexually and romantically attracted to men but no longer sure i want or need to be married.
so not sure there is a straight or definitive answer to this one - depends on a lot of different factors?
 
  • Like
Reactions: OKCLane