How any man can cheat on a woman with such amazing hamstrings is beyond me.
Hamstrings?
I don't see any hamstrings.
Am I missing something?
Care to show us some hamstrings?
How any man can cheat on a woman with such amazing hamstrings is beyond me.
The sex part of cheating does bother me a little, but the lies and the betrayal are far worse. Seeing dreams come crashing down and realizing that you gave your heart to someone who obviously doesn't value you, care for your emotional well-being, or want a future with you, that's hard to take. This person that I thought that I loved didn't respect me at all.
I understand what you are saying and appreciate the emotional impact. However, why does extra-martial/relationship sex have to equate to an END. An end to the relationship, 'dreams come crashing down' as you said. I believe the problem is that we are socialized to place such value on sexual commit in a relationship. As a result, the 'victim' suffers emotional pain. I am not advocating free-love, go fuck who ever you want, I am just saying that perhaps too much value is placed on sexual commitment/monogamy. If you and your man have been together for 10+ years, and he had two random sexual encounter with another woman while on business, let's say, does that mean that you are worthless to him, or that he did not value you or your future. Sex and attraction are powerful forces that at times get the best of us. There truly are many other significant dimensions to a relationship, sex is only one of them.
Yeah, except I'm a guy. Why does no one get the Vargas and WWII reference in the avatar?
That's an excellent statement about no faces (vagina or penis) & you'd hope they'd be better looking or at least it was better sex or size. My ex cheated with a fat fucking idiot and he was half my size.Yes. Made me feel like someone just punched me in the stomach. We eventually got back together but it never was the same. I've always been careful about my feelings so it was really bad because he was the first that I truly opened myself up to. It's been a while since we've separated but now my hope is to find the same but I doubt I will ever have the same level of trust that I had with him. Only time will tell.
Funny thing is the women he cheated with wasn't good looking. I always assumed that if a man cheated it would be someone either younger or prettier. I was so wrong. Oh well, as one of my elderly female relatives once said "pussy doesn't have a face."
Excellent thread and questions.Ok, there's been tons of threads asking if you have cheated, and what seems like some trolling around here about cheating fantasies, so here's the other side of the coin.
Have you been cheated on? If so, how did it make you feel? Like shit? Or it didn't bother you?
I don't mind it at all, and in fact have told her that if she feels a need for something different, go right ahead, I just ask that I know about it.
Anecdotal experience, however formative or disturbing, cannot be construed as proving any deeper "universal" truth.I think being cheated on was one of the most formative moments of my life. Prior to it, I had a very naive view of women and their mentality, rose tinted really, which was contributing to an ongoing mental struggle I had with abuse from women in my adolescence. When you get cheated on by the woman that left her man for knocking her up and cheating on her, it opens your eyes to the reality that a lot of women, like I had known about men for yrs, are shit individuals, independent of how you treat them.
It hurt at the time, and I wasn't strong enough at the time to immediately sever the relationship, but it was a valuable learning experience and definitely empowered me later on.
I never said it was deep, it was just a removal of blinders. It's a lot easier to live in peace when your vision isn't obscured.Anecdotal experience, however formative or disturbing, cannot be construed as proving any deeper "universal" truth.
It's a bit like saying "a conservative is just a liberal who's been mugged."I never said it was deep, it was just a removal of blinders. It's a lot easier to live in peace when your vision isn't obscured.
And yet there is a marked difference between a mugged liberal and someone whom takes a tragic event as an excuse to screw people over.It's a bit like saying "a conservative is just a liberal who's been mugged."
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